Jealous Sister in Law Copies Every Aspect of Woman's Life, Including Pregnancy

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    TWO TAKE r/TwoHotTakes u/Awkward-Item443 • 14h AITAH for getting pregnant before my "SIL" Advice Needed
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    I 26F have been with my boyfriend 27M for 3 years now. He has an older brother 31M who has a girlfriend 30F. They have been together for 7 years minus the 6 month breakup they had over last summer. A big enough breakup she moved out of their house. They got back together just before Christmas.
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    I have an amazing relationship with my boyfriend's family. I get along perfect with his parents, brothers, and even his grandparents. The "SIL" is the only one in the family I just can't seem to get along with. I'm also not the only one. My "MIL" has never liked her and always had a bad feeling about her even more so after they got back together. My "SIL" acts extremely jealous of the way my boyfriend treats me. She always makes jokes about what I want I get.
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    My boyfriend loves to spoil me and we have a more traditional relationship where he is responsible for finances and I'm responsible for maintaining the home. Her boyfriend makes her split everything 50/50. She also copies me all the time now. It started small with always trying to get the shampoo/ conditioner I use. Buying my signature perfume scents. She's now made it a point to take on some of my hobbies she never showed interest in or even made fun of me for enjoying. She now likes reading, t
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    Jump to January me and my boyfriend found out I am pregnant. It was unplanned. My IUD came out without me knowing but we both knew we wanted children and were so happy with the news. His parents were the first people we told and they were happy as this is their first grandchild. Once we got a few appointments in we decided to start telling more family. We started with the older brother and his girlfriend. "BIL" was so happy for us however his girlfriend's reaction was giving me the dirtiest look
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    a single word to me besides bye as we left. The next day she sent my boyfriend a long message apologizing. She told him about her struggle with endometriosis which everyone knew about and just turned the situation to be about her feelings in the moment of her being sad and angry it's not her who's pregnant. I'm not evil I feel for the girl but the fact that she didn't apologize to me the one she directed all her actions at I me off. It was my final straw and I blocked her.
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    A few days later I guess she noticed. She reached out to my boyfriend again and requested I unblock her so she could also apologize to me. After reading what she had to say I lost it again. I didn't hold back and I told her how self centered she has always been and I'm done playing into her victim mentality and making everything about her. It went back and forth for the day. Honestly it felt good to just tell her off after years of dealing with her messy behavior. We say hi to each other at fami
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    Fast forward about 3 months and she texts me one morning asking about my pregnancy. I respond thinking maybe she's trying to come around and make an effort to be a decent human being after some self reflecting. I should have known it was to turn the conversation around to be about herself. She wanted me to be the first one to know that she found out she was pregnant that very morning. She also told me about every single vitamin she took along with what she made my "BIL" take and about all the tr
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    Everyone is They agree that it was wrong for her to reach out to me first and it was weird of her to rush a pregnancy she knows would be high risk. They still just got back together too what are they thinking bringing a child into the mix?!
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    My "MIL" has been planning my baby shower since we found out. I'm due late September and my shower is early August. The SIL dropped a bomb at family dinner last week that she's already sending her shower invites out this week. She is planning a baby shower two weeks after mine even though she is not due until the end of December. Now "SIL" is upset because my "MIL" suggested she waited until October or November to have her shower. "SIL" said she doesn't want to do that because people won't buy h
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    Now my "BIL" is calling my "FIL" complaining that my "MIL" is giving me all the attention and leaving out my "SIL" and her pregnancy isn't getting any attention from the family. Am I the for getting pregnant first? 664 B ✓ ☑ 222
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    Contribution Ornery29 • 14h NTA. You need to tell her that you really aren't keen on pushing this weird competitive streak onto the next generation and it would probably be best if you two went back to not knowing each other. Tell MIL to only pass along slightly changed details if she really feels the need to comment to her about you and your child, and apologise but say that you think she'd be a terrible influence on your child and too much stress to exist around while pregnant. Reply 573
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    Awkward-Item443 OP. 13h I am annoyed at the thought of her being around my child. I just know she has so much negative energy towards me so she's bound to hate my child too. She will NEVER be left alone with my child. MIL was the one who advised me to be as short with her as possible and leave personal detail out of it. Basically yes/no answers. The only reason me and MIL are so tolerant is because we both see the bigger picture of the family being together. Before it was easier to manage her be
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    hollowl0g1c 13h NTA. But girl keep those baby names under lock and key because she absolutely sounds like the kind of person to use your childs name for hers. ... ← Reply 342
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    NTA childishbambina • 14h Your SIL is a whacko who's clearly attempting to copy your every move. Don't tell her any baby names because she might just take those as well. Reply 115
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    Gadgetskopf · 11h Or make sure to talk about all the names you've been thinking about (not) naming (while leaving the 'not' unspoken). "We're not fond of 'Constance', as it's just not 'enough', so we're leaning into "Incontinence" pretty hard. What do you think?" ... ← 22
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    Fredredphooey • 14h Obviously NTA. I recommend that you have a friend babysit her throughout your shower and if she starts. to say that she has an announcement, your friend drags her out of the room. Reply + 88 ↓
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    Awkward-Item443 OP 12h • My MIL already said she is going to be on high alert and will shut her down and have her leave. MIL told SIL and BIL that she does not want her making my baby shower about her in any way. No pregnancy announcement or gender reveal. They are scheduled to find out the gender right before my shower. 94
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    Busy Weekend5169 • 13h I thought someone else was supposed to give the shower, not the one pregnant. Oh well, just ignore her and be unwell when her shower rolls around. But send a gift. I really don't like being around people like her. Reply 34 ↓
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    Awkward-Item443 OP 12h • My MIL brought up that someone is supposed to plan the shower for you. SIL response was nobody will throw it for her. My MIL was about to offer until SIL unwillingness to change the date and the comment about people not buying her stuff around the holidays. ... 44
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    Hminney • 12h She might not be pregnant, she might want the baby shower early before the absence of bump is obvious, because she wants to be centre of attention. ← Reply 23 ↓
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    picklesquirter • 7h Start looking for the ugliest, most obnoxious baby furniture, clothing, supplies and text her how much you LOVE them. Make her think your whole baby theme is JUNGLE! Then watch the show. After your child's birth. Block her. She adds no value to your world. Reply Ŵ7 ♡ 73

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