‘You're either greedy, entitled, or delusional!’: Man's entitled ex-wife antagonizes him because he didn't spend entire $1280 cash gift on her and her new husband's home

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Aug 3, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

She's demanding he pays her for the remaining $256, even though it was never her money to begin with: "So let me get this straight: I owe me my money?"

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  • Amicable divorces are very much possible in this day and age. After all, you spent a good amount of time living with and caring for this person, possibly even having children, and at one point, intended on building a forever life with them. Not every fairytale has a happy ending, but it doesn't have to get petty, greedy, or entitled without good reason. When there is only one amicable person in the divorce, they often get the short end of the stick and end up regretting being kind to their ex-partner in the first place.

    The man in this story was gifted £1000 (roughly $1280) by his nan and mother, and he decided to put this money toward materials for the house he owned, which his ex-wife and new husband currently occupy as per the divorce settlement. He describes their relationship as fairly amicable, so he is unsure of the mistake he's just made. He spent about half the money on painting supplies, flooring, wallpaper, and other miscellaneous DIY products, then by the end of it he was left with £220 (roughly $286). He spent the rest of the money on himself, as this was his gift, and then the storm brews. The ex-wife starts demanding that he pay her back the £200 (roughly $256), confused that he dared to spend her money. It's obvious that in any case, the ex-wife is the one who owes him a large sum, so he gets fed up. After over a year of constant badgering, he had enough of it at her family BBQ. Scroll to read the rest of the story and get more context about why she's staying in his place.

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    So let me get this straight: I owe me my money?
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    About 8 years ago, my Nan was told that she needed to spend money. In a 3 year cycle she would give each of her children £3000 in turn. When it came to give my mum the money, she said that she didn't need all of it so gave me and my brother £1000 each, keeping the other for herself. I thanked her profusely, and said that it wouldn't go to waste as I'd been planning on doing some work to my house.
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    I then told my ex-wife, who was the occupier of my house. This turned out to be the second biggest mistake of my life. We agreed that I'd buy the materials and any of the tools that we needed, while her and her husband did the work.
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    I spent the first £500 very easily on paint, wallpaper, flooring and so on. Then there were little purchases - screws and fixings, new mains sockets, and so on. I paid out for a small multimeter as mine died, and I was suddenly left with £220.
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    The work progressed, and no more demands on my money were made, so I used it on myself. Naturally, a week later, I was asked to buy some flagstones for a new patio. I told her that all the money was gone. She went ballistic.
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    How could I have spent ALL the money? Where did it go? She wanted to see the itemized receipts. I promised her! We had an agreement! I shrugged it off and simply told her that I had spent some on myself.
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    Again, mistake on my part. How dare I spend her money, I now owed her £200 and she was going to get it back.
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    Almost daily, I'd get a text from her asking when I would transfer the money. The day before payday, I'd get a reminder from her that I owed her £200. Each time I dropped the kids off or collected them, I'd be reminded.
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    After about six months, these became simple reminders on payday, and after about a year, they had tailed off completely, until about a year and a half after mum gave me the money, when she held a BBQ.
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    I arrived for the BBQ, and her parents, her siblings and a couple of her friends were there. We were all sociable enough until someone mentioned how nice the garden looked.
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    She said "Yeah, but it's not finished as <me> still owes us £200 from over a year ago! We're relying on that to finish things off." Her husband also chipped in "He's not even done any of the work"
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    All eyes were on me now, disapproving thoughts running through their heads. I sighed, then decided to end this once and for all.
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    "I owe you £200 do I? £200 out of that £1000. Out of that £1000 that my mother gave me? Listen to yourself for a moment please. I was gifted £1000 and decided to help you. I spent £800 on this house that you live in and now you want more. You're either greedy, entitled, or delusional!" I put down the drink, turned round, and left.
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    I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall after that, because strangely it's not been mentioned since.
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    VILLE LACE OF . 88mistymage88 23h ago Why is your ex-wife and her husband living in your house?
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    Large-Meat-Feast OP 23h ago • I can't charge them rent because of the mortgage. Yes, they take the p*** and then some. Ex is one of the most entitled people I've met, and can go from 0 to 100% Karen over as little as £1 She still thinks that she controls me, but I just brush it off and ignore her which she absolutely hates.
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    thejerseyguy • 23h ago I don't understand this at all, we need to know why your ex AND her husband live in a house you own?
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    SnooBunnies7461 • 22h ago Talk about no good deed goes unpunished. Your ex is beyond entitled. I think you handled it perfectly in front of her family and friends. I'm sure she told them something totally different before this.
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    sheworelace • 13h ago Why would you even tell your ex-wife about the money let alone continuously blow off 3/4 of it on a house she occupies? LOL
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    SSNs4evr 19h ago • There's your 3rd mistake. After telling them your side of the story, you were supposed to get another plate of food and another drink. You were also supposed to make a special detour, to trample on any flowers that may have been there, along the way.
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    Honest-Ad7096 • 18h ago . Why isn't her new husband paying you at least 1/6th for rent? I get that the divorce decree basically lets your ex (not your ex and her new husband) and kids live there until the last one reaches 18 and then you can do whatever you want with the house.
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    SadSack4573 • 12h ago Bravo! Perfect stage and perfect audience and perfect exit!
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