‘He clearly had a taste for something different’: Woman's Ex Husband's Affair Partner Has Audacity to Reach Out to Her about Decor Choices in her Old Home

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jul 26, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

Her taste in furniture was the one that got away.

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  • When a relationship comes to an end, it's important to end the relationship as amicably as possible. And when you can't end it amicably, you completely cut contact. It's sort of an unspoken rule that when your husband has an affair and you completely end things as a result, the “other woman” should not reach out to you for anything if they have every intention of staying with the man. After all, they both scorned you. Even if you've accepted your fate and have made peace with the outcome of the distressing situation and betrayal, it can still be a sore spot.

    The woman in this story ended things with her husband after finding out about his affair. She mentions that the marriage was over before the affair, so she's basically made her peace about the situation. She moved out of the house they built together, and the affair partner moved in. The woman gets a message from the affair partner (and now new fiancée, asking about where she sourced her furniture and other miscellaneous decor. As a result, the woman asks the affair partner to stop attempting to imitate her, as she is the chosen one and the woman who is with him now. The husband is coming for the woman's response, accusing her of not being amicable now. Read ahead to get the rest of the story and opinions from the therapists of Reddit.

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    AITAH for telling ex's fiancé she can off for asking me for decor tips
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    My (42f) and my ex (47m) divorced 1 year ago. Shortly thereafter, his girlfriend (aka affair partner) moved into the home we previously shared. I told
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    him to keep whatever because I went to live abroad and basically just wanted out. I wasn't even mad at him for cheating. It was a marriage and his affair being exposed became the catalyst for our divorce.
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    So we got divorced and she moved in. We hadn't talked after because there was nothing left to discuss post divorce. Then a week ago I get a message from
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    her. It was really upbeat and "oh I like the style of the house so much. Where did you get this fixture and this pieces of furniture". I sat with it for a day and finally decided to message
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    her that since she had it all figured out, she could figure it out. She asked what I meant and I told her she obviously had everything my ex could ever want and I was the one he didn't want, so she shouldn't try to imitate me. He clearly had a taste for something different.
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    She messaged me back saying she way trying to pay me a compliment. Then my ex text me saying we were amicable before and he didn't understand why I was causing an issue now.
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    He's right that we were both over our marriage, but I felt like her trying to take over where I left off aesthetically was too much. My friends and family are divided. AITAH?
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    EDIT: Thanks so much for the responses and kind words! Gave me the clarity I needed and some thoughts about the situation that hadn't occurred to me. Went ahead and blocked them both.
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    May they live long and lucky in their tastefully decorated home! I'm still reading through responses, so if I need to update or clarify, I will later on. Thanks y'all!
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    dryadduinath · 1d ago Part pant [3] Sounds like she's trying to make friends! Which is pretty messed up, tbh. I would go ahead and block her.
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    And if your cheating ex doesn't have any reason to be able to contact you, like shared assets or children, I would go ahead and block. him too. Just because you're not mad (or weren't mad) that he cheated, doesn't mean he didn't do something awful and it doesn't mean he's a good person to have in your life. Much like his sidechick. NTA.
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    bestbettsie • 1d ago Enthusiast [6] That is just plain weird. Why would your husband's affair partner even think you would want to talk to her? She contacted you over nonsense; she deserved whatever you chose to tell her. NTA
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    FireBallXLV 1d ago . [31] She wants something but it's not decorating advice. I suspect she thought complimenting you woulds give her an opening to ask about whatever she really wanted to know/pursue. NTA
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    CandylandCanada Supreme Court Just- • 1d ago [124] NTA. I'll just bet that she was trying to make nice. She didn't care about your feelings or input last year, so what's changed? It would be entertaining to have Mr. Wonderful explain, in detail, how you declining to help her is "causing an issue".
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    They deserve each other. I wouldn't solicit the opinions of your friends and family any longer if this is the type of response that you could expect from them.
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    Red Holly 1d ago NTA. You should have just blocked her. Honestly I wonder if he's already cheating on her and she was trying to reach out to you for advice. Once a cheater always a cheater.
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    . Pillowprincess_222 · 1d ago NTA. Affair partners usually become obsessed with the people they scorn. Block her now before it gets worse.
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    voxetpraetereanihill • 1d ago NTA. That's some kind of nerve there. Or a complete lack of self awareness. Block her number. And his, for that matter.
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    Background-Interv... . 1d ago She doesn't care about aesthetics. She was fishing for an open to ask you something else. That was just an attempt at conversation starters. NTA. Block them both. There's nothing of value there.
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    Roylbex • 1d ago Wait, you have friends and family that are split about this? OP ONLY the ones telling you your NTA are your friends and family, the others are his. It's absolutely Ridiculous for her to contact you, NTA!
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    opensilkrobe · 1d ago Sounds like she felt guilty for being a homewrecker (even though y'all weren't in love anymore) and tried to make herself feel better by being friendly to you. NTA. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
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    Ambitious_Lawyer... • 1d ago Oh good grief! This takes the cake. Perhaps you could have said that a second- hand furniture shop would be perfect for her style.
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