Woman's Husband Purposefully Ignored Her Emergency Call When She Was in an Accident, Sparking Her to Consider Divorce

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Aug 7, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Welcome back, lovers of internet drama. One of the greatest cellphone features ever introduced is Do Not Disturb mode. DND keeps your phone silent amidst all sorts of notifications-- phone calls, text messages, and annoying app update alerts. It is truly a lifesaver for those of us who are easily distracted and will use any and all excuses to pick up a phone and start doom scrolling on Instagram. You can even set DND mode to start and stop automatically at specific times in the day or night. 

Do Not Disturb mode is not infallible-- calls and messages will still go through if they are considered to be emergency alerts. Amber alerts, natural disaster or weather warnings, and SOS calls from people who have designated you as an emergency contact should still notify you even if DND is activated. This was the case in today's story, wherein our protagonist's husband received an emergency notification but actively chose to ignore it. Read below how this husband's obsession with staying uninterrupted led to a fatal mistake that might cost him his marriage. 

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  • 01
    r/relationship_advice u/ThrowRA_lisabee ⚫ 4d My husband (35m) ignored my(32f) calls after an accident. Should I divorce him?
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  • 02
    I (32f) am married to my husband ((let's call him bob) (35m) for 6 years. Everything is fine between us except this habit of his which lead me to write this post. He has the habit of not listening to people when he is busy, and just lift the call, say he's busy and cuts the call.
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  • 03
    This never was serious until 2 months ago. I was driving in the middle of a jungle, a route which was less taken because of frequent accidenta due to animals hitting the vehicles. It was evening, I was returning after caring for my sick sister, who was in hospital. It was getting dark and I had kids at home waiting for me, and I started worrying because even tho my husband is working at home, he gets busy with work and doesn't care about anything else.
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    I was driving under the speed limit but was in a hurry, and it was kind of raining. Suddenly an antelope ran across the road and jumped on my car, making me to swerve off the road and hitting a tree. I hit my head pretty hard and my vision became blurry. My right hand was not moving so I grabbed the mobile and pressed the sos button, where my sister and my husband are my emergency contacts. My husband received the alert and ignored it. I tried dialing 911 but I think I fainted. I woke up in a ho
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  • 05
    They told me it may takes me many days to go home and I will need someone to be with me. I spent the night crying feeling hopeless and lonely. My husband appeared the next day late in the morning. He told me he was sorry, he was too tired and went to sleep after turning his mobile off. This wouldn't have bothered me so much if I had not mentioned him the importance of being available on calls for emergencies hundreds of times before.
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    I did not want to see him. My sister got well and came to my hospital with her husband after 2 days and I went back to her place after a few another days as my spine injury needed someone to help me with my chores.
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  • 07
    My husband is now upset thinking that I will be divorcing him and is texting me non-stop. Him thinking of divorce made me consider if it is worth living with him because the thought of dying alone someday just because my husband is not answering phone is scary. Should I consider divorcing his him? Btw kids are also at my sister's as they are calling a babysitter so that my sister can be with me ↑ 7,847 1,581 3 D
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  • 08
    compassionfever • 4d I think this: "I had kids at home waiting for me, and I started worrying because even tho my husband is working at home, he gets busy with work and doesn't care about anything else."
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  • 09
    says more about why you should divorce him. Sometimes we make mistakes. If it was just this one time he was just so tired he turned off his ringer...that would still take time to get over because it was so scary, but not necessarily indicative of a larger problem. But the above quote shows this is MO. This is who he is. You can't even trust him alone with the kids, so much that you took a gamble on your safety and lost.
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  • 10
    His main character trait is that he has zero regard for anyone else. He has no respect for the people he just hangs up on. He only cares about what he chooses to care about when he feels like it. That's not a marriage. That's not a family. He is supposed to be your life partner, and he failed you for no other reason than he's just used to being able to get away with it. Reply 14.2k
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  • 11
    Mapilean ⚫ 4d • Exactly. He only freaked out because he realized that he did it one time too many and risks losing his wife. But is he going to change? I doubt it. 1.2k
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  • 12
    Empressoftheforsaken ⚫ 4d . Clearly he didn't care about losing his wife enough when she was in an accident and could have died if a stranger didn't happen to pass by, but only when he realizes that if she divorces him he is going to be alone and having to do all the things she is currently doing for him (I am assuming based on his behavior about being selectively caring about certain things). Terrible human being! ... 560
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  • 13
    Blonde2468. 4d No, he'll spend what little attention he gives her trying to convince her it was no big deal, she overreacted, etc. ... 259
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  • 14
    Ok_Fox_2799. 4d "You're overreacting" is the new "stop being hysterical". It's a way to diminish another's (usually women and girls) experiences. 247
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  • 15
    Key_Discount_9355.4d Early 20s Female This is exactly what i thought too. Anyone can make a mistake one time while being tired and letting their phone silent but she told him many times before to have his phone on him for emergencies and this is the consequence of him not listening to her and he knows it so now he's scared she will leave him, rightfully so.
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  • 16
    She knows deep down she can't count on him to keep her children and herself safe and this accident should be the wake up call she needs to divorce him and find someone who will care about more than just himself, or just be on her own with the help of her family because that's still better than being with someone who just keeps disappointing you and doesn't care enough to do anything about it. ← 109
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  • 17
    त Hayze_Ablaze • 4d Not even deep down. She knows. She's just scared to make the final decision and so she is posting here to gather that resolve. I hope she feels the support and gets done what should have happened a long time ago. 47
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    Lunar-tic18. 4d There's a reason his brain jumped to this. He knows this has been a persistent issue and he knows he screwed up enough to make you fed up. Personally, I agree, you should consider it. This isn't a first time whoopsy. ... Reply Ŵ 7k ♡
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    No-Difficulty2393 • 4d So he got a sos, put it on silent, went to sleep, did not notice that you were not coming back. Did not realized you were still not there in the middle of the night and finally moved his lat in the morning? The HOSPITAL could not reach him. He saw the name on his phone ringing and in his missed calls. What a Reply 314.9k
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    nefnef_ • 4d This is what is the worst for me, she didn't just call him and he did not pick up, he got an SOS and actively ignored it. Unless OP is the boy who cried wolf, which I highly doubt, this guy is a pos. He didn't even bother calling later in the day, he got his beauty sleep and took his time to go to the hospital, and we are talking about the mother of his children, he doesn't respect her at all.
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  • 21
    If I text my bf that I don't feel well, the first thing he will ask is what he can do for me, I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't give a about anyone but himself. 5.3k
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    Longjumping Dust • 4d I think the fact that you're feeling this way is very indicative of your real feelings coming out. I personally cannot imagine turning off my phone or hanging up on my partner who is going through something potentially dangerous. I won't tell you what you need to do, but this is definitely a crossroad moment. Consider it carefully, so you can live with your choice whichever way you end up deciding. ← Reply ☑ 1.9k
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  • 23
    EvilFinch 4d Wait... you had children at home. You didn't show up at home and your husband just went to sleep. What about the children? Did he gave a that they were alone and you didn't show up till then? I mean, it is one thing to ignore calks while working, but if you are finished, see that your partner called, isn't home and the children are alone and all he does is "whelp, gotta sleep" Especially with children, you can't be unreachable for so long.
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  • 24
    That he now upset you because he fears for divorce... but what would have happened if those strangers didn't found you? Your husband took till the late morning to show up. Not in the night when he went to pee and realized you weren't there. That he doesn't show regret of his actions, seek to get better... i mean, he not just ignored calls, he gave a if you get home, ignores his children... what right does he have to be UPSET?!
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  • 25
    Stay with your sister. And really overthink what he brings in the relationship. You are just 32. Don't stay with him because you are afraid to die alone. You have 50+ years before you. So lots of time to find great men Reply 722
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    -deprimiert- .4d Early 20s Female To be clear, he was still awake when he received the SOS and ignored it and went to bed? He really didn't question at all why you'd send that instead of text? At the very least my trust would be shattered and I'd be making someone else my 2nd SOS contact, someone smart enough to either call me to verify it wasn't an accident (assuming I'm not bleeding out or unconscious) or smart enough to know to call 911 if I can't be reached.. For benefit of the doubt id hope
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