Woman Sets Her Friend Up on a Blind Date, Only to Scream at Her After Hearing it Went Well, Causing Confusion and Potential End to Their Friendship

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 14, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. When we hear the word 'friendship,' what comes to mind? People, memories of hanging out with girlfriends, laughing over pizza about our families, exes, and everything in between, crying to each other, seeking advice about guys, dates, parents, and work. Usually, a friend is someone you can rely on, who cheers you up, who you have a connection with and can trust, but it isn't always the case.

This Reddit thread is about that type of 'friend.' Someone who's not actually there for you, who doesn't care about your wellbeing, your happiness, and who doesn't want to build trust. This woman has been put on a blind date by her friends, but something's suspicious. The photos he was sent of his blind date wasn't the girl herself…and the story only unfolds more from there. Confusing, much? But this one's a long one, so buckle up.  

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    r/relationship_advice ⚫ 11 hr. ago Frequent-Document-77 1 (25F) was set up on a blind date (27M) by my friends (27F 28F). It went well and now they're mad at me but I don't know why. What did I do to upset them and how do I go about reaching out to my date and friend?
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    TL;DR: My friend (27F) set me (25F) up on a blind date with a guy (27M). My other friend (28F) was there as this discussion was happening and seemed fine with it I asked her to send him a photo of me in advance and it turns out she sent him pics of a rando. We had the date anyway and it went amazing, and the next day when I told them about it, 28F
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    started screaming at me and 27F told me to off and called me a whale. The guy texted me today asking if I wanted to go out again. I want to get to the bottom of this and also would like to see him again, but worried about my friend who had a meltdown over it.
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    Sorry this is so long, I'm just trying to include all details because I have NO idea why any of this happened! I (25F) have been single for a couple years now. I had moved back home and just wasn't looking for anything, especially after ending my college career with a pretty nasty breakup. I recently moved to a new city (living on my own! woo!) and made friends with some new people through
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    various hobbies. I've been spending a lot of time with one of them in particular, we'll call her Kelsey (28F). She and I were fast friends, and she's introduced me to several people in her friend group, who have all been super nice up until this point, including her best friend, we'll call her Isabel (27F).
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    At some point when we were hanging out, it came up that I was single and not on apps or anything, and Isabel offered to set me up on a blind date with a friend of hers. I've never been on a blind date or honestly even been set up by a friend, so I said yes, that it sounded super fun, but I asked Isabel to send him at least one full body picture of me before he agreed to it. I should
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    mention here that the reason I asked this is because I am pretty fat. I am very comfortable with it and have been fat all my life, it's never negatively impacted my ability to date (or anything else for that matter besides some thigh chafing lol) and I love my body regardless. However, I am aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea, and would rather he know in advance instead of feeling.
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    like he didn't know who he was signing up for and saving us both an awkward conversation. Isabel said she would. She showed me a few photos of him and he was FINE AS A couple days later, Isabel confirmed he was down and sent me the lunch plans he had arranged.
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    The day of the date comes and when I get to the place I spot him and walk up to say hello. Immediately, something is off. He tells me he's here for a blind date but with a totally different person. I mention Isabel's name and then his own name. He loosens up after he realizes I'm truly not a rando and shows me the pictures Isabel had sent him and they're of a totally
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    different person who I don't recognize, not me. At this point I'm super confused and so is he. The rando girl in the pics looks nothing like me (we're not even the same race, body type, hair color, general style, etc). I shoot off a quick text to our group chat saying something jokey about the mix up and then tell the guy (Ryan, 27M) that we don't have to go on the date since he fully
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    thought he was going out with someone else. He says he's down to at least get lunch since we're already here and it's one of his favorite restaurants. We actually wind up hitting it off! Afterwards we walked around the city, stopped at both of each other's apartments to change into less dressy clothes lol, and hung out so long we actually grabbed
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    dinner together too. It was like 7 hours and one of the best first dates I've ever been on. At some point throughout the day, I took a selfie of us and sent it to the groupchat. Neither of them had replied to my text about the mix up and then all I got from the selfie was a "?" reaction from Kelsey.
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    The next day there was a park picnic that Kelsey's friend group had put together and they had invited me to at the last big hangout. I still hadn't heard from either of them and at this point was honestly pretty annoyed with Isabel for going radio silent on me, but I figured maybe my tone wasn't clear since I had made a joke about it when I broke the news and
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    plus the date going well made me quite frankly care a lot less. When I get to the park, Kelsey, Isabel, and several other friends are there and the mood seems good. When I walk up, everyone seems friendly enough and Isabel gets up to hug me and say hi. I sit down and she asks me how the date was, and says that's what they were all talking about
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    before I walked up. She said she was off her phone all day yesterday and woke up this morning, saw my texts, and realized her mistake. She said it was a total accident and that her brain just did that thing where like you mean to tap one thing and your brain just doesn't listen and pushes a different button. To be honest I didn't really buy this from the jump,
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    but again, date went well and I'm in a good mood so I kind of don't care, just planning to keep Isabel at arm's length going forward.
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    I tell everyone about how great it was and how much time we spent together. In real time, I watch the smiles drop from Kelsey and Isabel's faces. There are 4 other people there and none of them seem to notice, just telling me that they're happy for me and glad it went well. Out of nowhere, Kelsey just looks me dead in the eye and asks me "Are you
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    serious?" I said "why wouldn't I be?" and then she starts raging. She tells me I'm a for getting snarky with her after the "stunt you just pulled" and that I should be ashamed of myself. Then she starts angry crying. Now I'm panicking and thinking that maybe this guy is her boyfriend or something, even though she was totally there when Isabel initially told
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    me about him. I look to Isabel hoping she can help and she tells me out. I don't even to get the move and just ask her what the is going on and who even is Ryan to Kelsey and what did I do? When I say his name, the other 4 people at the event go completely silent and all look down and start ignoring me. One of them goes to comfort Kelsey,
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    who is still crying and yelling. People in the park are looking at us. Isabel looks straight at me and says very icily "For your own good, never talk to Ryan again. He doesn't date whales like you." And pushes me (we're standing now) off the picnic blanket and onto the grass, not hard enough to hurt or make me fall, just to send a message. At this point I am so mad there's steam coming out of
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    my ears and I know I could snap this girl in half like a twig if it came down to it, but I keep my hands to myself like a grown woman and say "Maybe you should tell him that, he seemed to like this whale well enough last night." And then I got up and walked off, not looking back or else there's a real chance hands might've been thrown Imao.
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    I went back to my apartment and immediately called my best friend and told her what happened. She was obviously I on my behalf but also incredibly confused at why they were so mad considering they set me up on the date to begin with. I don't know if they're mad that I went on the date, mad that he showed up, mad that it went well, or some combination of those things.
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    It's been 2 days since the picnic fight, and I texted Kelsey directly to tell her that I had no idea what I did beyond go on the date that Isabel set me up on and she endorsed. I told her I was sorry if I had done something to hurt her but would like to be able to understand what it is that I did, and that I hope she's doing okay. I have not reached out to Isabel and do not plan to. Haven't heard from either of
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    them. I also haven't texted Ryan because I was so overwhelmed by everything that happened, but today he texted me to see if I wanted to go out again this week. I don't know if he has any idea what's going on or if this is some kind of setup, and I also don't want to rub salt in Kelsey's wound. I'm worried this guy did something really messed up to her
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    or something like that. But I did really like him and under ordinary circumstances I absolutely would go on a second date with him. Reaching out to Reddit because now that he's responded to me I need to make a choice. At the very least I'm contemplating seeing him again just so I can ask him if he knows what's going on so I can get some kind of answer as to what Ryan and Kelsey's
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    connection is. I have known her for 5 months, which isn't long, but have never ever seen her react that way to anything and it makes me worried. 1. Is there a glaringly obvious faux pas I've made somewhere in here that I'm missing? 2. How should I go about responding to Ryan given the circumstances? Is it worth
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    reaching out to him to try and get my questions answered? 3. Should I be concerned about Kelsey's well being? Is there anything I can do? Thank you in advance!
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    • oopsie1948 2h ago this is crazy and the whale comment??? makes me think that they set it up to embarrass you and it backfired when the date went well. which is wrong with them. I'm also fat and fat shaming includes women who think conventionally attractive men
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    wouldn't go for fat women. we're here and we're
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    icky-chu 5h ago These ladies are not your friends. My mother and father were set up on a date by a woman who did not like my mom, and had been on a date and thought my dad was a jerk. She believed the date would go badly and that
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    thst each deserved it. They were married for 50 years and passed within the same year as each other. So I guess they did deserve each other ** This story has that energy. The whole "sending the wrong picture" and calling you a whale. He was supposed to take one look at you and cringe, and
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    you were supposed to be crushed. those a heavy girl, I never had a . As problem dating either, and a certain type of skinny girl would always get bent out of shape when I would hit it off with the fine looking guy. It just means you have self-confidence and good on you for that.
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    My guess is Kelsey wants this guy, big time, and he had no eyes for her. Probably because he can see she is a 2 faced piece of Feel free to both see where it goes with Ryan and also never talk to those two ladies again.
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    ChronicallySilly • 9h ago Please keep in mind all the advice about asking Ryan, can also be risky. I would personally be very put off if I got friend- group drama dumped on a 2nd date and I'm suddenly the center of it all.
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    Any discussion you have about it needs to be very tactful and you need to be reading the room very well. If he's clearly being put off by it, just wrap up the convo with a "anyways I'm sorry about that I'll deal with it later, lets just enjoy today" kind of thing, and revisit in the future.
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