Husband Buys Wife Expensive Bag from Entitled Employee Who Ignored Her, Wife Returns It So Worker Doesn't Get Commission: 'He's now upset I returned his gift'

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    r/AmltheAsshole 1 day ago . wildkoala9009 AITA for returning the bag my husband bought me because I didn't want the sales assistant to get commission?
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    I've never experienced a sales assistant being so to me before so maybe I overreacted here but last week I was looking for a birthday gift. There was only one free sales assistant and I could tell she didn't want me to approach her as she was intentionally avoiding eye contact and walking away when I was close. I waited 10 minutes
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    in the hopes that another sales assistant would be free but they weren't and it was getting late so I approached the original sales assistant. She pretty much brushed me off without helping me so I went back to browsing on my own as my husband was going to meet me there. When my
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    husband arrived her entire demeanour changed and she suddenly wanted to do her job. I was looking at a bag that I would've bought for myself if it wasn't for the sales assistant. My husband asked me if I wanted to get it but I said no as
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    the sales assistant would've been the one to benefit from the commission as by this point she had come over and was offering to help us. A few days later my husband surprised me with the exact same bag. I asked him if he got it from the same place
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    and if it was the same sales assistant who had helped him. It was, so I told him I wanted to return it. He knows and dismissive when I she was tried to ask her for help but he still didn't want me to return the bag as he said I would be missing out because of a random stranger. To him the
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    commission isn't a big deal but I don't think she should benefit after how she was. If he had bought the bag with a different sales assistant I would've kept it but since he didn't, I returned it. Now he's upset because I returned his gift.
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    . Cheerily Terrified • 1d ago Craptain [156] NAH I don't think your husband is an for not getting why you are annoyed and want to return. He in theory did something nice, he got you a bag you wanted. But I don't think you are an assholoe for wanting to return it. Because even if you previously wanted the bag you don't now.
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    To me it wouldn't just be about the commission (though that would be part of it) but after having a horrible interaction with the sales associate the whole bag would be tainted. I wouldn't be able to look at it without thinking of the interaction and the stress it caused me and feeling a little bit sad or annoyed, especially when I knew she got the commission.
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    Your husband wanted to get you a lovely gift. Unfortunately that bag from that person is no longer a lovely gift, but he wasn't to know so I feel like neither of you are
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    Nanabanafofana • 1d ago Partassipant [1] NTA. I would go back to the establishment. Find a different sales associate and return the bag. Then immediately buy the bag from the new sales associate. Old associate loses a commission and New friendly associate gets a commission. You have the bag you want and petty revenge. Everyone is a winner except associate. the
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    banjadev • 1d ago Enthusiast [5] NTA-I would have done the same thing on principle. My husband knows me very well, and had we experienced this together (like you did), he would have gone back and made sure it was a different salesperson.
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    I myself worked in retail for many years as a sales clerk and as a store manager. That behavior is unacceptable and one of the reasons many folks dislike shopping in-store rather than online. I went into a store with my sister in 2019, who is larger, and she was at the front of the store looking at
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    dresses. I was in the back of the store, where I listened to the 2 salespeople disparage my sister for being fat and saying that she shouldn't be in the store. I placed my items on the counter, told them they were disgusting, and then walked out with MY SISTER - so they could see I was with her. I also gave them a TERRIBLE online review for fat shaming AND have never spent a penny there SINCE ON PRINCIPLE.
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    savvyliterate 1d ago Partassipant [2] NTA. That associate deserves to lose the sale. Speak to the store manager ASAP. My mom and my mother-in-law became good friends after my husband and I got engaged. My mom flew from Alabama to Arizona just to meet her when she visited from the UK, and they paired up and left me and my husband in the dust.
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    One day, they went out shopping together and were looking at expensive purses, my MiL a bit away from my mom. The salesperson thought my mom couldn't afford the purses and refused to help her. But then my MiL came over. The moment the salesperson heard her British accent, she was all over her. My MiL, though, had seen the whole thing go down, informed the lady
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    that she and my mom were together and they turned their backs on the lady and walked out. That idiot salesperson missed out on two guaranteed large purchases that day. My mom and MiL stayed good friends until my MiL passed away four years ago. A photo of them during that trip was used on her funeral program.
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    Alarmed-Ad7933 • 1d ago NTA. You're my type of person. I will never understand the thought process of "the sales associate was and didn't think I could afford the product so I bought a bunch of them. That showed him” No when a sales person is you don't give them a commission
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    ChaoticCapricorn • 1d ago Aficionado [16] YTA because you were more concerned with sticking it to a sales associate than appreciating the gift. And I say this as Petty Labelle, Queen of the Pettylonians. While petty is never out of my way, I would never choose petty toward a stranger over appreciation towards my loved one. Call the manager and report her, but a return? That just spits in your husband's face.
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    PaleAffect7614 • 1d ago You going out of your way to negatively influence someone who in to you. your opinion was Sounds like she is living in your head rent free if you allowing her to have this much power over your life that you would drive back to the shop, waste your own time and money, to make sure she loses a lil bit of money probably equavalent to the petrol you going to drive out.
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    . Mollylover1140 • 1d ago Talk to the manager and explain exactly why you returned the bag.
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