Woman Finds Out Her Husband Had a Date With His Ex Before Their Wedding ‘To Make Sure,’ Sparking Trust Issues and Potential Divorce

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 11 hr. ago GreenFar5824 My husband met his ex for a date before our wedding to make sure (update)
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    For original, try going to my account. I have failed to add a link here. 1. My husband and I have talked, well he did most of the talking and I listened. I asked him for the honest truth. He said that he got cold feet. He was panicking about why nobody saw what
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    he saw. He showed me texts from his family and friends up until our wedding of people asking him why he was doing this and if he really was sure. His sister said that he was making a huge mistake. After the wedding however everyone stopped and they basically
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    told him they respected his decision even if they couldn't understand it. I never felt that they liked me but I have noticed that they were less intense and rude after the marriage. But starting now, "less rude" isn't enough for me anymore.
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    2. The date was a dinner and wine. He understood it was wrong the second he sat at the table but didn't want to just leave because it would've been weird and rude to ditch her when he was the one who made the dinner plans.
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    3. He didn't tell me because he knew I would call off the wedding and think it was bigger than it was. He didn't want to hurt me. He said that he loved me from the day we met and that never changed.
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    4. we are going NC with his sister and mother and most of his friends and family. His decision, not mine. His father is the one member that genuinely loves me. I have no problem having him in my life.
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    5. We are far from ok. I told him I needed time because we can't make any decisions and right now we need to concentrate on our baby. I don't want us to miss out on her first weeks. There's something new with her every day and I don't want us to miss that. I don't want
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    this experience to be tainted with being heartbroken. I refuse to miss out on the joy my baby has brought into my life. I see therapy and counseling in the future. bilut not right now. I don't want that. Then we either come out stronger or we separate.
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    6. I am 3 years older than my husband and 8 older than his ex. To the people in my dm's calling me ugly and jealous. I am neither. Not every girl dreams to be tall and blonde. Not every man likes tall and blonde. Only incels think the Stacy is goals and nothing else.
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    7. They broke up because my husband didn't develop feelings for her. When he realized it wasn't happening he ended things because he was looking for love. So no I wasn't the backup even if many people in my previous post thought it was a good idea to call me a backup to add more insult to injury.
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    Open-Incident-3... • 10h ago Even if you forgive that he hid it from YOU, he clearly didn't hide it from his mom. He clearly discussed the date with her. She knew at wedding, she knew every time you saw her. He handed a weapon to your
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    handed a weapon to your enemy and she used it when you were most vulnerable with your newborn.
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    Salty Chip_5 11h ago It's so great that HE made. the decision to distance from the nay-sayers. That gives you breathing room to be new parents, and orient toward your baby.
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    Later you'll each have to decide how much you want to say/hear about each other's faults, annoyances, and cold-feet feelings. I never figured out how to do that very well and I hope you're better at it than me. Good luck
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    catstaffer329 11h ago Wow, that is a horrible blow at a vulnerable time. Is he right in assuming that if he told you back then, you would have called off the wedding? It is a valid question because it may help you sort out where you
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    are now. Just remember, if the wedded relationship doesn't work for you for any reason, it is okay to be gracious co-parents. I am so sorry that happened to you and delighted that you have a baby to love and cherish. I wish you peace and joy going forward.
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    advvvvx 10h ago It's so hard because you always knew how special your love was as a couple and what made him realize it was special is also the same thing that took that special away from you. If that makes sense. I hope whatever decision you
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    choose moving forward you find peace
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    Technical_Pumpk... • 11h ago It's a positive start and going NC with problematic people in his side is a good thing but still you should counseling! Too much emotions, new baby,.. you have to be able to express yourself and let that out

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