Parents put a camera in kid's college dorm to monitor her while insisting it's for safety, resulting in a family dispute when she takes it down: ‘You're crossing a line’

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    Am I overreacting about my parents putting a camera in my sister's and my dorm room?
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    So I'm studying abroad and my parents are putting a camera in our room. They're insisting that if it's facing the door it's not a problem, but I think that they just
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    want to monitor everyone of our moves. They already have our live locations, they already know when we go out where we go out everything. I'm just asking to not
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    have a camera in the room. They say I'll understand if I had kids. And we got in an argument about it and I've been crying for two days and they act like I'm
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    crazy for being so mad about it. They tell me that I'm being immature for not wanting that. Is it really that hard to understand that I don't want it because I don't want to feel monitored every second of my life??
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    Edit: thanks to everyone for your answers I definitely did not expect that many so thank you also to add more details: We both are adults yes but we completely depend on them for everything
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    material and they keep using the excuse that they've done everything for us so I should accept this "little" thing and my studies are quite long so I'll have to put up with it for a lonnng
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    time Also the camera is facing the front door with the kitchen next to it, so not the room in itself but it still bothers me and it can hear everything we say too I've tried
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    unplugging it once and my dad called me in the middle of the night screaming at me to plug it back in
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    spasibononet 16h ago Not overreacting. Unplug it when they leave. That's really crossing a boundary. I get seeing your live location but a camera in a vulnerable location like this is kinda sick imho.
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    VStarling Books • 16h ago Mention this to your RA. Have them sign something saying it's an invasion of your ADULT privacy and not allowed.
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    • Tenzipper 16h ago Where are you going to school? This may very well be illegal, and you should report it to the school. Don't tell them who put the camera there.
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    NegativeRuin5576 • 16h ago Print out a picture of what the camera sees, put it on a stand in front of the camera, so they always see the same thing. Also get a burner phone and use that, leave your phone with locations on it at the library or in your dorm.
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    deepstatelady • 16h ago You could also let them keep it and organize a conga line of questionable characters to parade past it every night until they give up. Or take a screen cap of the door and tape it to the camera so they think you left and never came back.
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    • BadLuckBirb 16h ago Not overreacting. This is very inappropriate. You are an adult. Take it down and let them know that it's time for them to let you have privacy and independence. If they can't handle that, they can go to therapy
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    or whatever they need to do. Don't negotiate. Don't take any of this on as something you are doing to them. This is your parent's problem and you are 100% ok to say no to this. For reference, I'm a middle aged mom.
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    Glitch427119 • 15h ago I'm a mom, I'm terrified for when my kid moves out, and your parents are absolutely bat . The whole point of being a parent is to prepare your kids for life and be a support system.
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    That's not what they're doing. They're only being controlling and invading your right to privacy, which you do have whether they want to admit it or not.
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    Are you listening to them bc you're still dependent on them? If that's the case, your best bet is to get to the point where you're not dependent on them as fast as possible, even if you have to figure out alternative ways to pay for school. It's not fair
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    that you have to turn away any support from your parents in this economy especially, but it might be your reality. If you're not dependent on them, remove the camera and eliminate any access they have to your dorm. Check for other spyware as well.
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    At the end of the day, your parent's behavior is not healthy for you or them. They need to grow up, get therapy, do something that doesn't dump their mental health problems and their anxieties on you.
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    You're not over reacting and I'm very sorry for how violated you must feel by your own parents. It's not acceptable.

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