Woman Refuses to Pay Friends After Realizing That They Only Invited Her On Trip to Cushion the Cost, Bringing An End to Long-Term Friendships

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    TWO TAKE r/TwoHotTakes u/applecidervinegarbae • 2d AITAH for paying my friend only what I think my portion is worth for a weekend away Listener Write In
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    On July 2, my high school best friend (25f) and let's call her Julie, FaceTime calls me (25f) to congratulate me on passing the nclex. She asks if I have any 4th of July plans, I say no. She says her and 3 of her friends (ages 27-32) got a house at the beach. She asks if I could join. I say yes!
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    They were going from Wed to Sun but I had to leave Fri bc I worked Sat On my way, Julie asks that I pick up 3 sets of sheets + 4 towels. I brought my own sheets and towels. A total of 85. I stopped at a grocery store, got eggs and fruit and snacks. I don't drink alcohol, so I got kombucha. it cost over 40 if I don't consider my stuff
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    After 3.5 hours drive, I get there around 11P. Basically bed time. One of the friends, Jack, got a room with a king bed to himself. Same for Susie. Julie and Lauren, were sharing a room with a queen. They put an air mattress in their room for me. To be added that in the morning my would be on the floor which went without complaint.
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    The 4th: one of Julie's friend, Monica, gets there, expected to go the entire weekend. Monica felt like Julie prioritized the 3 other friends and didn't feel welcomed. So after a tense day, argument back at the house, Monica leaves the same night. Julie was clearly bothered. The 4 of them got drunk, I had my kombucha, we watched high school musical & the day finally ended. Friday: Rain. They woke up cranky, and maybe tense spirits. We go to brunch and hoping the rain stops. I paid. The only pers
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    they still want to go to the beach. No one could sit without blankets, towels + sweatshirt bc it was so cold with the rain & wind. We get back to the house at 4, I tell Julie I'm not staying for dinner. She asks I stay to at least have a dinner together. Knowing that I'm hungry since the last time I ate was brunch, I agree.
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    We get to the restaurant at 630. There's a wait, so we go to the bar. We get split up and it ends up being me & Susie. Since I didn't order alcohol, they didn't charge for mine and only charged me 17 for Susie's drink. Julie shows up with a drink for me. I don't drink it bc it has alc, but I prefer to avoid an issue so I held it and thanked her. We don't sit to eat till 930. I ordered tacos $24 and no drinks. Everyone else orders two drinks each plus their food. They want to stay longer since th
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    We get back to the house at 1230A. I work in the AM. I live 3.5 hours away and I'm TIRED. I decide to stay knowing I had to be leaving by 630. The 4 of them are feeling good from the night while I'm on high speed. I take all of my things out of the bedroom, tidy up, put all of my things in my car except for change of clothes for work and I sleep on the couch so I can leave unnoticed. I leave, I work. I text Julie to thank her and her friends for inviting me.
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    A few days ago: I got added to a Venmo group, where I was being charged to split for everything. Down to the beach. pass for Lauren's car. And 2970 for the Airbnb, where it's being split EVENLY. I split the entire Airbnb bill by room. Then people, then days. 66 each. So I sent Lauren 150: 132 for my usage of the space and extra for the charges. I then get a notification I owe a new charge. A 45.22 charge for dinner from Julie. +15 for snacks, +17 for the vodka drink Julie got me. I sent her 50.
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    A couple of days go by, and Lauren sent me 150 back. The purpose of it was "to even out the expenses" which I had no freaking clue what it meant so I took it as something that favored me. Now this week Julie texts me to plz pay Jack. I look, & there's a 440 charge. I told her, there is no way I can afford this. I decide to send Jack the same 150 I sent Lauren. Shortly after, Julie texts me and says she can "cover for me," to which I say "no thanks, I paid for my portion." She says "the entire 44
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    It needs to be paid at some point soon or over the next couple of months. It really puts me in an uncomfortable position bc there's people in this trip. who need their money back. I didn't know sleeping in an air mattress was such a big deal to you. The total of the Airbnb was $2970 so it was definitely not cheap. I should've been more transparent with you about how much it was we just really didn't know how much it was going to be per person.
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    I say: That's the ticket price you guys chose. The amount I sent plus the $85 that I am still owed to me for the towels and sheets should be more than enough. I didn't complain once about the air mattress. In terms of the house that I'm being expected to pay for now, I didn't even get a bed to sleep on.
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    Julie replies: I didn't know you were under the impression that you were a guest. the way a rental works is they charge you by the numbers of night you stayed. It's hard because it's not really what you think it's worth. You came, you stayed and at our age, it comes down to the people that were at the house paying for the house to be used. Since you put the charge of the towels on the Venmo group, you're already being reimbursed for that because it automatically removes it. You still did come an
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    I refuse to pay any more than I have. I was never told I'd have to pay for anything. Let alone, evenly. But I'm about to lose the friends over this. So am I the for paying only what I thought my portion was worth? 597 211 D
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    PFEFFERVESCENT. 2d Sounds like they only asked you along to divide the bill between more people Reply 1.4k
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    Browneyedgirl63 • 2d My thoughts exactly. 2 people each get a bedroom with a king bed and privacy for 4 nights while the other 2 share one bedroom with a queen bed. Then OP has to sleep on an air mattress in the queen room with 2 people there already for only 2 nights but she's expected to pay for the entire trip? The two getting their own room need to pay more. OP should not be expected to finance their vacation. ... ↑ 562
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    Is-this-rabbit • 2d While getting ready for her getaway, Julie looked at the costs and realised she couldn't cover them. She thought you might be an easy touch and invited. you to join her. You didn't get a room, you didn't get a bed (an air mattress that deflates overnight doesn't count). Julie was trying to pull a fast one on you and you declined to play her game. NTA Reply 153
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    LobsterLoving Llama • 2d You were invited last minute and we're clear you couldn't go for all of the nights and only got an air mattress. Nope. Stop communicating with these "friends". I'm guessing that's why Monica left, she didn't know she wasn't getting a real bed. ← ☑ Reply 294
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    Hildurs Farm • 2d NTA: You should only pay your portion. This was not something you planned, they invited you last minute and you didn't even get a room. I've been splitting beach houses in OBX for 15 years with family and we all pay by how many people we have, and how many beds we take. You didn't get a bed, you didn't stay the whole time, and they already had someone else leave because they didn't feel welcomed, I would remind her of that and state that you're not paying anymore, you've alread
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    jenna_leee 2d • These people aren't your friends. They are using you so that their trips are cheaper. ← Reply ↑ 83

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