Entitled Woman Shows Up Unannounced to Sister’s House With Her 3 Young Children, Expecting Spontaneous Babysitting, Sister Refuses, Leading to Mother Getting Involved

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    r/AITAH • 14 hr. ago BombasticArab AUTA for refusing to let my sisters kid to stay at my house when she came up unannounced?
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    So, here's the situation. I (32F) live alone in a small apartment in the city. I'm single, work full-time, and generally enjoy my peace and quiet. My sister "Tina" (35F) is married with three kids (10M, 7F, 4M). Tina and I get along well enough, but we've always had different lifestyles. She's very
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    much the "family is everything" type, while I'm more focused on my career and personal space.
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    Last weekend, Tina showed up at my apartment out of the blue with all three of her kids. No call, no text, just a knock on my door at 9 a.m. I was still in my pajamas, drinking coffee, and enjoying my Saturday morning when she barged in, kids in tow, saying she
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    and her husband needed a "break" and wanted to drop the kids off at my place for the day.
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    I was caught off guard and told her I wasn't prepared for that. My apartment is not child-proofed, and I had plans to meet up with some friends later in the day. I offered to help her find a sitter or suggested that maybe she could take the kids to a park instead,
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    but she got upset and said I was being selfish. She insisted that I "never help with the kids" and that I'm "always too busy" for family.
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    Things got a bit heated, and I ended up telling her that while | love my nieces and nephews, she can't just expect me to drop everything without any notice, especially when I wasn't even asked beforehand. She left angrily, saying she'd never ask me for anything again.
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    Now my mom is involved, telling me I should have just taken the kids for a few hours because "family helps family," and that Tina is really stressed out. But I feel like I was put in an impossible situation.
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    AITA for refusing to watch her kids when she showed up unannounced?
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    celticmusebooks • 13h ago So if "family helps family" why didn't your mom step up and babysit? It was extremely manipulative of your sister to just show up hoping to bully you into taking the kids. I have a hard
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    boundary about ever enabling that kind of behavior. If it works even one time the "perp" will continue to use that tactic.
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    I'd have held to my no and when she said she wouldn't ever ask again (LOL and you know she'll ask again) I'd point out that the problem she created here was specifically that she didn't ASK which might have given
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    you the opportunity to modify your plans and child proof the house. By not calling first she made that impossible. NTA but your sister and mom are manipulative AHs.
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    BlueGreen_1956 ΝΤΑ 13h ago Sounds like old Tina thinks she is the center of the universe, and everyone owes her whatever she wants whenever she wants it.
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    "She left angrily, saying she'd never ask me for anything again." At least, some good came out of it.
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    g... 13h ago Edited 12h ago maybe I'm the weirdo here but I can't think of the last time I dropped in completely unannounced on anyone, just like assuming they'd be home and free,
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    and that's without any expectations of free childcare or anything like that. nta op, it's amazing how many people feel free to volunteer other people's time
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    SamCarter_SGC • 13h ago She left angrily, saying she'd never ask me for anything again. NTA and it sounds like you got the point across.
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    • Kmia55 13h ago It seems "family helps family" is becoming a euphemism for bad behavior. NTA
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    MadameFlora • 13h ago NTA. Let her know if she ever abandons her children with you, you will be on the line with CPS before she can open her car door. I think she's lost her babysitting privileges for the next
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    privileges for the next several months. NTA.

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