‘I reached my breaking point’: Boss constantly singles out overworked employee, they plan to resign, only to be told by family that quitting is ‘the easy way out’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 31, 2024 7:00 AM EDT

Every person, in every aspect of life, has a breaking point. Whether it is with their job, family, partners, or friends. There is always a point that should not be crossed, and if it does, that is usually a sign that things have to change, fast.

When you reach that breaking point at work, that usually means that you have to quit and look for a new workplace. There are people though, who look at that solution as a weakness, as if quitting your job because you are unhappy, is a sign that you are not a good worker. Other people, on the other hand, see this a a strength, when you know that you did all you could in a certain job and accept that you are ready to move on.

It seems that the employee in this Reddit story is more than ready to move on, but they are being told to wait it out by their family. Despite their boss singling them out, and practically bullying them, this employee is still on the fence on whether or not they should quit, which puts them in an awkward position at work…

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    "She is setting me up to fail" 000
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    My boss makes me hate my job.
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    I (26F) work as a GED teacher in a state men's correctional facility. I have been doing this for about 9 months and have found SO much value in the work. I've since graduated ~50 GEDs, and all of
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    my guys have either gotten early release or are now taking on trade/college programs at the facility. So far, I believe I have been building positive rapport with all of my students.
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    My boss was hired as our supervisor about two months before I transferred in from a different facility, so even though she wasn't the one who hired me, I am the only teacher who came
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    in after she was hired. She lets the other teachers leave their classrooms and sit in their offices as much as they want while class is in session, but scolds me to
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    high heaven if I ever for a few minutes (to make copies or even to get some water). She moved me from the annex to the main unit a few months ago because of
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    one teacher quitting for 'personal family reasons', and my new classroom has a window that she can see directly through from her office. She gave me some constructive feedback in the
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    beginning, which I gladly received and made an effort to incorporate, however she has become more and more aggressive about it over the last month and a half. I was expected
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    right off the bat to learn how to submit these 'highly important and frequently audited' attendance forms, as well as checking and maintaining enrollment numbers in the
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    system for each of my classes. She never trained me, only chastised me in front of the other staff members about how I needed to be on top of those things.
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    One time in a staff meeting, she addressed a point to all of us. about tracking attendance. I wasn't sure about something, so I asked and then instead of simply answering, she answered my
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    question and then aggressively chewed me out (again, in front of the other teachers) about a mistake I made on one of my sheets and how that means I "am not doing my job to keep track of
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    my students' progress." When I finally learned how to update student enrollment (after my boss had another teacher show me), I made a continuous effort to check every day and update
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    where necessary. One morning, classification was slow in adding the students to the system whose names I sent them a week ago. I go to have my boss sign off on my second employment form (I
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    also teach as a professor *after* working hours), and she starts acting like she's doing a favor for me by signing it, even though it in no way affects my work duties.
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    She then once again starts scolding me for "not keeping the student numbers up to date", so that means that she "has little confidence I can take on a second job." I assured her that I entered
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    more than enough student names on the form to classification, but for some reason only two made it on there. Later that night (around 8pm), classification finally caught up
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    and they were uploaded. However, once I updated my boss the very next morning on the additions, she cheerfully said thank you without actually apologizing for the unnecessary scolding.
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    Yesterday morning, I had my breaking point. I went into the library office to make copies of packets (before class had started) and my boss was already in there with another teacher. She, instead
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    of respectfully asking me to wait outside a minute, told me aggressively "Ms. OP you need to leave and come back in a few so I I can talk to Mrs. Other Teacher."
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    She then came and asked me to speak with her in my office, and brought the other teacher in the room with her. She then begins revealing that this teacher caught
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    one of my students sleeping in my class before I did. She then continues going on about how that means I am not 100% aware of what is going on my classroom and what a problem it is.
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    Apparently, this other teacher in the room ratted me out to my boss about it, which really could have just been a simple "hey, just so you know...". Boss then sends
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    me an email recapping everything and threatens to write me up if she has to have this talk with me again. I am so done. After giving it some thought last night, I am 100% sure I want to
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    resign and find temporary work until I can start my full-time professorship in the spring. I talked to my mom today and she insisted I just talked to my boss. instead of quitting. I told her all
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    about the abuse, but she told me that quitting is just taking the "easy way out" and that I need to instead learn what my boss wants from me. Honestly, I would much rather work a basic secretarial or
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    administrative job at this point and have more time to focus on my PhD, than to stick around and make nice with this woman. Am so done.
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    seraph_m4d ago It seems your boss feels threatened by you and/or your credentials, so she's setting you up to fail. If there isn't anyone else above her to talk to, then by all means, head for the hills.
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    H powderpuffpenguin OP • 4d ago I was thinking about talking to her boss, but I fear she'll become even worse toward me.
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    HommeMusical • 4d ago Find another job. Quit. Explain that life is too short to deal with petty and unconstructive cruelty in the workplace. So sorry this happened to you.
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