Woman Refuses to Attend Her Sister's Wedding After She Tries to Convince Her Fiancé to Leave Her

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    "She didn't apologize― instead, she doubled down, saying that if I was confident in my relationship, I wouldn't be so upset"
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    AITA for refusing to attend my sister's wedding after what she did to my fiancé? So, my (28F) sister "Ella" (31F) is getting married in two weeks. We've always been close, even though we have our differences.
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    I've always been more of a laid- back, introverted person, while Ella is the life of the party and loves being the center of attention. It never bothered me much-until now. I've been engaged to my fiancé, "Mark" (29M), for about a year.
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    He's wonderful-kind, supportive, and just an all-around great guy. My family has always liked him, or so I thought. But about a month ago, something happened that made me question everything. Ella asked Mark to meet her for coffee one day, saying she needed help picking out a wedding gift for
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    me. I didn't think much of it at the time, but when Mark came home, he was really quiet. After some coaxing, he finally told me what happened. Apparently, Ella spent the entire time trying to convince him that I wasn't right for him. She told him I
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    was too boring, that I wasn't ambitious enough, and that he could "do better." She even went so far as to suggest that he should call off the engagement and see other people. Mark was completely blindsided and upset-he said he defended me, but it was clear that Ella was relentless.
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    I was furious when I found out. I confronted Ella, and she didn't even deny it. She said she was "just looking out for Mark" and that she "wants the best for him." When I asked her why she thought it was her place to interfere in our relationship, she just shrugged and said she was being honest.
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    I told her that what she did was completely out of line and hurtful, not just to me, but to Mark as well. She didn't apologize—instead, she doubled down, saying that if I was confident in my relationship, I wouldn't be so upset. I ended up leaving her house in tears.
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    Since then, I've barely spoken to her. My parents found out about the situation and while they agree that what Ella did was wrong, they're begging me to still attend the wedding. They think that missing it would cause a huge rift in the family and that I should just "let it go" for the sake of peace.
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    But I don't know if I can. Every time I think about what she did, it makes my blood boil. I feel betrayed and hurt, and I don't know if I can just pretend everything is fine for her big day. Mark supports whatever decision I make, but I can tell he's hurt by this too.
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    So, AITA for refusing to go to my sister's wedding after what she did to my fiancé?
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    CrystalQueen3000 ΝΤΑ She might be getting married to someone else but she clearly has feelings for Mark
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    KingInMyMind Right. OP's sister is marrying a man she doesn't love. OP should look out for this guy and let him know what his fiance tried to do and why. OP's sister would understand, right?
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    PNL-Maine Have a nice chat with Ella's fiancé. Tell him what she said to Mark, ask him if she's REEAALLYY ready to marry him. Or is she into Mark.
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    imwilling2learn NTA. Narcissist, cheaters, basically generally people all bank on the fact that your reaction to their toxic behavior will be viewed as an overreaction, and they try to pin the blame on you.
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    This is especially true in family dynamics, with this ridiculous belief that somehow being related by blood, give someone a free all over you. pass to
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    OkieLady1952 NTA. Totally agree! She definitely has other motives here. She's pushing it before she gets married in case Mark falls for her bs. She has feelings for him so destroying OP's relationship is just a casualty to her end goal of being with Mark.
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    FunkyHighOnYellowSun I don't feel it's as simple as she has feelings for and wants to be with Mark. It's probably a lot more shallow that she thinks she's hot I and Mark would go for her if she gave him a second glance. More a power play over the sister
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    Mark's just a to her. This kind of person isn't capable of pining for someone or probably any real feelings toward someone, just succubus for what others give her.
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    Agreeable-Book-7018 NTA. Tell your parents you're staying home for the sake of peace. Your peace.
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    TJ_Will Or go to the wedding and hand out flyers with this thread printed on it. Tell everyone you talk to the story.
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    Live record a podcast episode from the reception hall where the topic is what your sister did. There is only peace when the war is over.
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    amyloulie NTA. I don't blame you for not wanting to breathe the same air as her. What a twisted and cruel thing to do. Also, it's odd that she's "looking out for Mark” and not her sister.

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