Woman Confronts Husband’s Family After They Gossip About Her in Foreign Language, She Reveals to Them She Understood Every Word, Resulting in Uproar

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    I basically said that I have always known what they have said about me, but calling me names was the last straw. I also mentioned how I have known German for almost my whole life. The table instantly blew up.
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    AITA for not telling my husband's family that I speak their language?
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    My husband Peter (29 m) and I (27 f) have been married for about three years. We have one child together and I was pregnant with our second. I'm western Canadian while he is from Germany. We lived
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    in Canada for a long time, but because of inflation moving back to Germany seemed like a better option for us. We bought a nice house in Hannover where Peter is from.
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    The day after our flights to Germany we all visited Peter's family. This was the second time I have seen them (the first was at our wedding). They greeted us and brought us inside of the house,
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    fussing over my son. We had dinner, and soon we left the house, wanting to settle into our new home. We visited Peter's family often for the next few months. But I had started to realize that they
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    would sometimes speak about me in German. They would make comments on my hair and makeup, question my fashion choices, and overall were just very unkind to me.
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    They also said mean things about my pregnant belly which I was already insecure about. I ended up talking to my husband about this. I told him that I didn't
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    like the way that they were treating me. I said that I hated how my every choice was judged. He told me that he would talk to his family.
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    The next time that we went to his parents house, there were no more mean comments. For about three months it was like nothing ever happened. I gave birth to a perfect baby girl that we named Lilith.
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    Peter's family was very upset when they heard the name. If you didn't know, Lilith means "ghost" or "of the night." We didn't pick this name because of its meaning, but because it is a name that every girl
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    in my family has had for many years. My middle name is Lilith, along with my moms, my grandma's, and even my great grandma's.
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    For a while I didn't visit my in-laws. I didn't want to hear them talk about how I shouldn't have named my daughter Lilith. But yesterday we saw them again. It was my mother-in-law's birthday. As soon
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    as we showed up things started to go badly. Everybody wanted to hold Lilith which made my MIL upset because people weren't paying attention to her and made
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    me overwhelmed. I didn't want people holding her. I was going. through a pretty bad postpartum and it was still pretty early to see people. I let people look at her, but declined when anyone asked to hold her.
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    During dinner I heard my SIL talking to my MIL in German. I heard her complaining about how she couldn't hold my baby. My SIL even had the audacity to call me, and I quote, "a fat ugly ho..ey
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    addict." I turned to my SIL and MIL and told them off in German. I basically said that I have always known what they have said about me, but calling me names was the last straw. I also mentioned how I
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    have known German for almost my whole life. The table instantly blew up. People were yelling at me because apparently this was all my fault. I left with Peter and we haven't talked to them since. So AITH?
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    Aestro17 3d ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] NTA - are never wrong. They remain by refusing to ever take ownership of their own words or actions, so they never have to change. They can be as judgmental and insulting as they
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    want because they're right and anyone who challenges them must be at fault. So of course it's your fault that they were insulting you - they couldn't possibly have been in the wrong. Sorry you married into a family of
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    Watching Telly Now • 3d ago And you're living in Germany? Do they really think you wouldn't learn the language of the country where you live? They have been extremely you and about you, you are definitely NTA. to 10
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    I think your husband needed to grow a shiny spine as soon as they started and should have told them off instantly, so he's a bit of an A, or at very least a total watcs.

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