Woman Abandons Her Boyfriend at Restaurant After He Calls Her a Gold Digger in Front of His Friends: 'It was just a joke!'

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    r/AITAH u/Soft Preparation3213.1d AITA for leaving my boyfriend at the restaurant after he made a "joke" about me being a gold digger in front of his friends?
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    In a nutshell: My boyfriend humiliated me with a "gold digger" joke in front of his friends, so I left the restaurant without saying a word. Now he says I ruined the night and owe him an apology. AITA? Hi Reddit, I'm in a bit of a situation and need to know if I'm the here. For context, I (F28) have been with my boyfriend (M30) for about 2 years. He's always been very kind and loving, but lately, he's been making "jokes" that make me uncomfortable, especially around his friends.
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    Last night, we were out for dinner with some of his friends. Everything was going fine until, out of nowhere, he made a joke about how I was only with him for his money. For context, I have a great career and am financially independent. I've never relied on him for anything, but his friends laughed, and he kept going, saying things like, "She saw my bank account and knew I was her ticket." I sat there in shock while they all laughed at my expense.
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    I tried to brush it off, but he kept going, even adding that I've "hinted" at wanting an expensive ring and a bigger apartment. I'd never said anything like that! I felt humiliated. So, without saying a word, I grabbed my stuff and left the restaurant. I took an Uber home and turned off my phone.
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    When I turned my phone back on later, I had a flood of texts from him saying I embarrassed him in front of his friends and overreacted to what was "just a joke." He says I owe him an apology for storming out and ruining the night. But I feel like he crossed a line by making me the punchline in front of his friends. ✰ 5,985 1,857
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    BottleStrength • 1d NTA. Your boyfriend wants to make himself look better by tearing you down. When he can't use facts, he makes them up. Usually once someone starts doing that, it never ends. Ask yourself if you want to stay with someone who needs to degrade you in order to feel superior. I would not! Reply 2 8.5k
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    Beth21286 1d 'If I was only with you for your money you'd need to be making a lot more than you are." Put the little boy in his place in front of his friends. Then dump his *ss. ... 14.4k
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    BruciePup⚫ 1d 'I'm not with you for your money, and especially not for your . Now I'm starting to wonder why I'm with you at all'. Peace out and block his 2.4k
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    Impossible_Trainer48. 1d WAKE UP AND BREAK UP Reply 1.8k
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    EmuUpstairs7402. 1d Super catchy Reddit slogan right here lol. But also yes, why would you tolerate this kind of behavior in someone who is supposed to love and respect you!? 295
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    Pale-Comb-3954. 1d This. He's showing you who he really is, OP. Believe him. ... 31
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    Away-Understanding34 • 1d NTA tell him that his jokes aren't funny because they are at your expense. Is this something that started all of a sudden? Why does he think it's ok to make these "jokes"? Do not give in and apologize. I find it funny that he's embarrassed by you walking out but he had no problem embarrassing you with lies about being a gold digger. He's the one who owes you an apology. ... Reply 640
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    Nosferatatron • 23h If I was out with friends and made a very poor and unfunny joke about a girlfriend and she stormed out, my friends would roast me and I'd call the girlfriend to apologise. So, what kind of friends does he have? Because we already know that he's kind of an unfunny , I just wonder whether all his friends are too 19
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    Existing_Watch_3084 • 1d Since when is a joke, making up statements about your significant other and telling them to your friends ... Reply 664
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    Lilpanda21 • 1d And I bet he never corrected his friends about his "joke", so they probably think it's fact not fiction ... 241
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    Fresh_Caramel8148. 1d Ask him "what exactly is funny about what you said? Explain it" I HATE the "it's just a joke!" line. A "joke" at someone elses expense that isn't actually even funny isn't a joke. It's being cruel.
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    You really need to analyze this and figure out what changed and why. Well, if you really even want to bother. Might be easier to just cut your losses and let him go. Reply 264
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    Seaworthiness Big8083. 1d Please tell me he is an ex now. There are so many red flags, he massively over stepped. He has shown you he is willing to comfortably lie. He is actively using lies to put you down and paint poor picture around friends, which erodes your support system. Somewhere deep down he either believes these lies or has strong insecurities where he needs to tare you down to feel better.
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    When he is wrong he refuses to own it and instead it becomes your fault. Excuse me he made up lies to make fun of you in front of friends and he owes you an apology. There is no happy future in this relationship. He has shown you with his actions who he is, believe him.
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    Even if he begs for forgiveness ask him what he has done to make it better. Tell him to start a group message with all these friends with you in it and say, I am sorry everything i said was a blatant lie and incredibly disrespectful to my gf. My joke was in poor taste and I was wrong. If he can't own his mistakes and correct the misrepresentation of you, then he really doesn't care Reply 191
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    Dresden_Mouse. 1d Sounds like he needs to feel like a "big man" in front in his friends and if that requiere "jokes" or humiliating you he's more than ready to do so. Reply 34 ♡

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