Woman Expects Her Sister to Be Free Babysitter For Date Nights, Sister Refuses, Causing Woman to Demote Her Godmother Status

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Sep 19, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. The topic of free babysitting for family members will never get old. There's such hype around this, and for good reason. It seems like families worldwide expect anyone they're related to to just be a free babysitter at the drop of a hat. This may work for some people, but not for others. 

This Reddit story is about just that. These sisters have an agreement: when one is gone the other watches her kid, and in the reverse situation she watches the dog. This seems like a good deal for a while, until the sister with the child starts dating someone. Now she's gone more often, forcing her sister to prioritize the kid before her own obligations. She starts putting her foot down and expecting at least compensation, resulting in tears in the family dynamics. You'll have to read the full story yourself for all the juicy details. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH 16 hr. ago According_West_6084 AITAH for dropping my sister as my son's godmother for wanting me to pay her to babysit?
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    I'm a single mom, widow and about 2 years ago my sister moved in with me to help out. The deal was I could watch her dog whenever she slept at her boyfriends or went out of town (atleast 3-4xs a week) and she could watch my kid when she was home so I could go out and have a life (date). Recently a man asked
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    me out and I was not sure If my situation would allow me to fit a man in my life. I work full time, run a side business, and a full time parent to a 5yo. Money's really tight and I can't afford a baby sitter so I asked my sister if she could commit to one night a week. She agreed to Tuesdays so I went on the date. We really hit it
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  • 04
    off and have been seeing each other for 3 months now. My sister keeps acting put out by the demand of babysitting now. She's canceled many of our dates so my now boyfriend has been paying for a sitter. My sister made a big scene saying she has boundaries now and can only babysit once a month and she
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  • 05
    expects to be paid. I've never asked for anything to watch her dog and I'm very concerned with how she's playing the victim here, calling me manipulative (in front of my son even), and asking for payment to ever hang out with her godson!!! Am I wrong to be upset here? Is it wrong to expect a godparent to want to spend time with their God child?
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    Without being begged or bribed? I swear she's just jealous and can't stand to see me happy. None of this was an issue till I found a good man. AITAH???
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    spirosoflondon • 15h ago Throw her and her dog out of your house and life
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  • 08
    Moist-Rule8457 • 15h ago NTA but start saying she can pay for you to watch her dog
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  • 09
    New_Day684 • 15h ago Nta time for you to set a no free pet sitting boundary.
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    Significant-Yak-2... • 15h ago Why are you still letting her live in your house? Sounds like she is taking the !
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    WhisperLady0 • 15h ago It's tough when family dynamics change and suddenly the balance feels off. It sounds like what started as a mutual support system has gotten tangled with expectations. You're not wrong to feel upset, but it might be worth sitting down
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    and having an honest talk about where things stand now. People's priorities shift, but it doesn't mean you're in the wrong for wanting some help and time for yourself.
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    introspectiveliar 11h ago Am I the only one who doesn't care who pays for what and just wants to know if OP truly believes that dropping her sister as "godmother" to her son is a big enough deal that it warrants asking if that is an
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    AH move on Reddit? Does she expect the sister to burst into tears and say "Oh god no, anything but that! Being your child's god parent is the most serious obligation in my life. I'll pay you to let me babysit my god son!"
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    • KarlaXyoh 14h ago NAH, with one caveat, no, you should not expect godparents to watch your kids for free. My two kids have godparents as well and I have never asked them to babysit on a regular basis nor am I ever going to. Godparents should definitely
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    be in the kids lives, but it's not about having an obligation to watch them while you're still alive. Godparents are not free babysitters. She also lives with you, so it's not like she has to make an extra effort to visit her godson.
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    • gringaellie 15h ago NTA tell her you will no longer be watching her dog and that she'll have to take the dog with her every time.
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    St3rl1ngNoir 13h ago Being a godparent doesn't mean they have to help you out for free. Why are you expecting others to help you out for free? Yes, not even with family should you expect them to do something for free
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  • 19
    sradelacour 11h ago Your sister pays half the rent, splits the bills, and you still want her to watch your kid every Tuesday so you can go on dates? Girl stop being so lazy. Yta
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    Mysterious_Win_2... •9h ago So, she did not move in with you, you guys moved together and share rent. The solution would be to not watch her dogs or feed them so she can find a sitter for them and you do the same for your child.
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    sradelacour 11h ago Yta I'm laughing so much at people saying that taking care of a dog is the same as taking care of a child.. Taking care of your kid every Tuesday?? Yeah, you're being an idiot.
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