Wife Gets Sweet Revenge After Entitled Husband Insists She Becomes a Housewife and Throws a Fit Over Spending His Money on Groceries

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Isabella Penn
Sep 21, 2024 11:00 PM EDT

This wife recently found herself in a bit of a predicament after her husband got angry about her spending. Here's the context: when they got married, he insisted that she become a housewife. She was on board with that, but still worked a few hours a week to make some cash for herself. One day, after coming back from the grocery store, her entitled husband asked how much of "his" money she spent on groceries—emphasis on his money. She had spent over $900, which, quite frankly, is a hefty amount for groceries in our opinion. But the wife claims she followed a list to the letter and got all of his requests. Upset about her spending, her husband told her to stop using his paycheck. Well, what did he expect when he asked her to be a housewife? So, she decided it was time for a little revenge.

Reddit users quickly chimed in, rallying behind her and urging her to rethink her situation. Many said she deserved better and should think about leaving him. What do you think about all this?

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    r/AITAH • 20 hr. ago swirledletters AITAH? I stopped wearing/using what my husband gave me after he said that it's his money
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    I (26f) had been with my husband (30m) for five years, married three months ago. I'm a housewife andl have a little side job so I can buy what I want, my husband has a high paying job that covers the all the utilities and bills. Just a little background, after we got married, my husband insisted for
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    me to stop working altogether since his paycheck can cover everything and help us live comfortably so I agreed. Last Monday when I got home after I bought groceries. He asked how much was it, I told him it's $950 since he has requests and
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    additions to the list. If not it will be only $850 just like every month. After that, he got angry at me and told me to stop using his paycheck since it's not my money. I explained to him that I followed the list and got his
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    request. He didn't listen and said that I'm basically throwing it all away. I was taken aback since I only use his money to pay the bills and utilities. I have a side job for my interests and I never ask him something unless I needed it.
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    I was so angry at his accusation that after that day I began to dig up my old stuff and used it instead and I also stopped wearing or using his gifts. He confronted me and asked why, I only said that I don't feel like throwing his money away, he looked sad and left.
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    When I told my friends about it, they said that what I did was petty and I should just listen, some of them said that I should be pettier. My parents are reprimanded me for taking things too far. It's been four days now
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    and we haven't talked. I'm starting to think that I really did went too far. Am I the for rejecting his gifts? Edit: Since people are asking about why we spend such amount on groceries every
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    month, I would like to add that we have our weekly dinner with our friends and family, and we're usually the host. My husband. likes getting those high-quality products so I can cook those 5 star like dishes for our family and friends. I hope you understand.
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    Material_Cellist4133 • 21h ago NTA. But you need to find yourself a good job so you don't go down the path of financial abuse. If he can throw money in your face once, he can do it again. 21K Reply
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    throwawtphone • 21h ago 1. You are a grown up. Why are your parents reprimanding you? 2. You are a grown up. Why is your husband reprimanding you? 3. You are a grown up. You and only are in charge of your life. NTA. 7.3K Reply
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    SpecificHaunting5517 • 21h ago NTA. His comment about "his" money was hurtful, and your reaction wasn't extreme. You're justified in feeling upset. A serious conversation about finances and respect is needed. 5.9K Reply
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    Skyeblue0922 • 21h ago There is a deeper, scarier thing happening here and you seem to be blind to it. I will never understand women who believe their husbands when they tell them to stop working as they will take care of them and kids. That is so, so stupid! It doesn't matter how much money you have spent, although some people think that the amount you told us is crazy for
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    just two people. You have explained to him that you followed a list. Who made that list? Him or you, or both of you? Because if it's both of you he can't say what he did as it makes no sense. If he did, the he is an for telling you off. Let's read through the scenario below Your husband is beginning to show his true colours. You need to look up 'financial abuse' and
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    read upon it. Because that's how it starts. Your husband told you that you don't have to work because he earns enough, then when you spend money he throws it in your face and accuses you on spending HIS money. That's step one. If you don't have your own savings and separate accounts, you are bound to him and you are trapped step two. -
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    What do you think will happen if children come? You will have no power over anything because he is earning money and you do not. - step three. He goes and does whatever he wants, whether it is buying stuff, spending money on whatever HE WANTS, partying, cheating - literally anything because he earns money and you don't. He is allowed and you are not. - step four.
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    The above may not apply to you but if you are not careful they will. Get up, get a job, not a side gig. Have separate accounts, earn money and be independent. Just because you are married to him doesn't mean you must be financially dependent on him. Never ever do that. And above it all: 1. Set clear boundaries 2. Agree on a budget for the
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    week or month and stick to it. 3. Tell him to do all the shopping or split the shopping so you do it separately. Be smart. 1.9K Reply
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    Educational-Goose484 • 21h ago First of all, your friends are as AHs as your husband. Second, go get a full time job and make more money. As you are sahw, he started to take you for granted. If you have this comment only for 100$ difference at age 26, what will you do when you are 40? 856 Reply
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    When I told my friends about it, they said that what I did was petty and I should just listen, some of them said that I should be pettier.
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