Wedding Called Off After 17-year Old Accidentally Reveals Infidelity Behind Her Uncle’s Relationship, the Family Accuses Her of Ruining His Marriage

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    r/AITAH • 21 hr. ago . catastrophiccarrot AITAH for accidentally 'ruining' a highly anticipated wedding through a compliment?
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    I (17F) have been staying at my uncle's house for a few weeks now. He is a handicapped man who lost both his legs to a car accident 5 years ago. Being a wheelchair user, he always believed that he would never get married or have a love life because of his age and physical limitations. However, he is a very
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    hilarious man with an entertaining personality and almost all our relatives love him and we all wanted him to find love. After a lot of match making he finally started dating a girl a year ago. They decided to get married on Sep 25th 2024.
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    A week ago I came across an Instagram post of my friend and in that pic I saw my uncle's gf chilling in the background. What I didn't notice was a guy standing next to her. She was wearing a beautiful dress, so I sent that pic to my uncle appreciating his girl's beauty. Turns out that the guy I ignored was her ex. There arose
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    some conflicts and he called off the marriage. She may or maynot have cheated on him, they didn't clarify anything. All my relatives are outraged after realising that I was the main reason for this. They told me that I should have shown something like this to proper adults instead of ruining a long awaited marriage. I tried telling
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    them that I didn't expect it to turn out like this but they all keep on insulting me for being a family ruiner. My uncle said that we should not try matchmaking in his case again and that he is not interested in anything anymore. My senseless action led to all this mess. I feel very guilty.
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    Edit 1: The picture was not taken long ago. It was clicked on Sep 10, at the birthday party of the said friend's sibling. Edit 2: After taking inspiration from all the people that told me I am not at fault, I mustered up the courage to ask my cousin what exactly happened. The GF was indeed cheating. I confirmed it.
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    Edit 3: Some people say this is Al & fake, I wish I could attach some proof but I am doomed if someone finds out here on reddit. It's literally public and I'm already on fire. I wish this was fake more than anyone.
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    I stated that my family loves my uncle, but hearing everyone's take on this, I am genuinely questioning it. I don't know much about the core family drama. involved in this because they don't consider me an adult to share any of it. They are inforcing the 'Forgive and forget' culture. My grandmother is still trying to
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    convince my uncle for a compromise. Apparantly I don't think she considers cheating as a problem? Don't question me. I am just as baffled as all of you!
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    Dashqu 21h ago Lets shoot the messenger!! ΝΤΑ
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    Twinkle_Starss • 21h ago NTA. You didn't ruin the marriage. It was a pre- existing issue that you unknowingly exposed.
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    RoboTon78 20h ago . They told me that I should have shown something like this to proper adults So, your disabled uncle is not a proper adult in the rest of your family's eyes? Oh, and...NTA.
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    Kathrynlena • 20h ago So wait, your family thinks it would have been better if your uncle never found out his fiancé cheated on him and just ignorantly married the cheater anyway? Jesus! What a bunch of ableist !!
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    Your uncle is not some charity case who should gratefully accept whatever cheating is willing to "make the terrible sacrifice" of marrying him. He's a good man with a great sense of humor who happens to use a wheelchair.
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    He's allowed to have as high of standards for a partner as anyone! Whoever he ends up with will be just as lucky to be with him as he will be to be with her. If your uncle was able bodied and his fiancé cheated, no one would think you "ruined his wedding" by
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    accidentally alerting him to the cheating. They would rightfully blame the cheating fiancé for ruining her own wedding, and breaking your uncle's heart! This deeply ableist belief that "this was his only chance and you ruined it by revealing she was a
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    person, but is all he can hope for so it would have been better if he never found out, so this is your fault, OP!" is absolutely disgusting. Your uncle deserves better from his future partners and WAY better from his ableist family, who don't seem to see him as a whole person
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    equally deserving of love, loyalty and respect.
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    Bitter_Animator2... • 20h ago You did nothing wrong you gave him info that he needed and he made the choice ATM he's will be hurting and it's better he found out now because divorces are way more messy

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