Woman Cuts Off ‘Struggling’ BFF After She Steals Her Credit Card and Spends $500 on Food Catering for Her 1 Y/O Son's Birthday

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Oct 4, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

Don't you just love birthdays? Especially when you're celebrating the first year of one of your longtime BFF's children? Nothing would make me more sentimental. I remember finding out one of my old best friends was pregnant with her first child. I can only imagine what it'll be like seeing that baby on her first birthday, just taking it all in. As a best friend, you'll likely want to help out with the decorating and planning. Don't let your best friend duties make you feel like you're not allowed to get angry when your money is taken right from under your nose.

The woman in this story has decided to cut off her longtime best friend. She didn't want to but was left with no choice after her best friend somehow got ahold of her credit card and charged $500 on it for her one-year-old's birthday catering. The woman and original poster (OP) still does not understand how her best friend managed to get her card information. Even after confronting her, the woman is told that she is being selfish and she should be jumping at the opportunity to help her struggling friend. Well, if you're struggling, $500 on catering doesn't seem like a good move.

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    stormed over to my house, ranting about why I was making such a big deal by telling her parents and reminding me that we've been best friends who literally grew up together.
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    AITA for blocking my childhood best friend after she tried to make me pay for the catering at her son's first birthday?
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    So here's the thing-me (28F) and Anna (28F) have been best friends since forever. Like, we grew up together, went through school, first breakups, everything. Naturally, when she had her baby, I was thrilled for her. I even helped plan the baby shower and got super involved in her life as a new mom. But recently, things have gotten weird.
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    Anna's son turned one last weekend, and she wanted to throw a huge party. I'm talking over-the-top: rented venue, professional catering, decorations, the whole shebang. Now, I thought we were just going to have a nice little family-and- friends thing, but nope, Anna had a vision. Fine, no biggie. I figured she could do whatever made her happy for her son's big day.
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    Fast forward to a week before the party. Anna starts hinting that she's "a little stressed" about costs and how "tight things are right now." I get it, having a baby is expensive, but she kept bringing it up in every conversation. I offered to help with decorations or pick up some snacks, but she waved it off, saying she had everything under control.
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    The day of the party comes, and it's chaos, balloons everywhere, a bouncy house, tons of people I didn't even know. I show up early to help set up, and Anna's running around like a headless chicken. Then, as we're putting out the decorations, she casually says, "Oh, by the way, I put the catering on your card."
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    I hadn't even seen a catering bill, let alone agreed to pay for one. "Uh, what do you mean you put it on my card?" I asked, trying to stay calm. She looked at me like I was being dramatic and goes, "Yeah, you know I've been struggling. I figured you wouldn't mind covering it, and I'll pay you back later." Excuse me?!
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    First of all, I never once said she could use my card, and second, I had no clue how much this catering even cost. When I asked, she shrugged and said, "Only about $500. It's not a big deal." $500! For food I didn't even order or agree to pay for.
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    I told her no way. I wasn't paying for something she never asked permission for, and frankly, I didn't have that kind of money just lying around. She acted all shocked and hurt, saying I was being selfish and how it was her son's first birthday. As if I'm supposed to go into debt for a party I didn't even throw!
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    We had a massive argument in front of some of her other friends, and I ended up leaving early. Later that night, she blew up my phone with texts saying I ruined her son's day, that I was being a terrible friend, and how I didn't understand how hard things are for her right now.
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    I just couldn't believe the audacity. After everything, I blocked her. I couldn't deal with the guilt-tripping, especially over something so ridiculous. Now, some mutual friends have reached out, saying I was too harsh and that I should've just helped her out because "she's
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    struggling." But I feel like she crossed a line. You don't just throw someone's money into your plans without asking them, right? So, AITA for blocking her? Or did I overreact?
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    EDIT: To everyone asking why she has access to my card is still a question to me. Maybe she went through my things when I visited her to help babysit her son a day before his birthday. On how she did it? I don't know, but I already filed a dispute with my bank about the charge. I will be checking my card to see if there are any other things she purchased using my card. I really can't imagine that she could do this to me.
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    Update: AITA for blocking my childhood best friend after she tried to make me pay for the catering at her son's first birthday?
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    I never expected this to blow up- thank you all for your advice. I have already filed a dispute with my credit card company. I also told her parents about the incident, and they were shocked by her behavior. They said they would talk to her. I figured they already did because after I told them what happened, she
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    stormed over to my house, ranting about why I was making such a big deal by telling her parents and reminding me that we've been best friends who literally grew up together. I explained where she went wrong, but instead of taking accountability, she accused me
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    of being selfish. She clearly isn't in the right mind. I don't know if she's experiencing postpartum issues, but I'm not going to tolerate this kind of treatment. I also told her that if she didn't stop harassing me over a problem she created, I will file a restraining order.
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    As for the money she used, I've decided to follow your advice and press charges, so she can (hopefully) learn her lesson. For those doubting if this story is real, I wish it wasn't. Not only was my trust shattered, but so was my heart.
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    PetrogradSwe • 22h ago. NTA That's fraud... Also if one is "struggling" one doesn't spend $500 on a one year old's birthday party. Your former friend is ridiculous.
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    • toxicrayofsuns... 18h ago Your ex-friend sounds entitled You may want to seriously consider canceling the card she used and getting a new one issued. I know it's a pain but you never know if she'll use it again to be petty. You're still NTA but it sounds like you could use some better friends.
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    blackravenmetal • 18h ago That's good you pressed. charges. She needs to be held accountable and face the consequences.
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    I_Dont_Like_R... . 18h ago. It's amazing how formerly reasonable people turn into entitled monsters once they have a child. Like the world owes them. I lost a best friend when she had her kid, too, OP. I was the one who held her hand as she gave birth. We parted
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    9 • 00 17h ago Edited 13h ago • • Did you figure out if she used your card for anything more than the birthday party? She deserves it to have charges pressed against her. The fact that she's doubling down and doesn't see where she's wrong is very concerning.
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