Man Ruins Honeymoon When He Secretly Invites Another Couple to Tag Along, Making Newly Wed Wife Question Their Relationship

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 13, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. In any healthy relationship, your feelings should be respected. You should be able to put clear boundaries where needed, and to share your feelings, however vulnerable, with them. If you feel like you can't even speak up about your basic desires, wants, needs, and feelings, then there's no point in continuing the relationship. It will never go anywhere if you feel like you're silenced, or your feelings aren't respected. 

In this Reddit thread, it centers around a newly wed couple. As they're planning their honeymoon, the husband tells the wife that he's thinking of inviting his best friend and his wife. The woman puts her foot down, saying she's not comfortable with that, and that she wants it to be just the two of them. To her shock, when they arrive at their hotel on the first night of their honeymoon, she sees the other couple. Do I hear annulment? 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH • 8 hr. ago Due-Ad5669 AITA for telling my husband he ruined our honeymoon?
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    So, my husband and I just got back from our honeymoon, and honestly, I've been holding onto a lot of frustration since we returned. We had both been so excited about it because it was our first big trip together as a married couple. It was supposed to be a romantic, once-in-a- lifetime experience, but it turned
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    out to be anything but that for me.
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    A few weeks before the wedding, my husband started talking about how it would be "fun" if we invited his best friend and his wife to join us for part of the honeymoon. I immediately told him that I wasn't comfortable with the idea because I wanted this trip to be about us, but he kept bringing it up, saying it
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    would make the trip "more exciting" and less "boring." I stuck to my guns and thought I had made it clear that it wasn't happening. Well, we arrive at our destination, and to my shock, his best friend and wife are waiting at the hotel lobby. My husband had secretly invited them anyway, saying it would be "no big deal"
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    and that we could still have our alone time. But the entire trip turned into group dinners, shared activities, and zero intimacy. I barely got any time with just him, and when I brought it up, he acted like I was overreacting. He said we could go on a "private vacation" another time, and that I should be grateful we got to travel at all.
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    When we got home, I told him he ruined what was supposed to be our special honeymoon. He just shrugged and said I was making it a bigger deal than it was, and that "we'll have plenty of other trips." I can't shake the disappointment, though, and he still doesn't seem to get why I'm upset.
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    AITA for feeling like my honeymoon was ruined and telling him so?
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    eve_tpa .7h ago • Besides ignoring your wishes and going behind your back, I'm concerned that your husband thinks spending time with you alone is boring NTA, btw
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    • KindlyCelebrati... 7h ago. NTA. He couldn't manage to even pretend to care about your wants/needs/opinion or respect you for even one week after your wedding. Has the license been filed yet?
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    bythebrook88 • 7h ago • saying it would make the trip "more exciting" and less "boring." He thought a holiday with his new wife would be boring? OP, he doesn't love
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    you. Get out of the marriage immediately.
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    need2gopractice • 7h ago • So, what did you do with that friend who supposedly had been living with you rent-free for the past year? You know, from that other thing you posted four days ago? ②
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    ShingshunG 8h ago • NTA: sounds like your husband doesn't care about anything you think or feel. He's showing you who he is, might be worth trying to protect your assets now
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    DaisyxCharm 8h ago • NTA You clearly - communicated your wishes, and he disregarded them. Your frustration is valid, especially for such a special trip.
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    thechemist_ro • 7h ago • Annulment is still an option, just so yknow...
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    • Shichimi88 7h ago • Nta. Time to annul the marriage. It's not too late. He doesn't even consider your feelings at all. Don't have a child with him.
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    Severe-Definitio... • 7h ago • Divorce Annulment
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    Particular_Lime_... • 8h ago • NTA. The honeymoon trip was supposed to be a personal trip for the both of you to enjoy it by yourselves. Bringing his friend was very wrong as you guys could still go to other trips together. He should have listened to your
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    should have listened to your needs and honestly he needs to change that before you guys end up breaking up
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    flingebunt 8h ago • Once someone changes plans without consideration. of the other, then they are the AH. Talk to hotel staff at honeymoon focused hotels and most will tell you about all the angry arguing couples who turn up on their honeymoon.
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    It isn't about your honeymoon being ruined, but about it being about what he wants, not what you both want. You are NOT the AH to be upset with him.
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