‘[It was] the final straw’: Spoiled SIL Pulls Mean Prank on MOH, So Couple Cancels Wedding, Un-Invites Husband’s Immediate Family, and Elopes to Hawaii

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Oct 21, 2024 7:00 PM EDT

When you marry someone, you are not only getting all of that person, but you are also getting their family. It is important that you meet at least the immediate family of your partner before saying "I do." And it is important that you and your partner know how you feel about each other's family. Because what if they are sociopaths and are constantly trying to ruin your day? Would you really want to sign yourself up to be responsible for people like that in your life forever? Depends, right? Well, in this case, the couple was on the same page with the in-laws disaster. 

The bride did not get along with the groom's little sister, and neither did he. His parents spoiled her rotten and never stopped. They forced the bride to include her in the bridesmaids and she did, just to be nice. However, the issues immediately arose. Eventually, it got so bad that the couple canceled the wedding and changed it to a destination wedding in Hawaii that only included their close friends and the bride's close family, the groom's family was 86d. See how it all went down below!

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    "My Future SIL is the reason I'm canceling my wedding, and instead doing a destination wedding!"
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    My Future SIL is the reason I'm canceling my wedding, and instead doing a destination wedding! Hi I'm am using a fake account because several of my in-laws are aware of my other account. So I am F 31, my now husband is M 30; and my SIL is F 19. My husband does not have the best relationship with his sister due to his parents favoring her (MIL F 59, FIL 59). A Little background my husband parents where having marital issues, and heading for divorce around the time my husband sister was conceived,
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    decided to seek counseling and get help. In the end they resolved their problems and their relationship became stronger. They view their daughter as the reason they were able to save their marriage. She is spoiled, some examples; they got her a car for her birthday she totaled in 4 days, she borrowed her mom's car after and had it totaled too. Due to her reckless driving the insurance company will not allow her to be insured under her parents.
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    We were dating at the time when his mother asked my husband if he could please put her on his insurance and she would pay. My husband at the time was buying a new car and didn't want to deal with this situation and told his mother no. Another example was we had gotten tickets to see Taylor Swift in Europe for a vacation alone. His sister found out and demanded that she go instead of me, his father called and demanded that we change our plans and he takes his sister, my husband said he could not
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    harrased for months for this. Finally 3. months after we were engaged we visited his parents; at the time his sister had a friend living with her and her parents F17. This friend developed a crush on my husband; he was extremely uncomfortable with the girls attention towards him. His sister wanted them to date and asked his parents to talk to him about it; he refused and said he was engaged and is not interested is teen girls.
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    Now to the wedding; my in-laws are only attending if I make my SIL a bridesmaid. I agree to keep the peace and gave it to her as a honorary roll and don't expect her to be involved as much as my other bridesmaids. The problems started immediately; first she was flirting with another bridesmaids boyfriend and sending him inappropriate text (we don't know how she got the number). She refused to walk with her cousin who is a groomsman; and tried to get her parents involved to switch to walk next to
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    The final straw was with what she did to my MOH; my MOH is my cousin and my best friend. My MOH is the same age as me, we are born 3 month apart to the day. We get mistaken as sisters and sometimes our extended family mixes us up. Our Moms are sisters. I am protective of my MOH and the godmother to her children. My MOH is hard of hearing and has to wear hearing aids due to an infection she had as a child. My MOH sometimes talks loud because she can't hear and judge her own volume. She doesn't ha
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    she had to do speech therapy for years as a child and had to attend a school for children with hearing disabilities until middle school. My SIL has been teasing my MOH nonstop, yelling and saying I just wanted to make sure she heard me. She made a reference to my Godchildren being born out of wedlock, and said her boyfriend (the best man and the father of her children) will come to his senses and find a "tight woman". My MOH has been quiet about all this because she doesn't want to cause problem
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    At the Bridal shower my husband and myself both were aware and gave our blessing to have his best man propose, to my cousin the MOH. It happened and everyone was so excited except for my SIL; the final straw was when my MOH was heading back to the table (she took out her hearing aids because the music was causing her a headache) the hearing aids where in a glass of water with my SIL laughing. I was done and removed her from the wedding party, and disinvited her from the wedding unless she is in
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    My In-laws were blowing up our phones; saying that their daughter was only joking around and that's her sense of humor and my MOH can't take a joke. They said if she cannot come to the wedding they will not come. This has been going on for months. **** few updates ****** 24 hours later (from the bridal shower) I call my fiancé, (my husband because we are technically legally married. We just didn't have a ceremony yet; this was done earlier in the year for insurance issues.)
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    Two my MOH my cousin was able to get her hearing aids replaced by her audiologist; (she had them insured, my Husband covered the deductible; not for his sister sake but because he cares for my cousin an is embarrassed) My Husband family is on our side; apparently we have been flooded with phone calls and messages of support from his family. The reason why, because they also have stories of how badly my sister-in-law has acted towards them. My husband has already said that, my family is his and a
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    We have decided with the help of our wedding planner to do a destination wedding pushing the wedding date back six months In Hawaii; we got most of our deposits back, family is helping with the rest. My husband has called his parents and told them they are not invited and his sister will not be invited. They are livid and have started as of an hour ago going to social media to tell their side of the story;
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    they clam that their daughter was just making jokes and pranks. Nobody has been buying it. They tried to contact my parents who shut them down immediately; we have other family members who also are hard of hearing or deaf due to a genetic condition that runs in the family, most of the family is hearing but everyone looks out for the members that are not. They are embarrassed and hung up the phone. This is where we are now and will update if things change.
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    Ok_Nectarine9782 . 21h ago. This is crazy. I'm still not understanding how ruining expensive medical equipment is just someone's "sense of humor". So sorry you're dealing with this StormBeyondTime • 20h ago. She's lucky the MOH is apparently too gentle to sue them for the cost of the hearing aids. The last time I looked at the price of the things (for my dad) cheaper ones were $3,000 before insurance, and THAT was the mid-2010s. I've seen cheaper used cars. (Dad would have to go through the VA t
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    Salty-Conversation54 20h ago. I wear hearing aids. I would be so angry if someone did that to me. To go without them for even a day would be horrible. You feel so lost and out of sync with the world around you. Your sister in law is a horrible person and so are her parents for defending her behavior. anneofred • 19h ago • Yeah, I don't even understand posting to explain it was a "prank" or "joke"....everyone knows this is expensive equipment and it's super up. Zero people would read that and thi
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    • JustALizzyLife 20h ago She just lit her wheelchair on fire, it's not like she was in it! (/s) JFC the whole family is a piece of work. I'm so glad your DH has a shiny spine and the rest of the extended family is supporting you as well. Hearing aids are not cheap! I'm glad she had insurance on them. I absolutely despise the trend of "it's just a prank." If both parties aren't laughing, it's not funny. If it destroys someone's personal property, it's not funny. If it harms someone in any way, it
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    Texaskate 10h ago • I think OP should have her MOH press charges for destruction of property...at that price point, I bet the police and/or DA would be willing to make a case of it with all the evidence, witnesses and acknowledgment she did it as a prank. It's possible facing the consequences of her actions in a police station and/or courtroom might result in her learning a valuable lesson. Who I'm kidding? SIL is a horrible person (thanks to her parents), and I'd assume Mommy and Daddy would bl
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    Mrs Retiree2Be 20h ago • Good for you for making plans that don't include this spoiled child and her enablers! PuddleLilacAgain • 20h ago. I feel like you should go over, set something valuable of theirs on fire, and laugh uproariously, saying, "It's just a prank!" /s obviously. Please don't actually do this
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    StormBeyondTime • 20h ago. Yeah, no. "Saved the marriage by existing" does not give them the right to spoil or enable her, or demand everyone else do so. I'm glad that the rest of the ILs refused to become a flock of flying monkeys for them. You do you, look out for your husband, and have the best party of the century.
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    Beneficial_Syrup_869 • 20h ago • Holy ! But also sign up SIL number and email for spam, it's a micro aggression but it feels good when I do it (have only done it 2x to ex friends who was horrible and an ex coworker who was severely homophobic). Can you imagine how many lives she wreck her life and she's only 17.
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    ArcticTraveler2023 19h ago. • Things will not change because the SIL is ignorant, uneducated, and a spoiled brat. The parents can deal with her. You have every right to completely cut her out of your life and if the parents are upset, too bad. That's just the way it is. Do not let this awful person who is toxic and ruin your life. End the relationship in total right now.
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