Man Kicks Mother Out of Wedding After She Brings His Ex-Girlfriend as Her Plus One: 'I always liked her more'

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    r/Amithe u/ThrowRAOpposite_Poet 22h AITA For Kicking my Mother out of my Wedding After She Brought my Ex as Her Plus One
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    I (M30) started seeing June (F29) about 3 years ago. My mother has never really liked June for a couple reasons, the main one being the fact that June didn't let my mom push her around. She kept firm boundaries which I really admired and she even helped me do the same. My mom hated this, calling June controlling and wishing I hadn't broken up with my previous girlfriend Margo, who my mom loved. I was with Margo for 5 years and it was horrible.
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    Margo was very controlling and manipulative and always guilted me into things I wasn't comfortable with. But thanks to support from friends and my sister, I was able to leave her. It was hard, but I had help and my life has improved since. My mom was very upset with this but relationships didn't last so she eventually let it go until I started dating June about a year later.
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    When June and I announced our engagement my mom didn't freak out, which was weird considering my mom hates June. She was very calm but I just took it as she was finally accepting this and so I didn't think much of it.
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    Everything was fine and smooth up until the wedding. I gave both my parents plus one's to the wedding since they both remarried after I graduated college. So I'm not close to their spouses but gave them the option of inviting them. We had a very small ceremony. Just immediate family and a few close friends. After the ceremony, me and June went to take pictures and then met back with everyone we invited to the reception which was pretty big. When we got there, My sister and June's best friend/mai
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    I wanted to freak but June kept me calm. I walked over, pulled them both aside, and simply told them to leave. My mom tried to explain Margo and I are soulmates and June is just in the way of true love but I wasn't hearing it. I didn't care. Just got my best friends to escort them out and I returned to the party where luckily, after a few moments, I was able to relax and enjoy it.
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    I really didn't think this would all turn into something huge but me and June just got back from our honeymoon where we didn't have our phones, and seeing mine I saw hundreds of texts from multiple family members.
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    They all think I was an for kicking my mom out of her only son's wedding. For the record, she was there for the ceremony but apparently was really upset she was kicked from the reception. Here's a summary of my family's thoughts. Some think I could have just ignored Margo and didn't have to "freak out." A few others, including my dad, think I should have just kicked Margo and let my mom stay but after the stunt my mom pulled, I didn't want her there either.
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    I'm starting to second-guess myself since everyone is really mad. June and my sister are on my side but I fear my dad may be right and I should have just let my mom stay and made Margo leave. So I've come to Reddit, AITA? 11.4k 1,467 1 ☑
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    NTA Kaynico. 21h Aficionado [11] "My wife and I will not be starting our marriage life together tolerating disrespect and sabotage. Mom's actions were beyond reprehensible, disgusting, and more than deserving of being removed from the celebration of my beautiful wife and I committing our lives to eachother. You are more than welcome to allow toxic people to destroy your happy moments, but this is not something I will tolerate for myself or my wife." Reply 17 22.6k
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    bunnywasabi • 20h Partassipant [1] OP please send this to everyone and block those who are defending your mom's action. NTA OP btw. Why is it you are expected to keep peace when your mom disrespected you and your wife on your wedding day? I'd consider NC too after this whole thing with your mom OP. ← 1.4k
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    Organized_Khaos • 19h I love this statement, but with a caveat: OP, you need to tell the full story to everyone and anyone, because they won't have any context for the disrespect otherwise. Tell them your mother brought your manipulative ex to your reception, tell them why, what your mother actually said to your face at the reception, what your life was like with Margo, and frankly, what it has been up to now with your mother. The above post only works if people know why you're drawing a line, s
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    Basically, by trying to walk away and be the bigger person all the time, you've given your mother time and space to set the public narrative and tell only her side of the story to family and friends. All those people who left you messages probably have no clue what really went down, they just know a mother wasn't able to celebrate her child's marriage (So sad! She's a victim!).
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    Congratulations on developing the strength and the skill set to walk away from the manipulation, and now it's time to develop a new skill: fighting back. You do that by talking, texting and telling the full story to anyone who thinks they know better. And you keep it up from now on, anytime you interact with her. Get louder, call her out on her in the moment, and let her suffer the consequences of her actions in front of others. 1963
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    Bainrow17 18h Yup...this! OP...don't forget to send that message to your dad as well. He may need reminder. 268 ☑
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    ΝΤΑ Apprehensive_War9612 • 21h Partassipant [1] Kicking Margo out would not have been enough. (Side note, who tf goes to their ex's wedding with his mom? psycho.) you mother actively tried to sabotage your wedding. She brought an abusive ex & then said your new wife was in the way. That's appalling. She deserved to be kicked out and your family should acknowledge that she clearly didn't want to be there. She wanted to hurt you and your wife. Reply 15k
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    titatyy • 21h Yes, Margo clearly doesn't have an ounce of selfrespect for her to go to an exes wedding after the relationship ended badly. And for mommy dearest, she just damaged her relationship with her son and future grandkids for nothing. ← 1.2k
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    ilovechairs 20h • I can't believe that there are grown adults who are so childish and petty they'll go to an ex's wedding as a mean spirited plus one, when you broke up four years ago. She could have gotten a whole degree in that time period, but she still wants to be the same person who got dumped. NTA OP - Block and go live your life with your new wife. ✓ 360
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    NTA CinderellaGoneCrazy ⚫ 21h Enthusiast [7] Why would you have let your mum stay? 1. She was disrespectful to both you and your wife and your wedding. 2. She said mean things about your wife on your wedding day AT the wedding. 3. She would've complained the rest of the reception about you kicking Margo out and ruined it for both you and your wife. So again, why?? Why are you in contact with her at all actually? Reply 1.9k
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    AwesomeAsian ⚫ 21h Colo-rectal Surgeon [40] NTA - Your wedding, your rules. If there's one day you get to be selfish with your partner, it's this day. And what your mom did was manipulative (and Margo for going along with it). Maybe your mom and Margo should start dating each other since they have things in common like being controlling and manipulative. Reply 248
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    Fionsomnia • 16h Enthusiast [8] I feel it's not even a "your wedding, your rules" kind of situation. Pretty sure Don't bring an ex to a wedding for the purpose of sabotaging the marriage and ruining the event is a universal rule for all weddings. 110
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    NTA janneholly ⚫ 21h Your mom crossed a line by inviting your ex, Margo, to your wedding reception without permission. This was disrespectful to both you and your wife, and you had every right to ask them both to leave. Your wedding day was about you and June, and your mom's actions undermined that. While some family members may be upset, you were right to protect your boundaries and the peace on your special day Reply 85
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    NTA davekayaus 21h • You need to go hard NC with your mother. What a piece of work. Explain the circumstance of your mother bringing your manipulative ex to your WEDDING RECEPTION to tell you to marry her instead. If they still insist that you shouldn't have kicked her out for this(!!) then tell those family members to kindly I off. Then block. Reply 72

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