17-year-old walks out of his birthday party after his mom gave him a gender reveal of his unborn siblings as a birthday present: 'Everyone was saying I'm a spoiled brat for walking off'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Oct 31, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

I will never understand why people want to double up on "special days." If you could have a 4th of July party and a birthday party on two different days, why combine them into one day? I get that it's difficult to get people to show up for one special event, let alone two, but as long as they're spaced apart in a reasonable way, there's no reason you should have to do a halfhearted birthday celebration because of an unrelated event. I don't care how old you are; if your birthday is consistently eclipsed by some other holiday or by uncaring family members, it can get you down. 

The teenager in this story got his birthday overshadowed by the gender reveal of his baby sibling. That's bad on its own, but the fact that his mom gave him the gender reveal in place of an actual gift is wild. 

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    AITAH for storming out of my birthday party after my mom did her gender reveal at my (17M) birthday party?
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    So I'm using a throwaway account to hide my identity from friends who said I'm the AH for walking out of my birthday party. Everyone was coming up to a stage to share what they got me for my birthday. My mom was the last one, and she revealed the gender of my new sibling. I was just so annoyed because I already feel my parents attention deviating from me. I just wanted one last day about me, but I see I can't have that anymore. I stormed out and my girlfriend went after me to tell me it was pret
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    Deep_Mood_7668 Gender reveals are one of the most idiotic traditions we have ΝΤΑ
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    3springers My gender reveal was calling my family and saying "it's a boy"
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    flower-purr It's also one of the tackiest things to do on occasions like weddings, engagement parties, graduations and obviously birthday parties. I've even heard people do it on funerals.
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    mjw217 Not a gender reveal, but my cousin's wife announced her pregnancy at my brother's (19) shiva (sort of like a wake, only Jewish). What really ped me off was that I was also pregnant, but didn't say anything.......... considering my parents had just, very unexpectedly lost their youngest child. (Heart attack - he had so much blockage, his heart was like an eighty year old's.) She wanted to "make everyone feel better"! Getting engaged, announcing a pregnancy, revealing the gender, and any ot
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    Chaoticgood790 who tf thinks a gender reveal is a gift anyways? so tacky. One more year OP and then you can leave this behind
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    canuckleheadiam I guess it is a gift if you are a self absorbed parent who doesn't really care much about their older child.
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    Beth21286 Just wait til the babysitting requests start coming in.
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    East-Salt-9570 As a mother I could never make a day that is for my child be about me. That is beyond selfish. I'm sorry that that happened and imo you are NTA. Your mother saw an opportunity to save a buck and make it about her and that s ks. One more year and you can leave.
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    sexygirl35uk As a mother, the only way I'd make my current childs birthday about me is if I went into labour.... and at that point, I haven't really got much of a choice
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    YogaScaresWaldo I'm more confused about the fact that people came up to a stage to say what they got you for your birthday? Like my guy this is a setup from the rip. I'm surprised nobody pulled anything more ridiculous before then
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    wooties05 I'm probably going to get down voted to but yta. Maybe it's because I'm 38 and old but do you really need to have the attention on you all the time? Life is going to be hard if you're going to get upset about attention. Id suggest learning how to control your emotions. when you say "coming up to the stage" it makes me feel like this was somewhat extravagant. Idk man I'd be thrilled if my parents threw me a bday party. Just feels like some episode of my sweet 16. Im sorry that you feel
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    shammy_dammy One more year and you can get out of this completely. NTA. At that point in time, it ceased to be your birthday party and became your mother's gender reveal. No reason for you to stay.
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    xCupcakeQueen I agree. It's just one more year until you can focus on your own life without feeling overshadowed. Your birthday should be about you, and when it turned into a gender reveal, it lost that significance. You had every right to leave when it stopped feeling like your celebration OP. NTA
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    inchyradreams NTA. Your parents didn't even get you a gift and your mom made your night all about her. You have a right to be angry. Don't let other people invalidate your feelings about this, it sounds like there are some underlying issues in your family. I'm that sorry your birthday was ruined. When you turn 18, celebrate it exactly how you want - start planning your dream 18th birthday now. Learn to treat yourself kindly, even when others don't.
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    Aggravating-Sock6502 Adding on to say, this mother sounds full on narcissistic and I would not be at all surprised if she tries to force OP into "stepping up and being a hands-on big brother," i.e., parentification. OP, if you're not familiar with this term, google it. Don't let your mother force you into a parenting role for your new sibling, no matter how much she guilts, screams, cries, or says, "because FaMilY." YOU are not having this baby, SHE is, and the responsibility is hers and the bab
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    Consistent_Snow_7735 NTA she made YOUR birthday about her end of story
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