Girl Gets Detention For Not Standing Up For Teacher While Student Defames Her, Mother Gets Involved, Saying it’s Not Her Daughter’s Responsibility to Stand Up for Her Teachers

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 18 hr. ago United_Dog8946 AITAH for being unhappy about my daughter being punished for not "standing up" for her teacher?
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    Yesterday my 8th grade daughter's English class was doing a group activity, and my daughter was placed in a group with 3 other people (two guys and another girl). They were working at a table outside of the classroom.
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    Her teacher suddenly called one of the boys (who my daughter barely knows) who was in her group into her office to meet privately, and when he came back he was really angry. The class just handed in a major essay the other day, and the teacher believes that he plagiarized it and told him she'd be giving him a
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    zero and having a conference with his parents. To my knowledge she didn't have any super specific proof (like it setting off an Al detector), her reasoning was that his writing on this essay seemed dramatically different from that of his previous essays. The boy insisted that this was not the case and that he wrote it all by himself.
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    He was really angry and went on a big rant about the teacher and the situation when he returned to the group. He said some pretty nasty stuff about her, calling her a btch", "fat "rtard", and " liar". Unbeknownst to him, the teacher was watching and listening in on this conversation the whole time.
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    The other girl in the group expressed some agreement with the boy as he ranted, while my daughter and the other boy remained quiet and just sat and listened (this was confirmed by the teacher herself). After a few minutes of listening to him rant and complain the teacher came out and told him he had to go to the principal's office.
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    Near the end of class, the teacher gave the other three people in the group (including my daughter) forms for after school Friday detention. Even though my daughter said absolutely nothing agreeing with the boy, her teacher says she should have "said something" instead of just sitting and listening to him call her names.
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    When I spoke to her principal about it, he also sided with the teacher. He said that he thinks it's unacceptable for a student to just sit idly by if they hear their classmates using offensive language about a teacher or peer, and that my daughter had a responsibility to "stand up" for her teacher or report it.
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    It seems really unfair and ridiculous to me that my daughter can be punished for something someone else said and did, and I don't think I'm done fighting this detention. AITAH?
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    penguinswithf... • 17h ago ΝΤΑ. Hit 'em with "I think it's unacceptable for a teacher to stand idly by allowing my daughter to be exposed to such language. My daughter would never speak that way, as her
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    teacher confirmed, and she was made incredibly uncomfortable by the situation. While her peer's. language was innapropriate, it is not her responsibility as a student to correct that behavior. As an educator, her teacher absolutely does have that responsibility, and she chose to shirk that
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    responsibility out of spite; forcing my daughter to listen to this for an entire class period, only to punish her at the end."
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    ExtentEmpty1... • 17h ago • NTA. It feels pretty harsh to expect a middle schooler to stand up in a situation like that, especially when the teacher was watching the whole thing unfold. Your daughter didn't join in on the comments she just
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    stayed quiet, which is pretty common when kids don't want to get involved in drama. It's tough to expect someone, especially a kid, to know the "right" move in that situation
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    Aggrophysicist • 17h ago. NTA The principal is trying to railroad you. Stick to your guns. In NO way shape or form is it another students responsibility to address behavior of another student in class. Would the principal find it more appropriate to engage with a student that
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    find it more appropriate to engage with a student that is already cursing and causing issues in class? Your daughter remained quiet until the teacher addressed the situation. That is all they are expected to do not insert themselves into situations.
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    Angelina_2001 • 17h ago • NTA why is your young child responsible for anything that kid said. She's not responsible for defending grown people.
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    I_wanna_be_an... • 17h ago • Top Commenter NTA Tell the principal that in no way should your daughter have to endanger herself by drawing the attention of boy who thinks it's acceptable to use that kind of language in context. Aka he's learned it from
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    somewhere, and likely seen violence to go along with said words. You're not going to let your daughter be made a target by a spineless adult incapable of acting like an appropriate authority figure.
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    Rip him a new one and demand a review into teachers capabilities. If she's that sensitive or incapable of handling a situation with young children then she shouldn't be in a position of responsibility over them.

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