Woman Refuses to Be Doormat Ever Again After Cancelling Wedding Anniversary Plans to Cover Desparate Coworker's Shift Only to Find Out She Just Wanted to Watch a Movie

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    r/AmlOverreacting u/Key Pudding64 • 2d AIO I covered Halloween for coworker who pleaded for it, just to sit at home and watch nightmare before Christmas
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    I'm honestly heated AF about this and honestly I wish I could take this higher up but I need advice if I'm overreacting here.
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    My anniversary is Halloween. It's the day I met my SO. it's our wedding anniversary too. It's a very special day for us. We usually throw a vintage Halloween/anniversary party and invite truck or treaters and families in for live music, snacks, candy etc. We put a LOT of effort into it. This year we were going to do 1940s Halloween, with old style costumes and decorations. We even borrowed his grandma's old records for it. Our entire neighborhood looks forward to trick or treating at our place b
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    This year we aren't doing it and I'm deFLATED. I started working here in April. I told them my first day of work that I needed this day off because we already have plans. It's the only day I asked for and I haven't taken any days off all year.
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    My coworker was hired the same time as me. She's much older, she lives with her adult granddaughter. Monday she sees she's scheduled for Halloween and totally flips out to our manager, literally in tears, saying she can't work that day that she's already made plans and has an extremely special family ritual she does every year and won't be able to come in. She said "Halloween is like my Christmas it's incredibly important to us" so my manager, who is also out of town and not available to be in,
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    week off work to care for her great grandma on her death bed. I explained to her it's my anniversary, we have a party, it's special to us too. But, I get it. We are the only people here it's only us three, it super sucks but my dumb coworker isn't coming in, and I just can't stomach forcing my manager to leave her soon-to-pass family member to WORK (I'm not a monster I couldn't do that) so I very reluctantly and sadly accept that I'm going to work Halloween.
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    Yesterday though I had to work with my coworker who is just pleased as punch about having her Halloween off and she's just bubbling about how special it is to her and how important it is, not even thanking me for covering for her just to talk about how excited she was. I told her yeah I get it, and she's like "oh no you don't get it. See there's this movie, nightmare before Christmas, and I watch it every Halloween since it came out. My kids and grandkids all grew up watching it with me." (Keep
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    mind, her adult kids don't talk to her anymore and her one adult grandkid still alive lives with her and she tells me she's going out with her friends to bars for Halloween). And I'm like, yeah its my wedding anniversary, and usually we do all this stuff and have the entire neighborhood over to celebrate but I can't this year because I'm spending my anniversary covering for you. What big plans do you have?
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    And she tells me, "I'm watching my movie. We don't do candy or anything and I don't like going out so it'll just be me this year." And I'm FLOORED. I'M LIKE, YOU MAKE ME COVER YOUR SHIFT SO YOU CAN WATCH ONE MOVIE. you could have watched that after work. I had a months planned party, my ANNIVERSARY. AND YOU WANTED TO WATCH A MOVIE.
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    And she says "well you don't get it, this movie is my LIFE I have tattoos about it. It's really important." As if mine isn't? I bet that people love this movie, it's not exactly niche and unknown it's a whole subculture of it's own. But I'm seriously furious that I had to give up and cancel my plans for this woman to watch a movie she could have done that after work. 3,488 307
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    1st2Fi • 2d You should be pissed and I would have a very real talk with your boss when they get back about that coworkers actions (empathizing we don't want to disturb the supervisor with family on deaths door right now). I also wouldn't keep my composure entirely with that coworker. Let her know you will literally never do her a favor or cover a shift for her again. ... Д 2k
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    awalktojericho. 2d Let your coworkers know, too. ... 12
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    PinkCheeseburgers • 2d I understand you didn't wanna inconvenience your manager but this day is more important to you and you should've stood your ground. Your manager could have denied this request, it's not on you to cover for everyone. As this was your one day off and most special day of the year that you explained way in advance there is no chance your manager should've allowed you to cover for the crying movie watcher. ... 715
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    ClothesEducational16 • 2d Exactly. This is not yr problem to deal with. Its yr manager's. And if she is out, its her manager's issues. ... 101
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    DissconnectNotReady • 2d What do you do that the place can't just be closed for the day and your boss can deal with reprimanding your coworker when they get back? This really should be viewed as her refusing to come into her shift and left completely on her. No one else needs to take the blame, no one needs to step up to cover from her. If I was a family/friend of yours who heard you weren't attending your annual anniversary party because some chick NEEDED to watch a movie, I'd be so pissed for
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    SuccotashConfident97 • 2d Eh, I get why you're pissed, but its your fault. If you aren't scheduled, don't feel obligated to come in. If work doesn't have enough employees for cover, that's their fault. 127
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    doomer_girl_emma • 2d Omg I would be soooo mad too! Look, I also grew up with that movie and yeah it's great but it's literally a 90 minute movie that anyone can watch it anytime. What a selfish woman! I would report this to your manager and see if you could even get some time off for this. Totally on your side 160
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    sativa_samurai • 2d . I'm sorry but you kind of earned this for not holding to your boundaries. You asked for the day off well in advance. Your coworkers lack of planning is not an emergency on your part. I would be looking for another job and I'd make it very clear to the manager that they put me in a bad position with the way they handled that employees negligence. 144
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    Velmabutgoth • 2d NOR, and I am sorry about your anniversary. Lesson learned- you aren't obligated to make up for other peoples shitty planning. ... → 83 ⇓
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    Warm Tumbleweed_4501 2d . YOR. What on earth could your co-worker had that rivaled an anniversary and community party and would have been "valid enough" for you to think you needed to cover. You didn't stick to your own boundaries and plans. Thats on you and you alone. ... 47
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    SlappyHandstrong ⚫ 1d Sorry, you only have yourself to blame. You were proactive in making sure you had this day off months ahead of time FOR YOUR ANNIVERSARY. Why would you give it up? You could've just as easily said no. & ㄱㅁ
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    zanne54. 2d Omg I'd lock the doors and go home to throw my party. And I'd NEVER lift a finger to assist that coworker ever again. I'd even try to make life more difficult for her if I had a plausibly deniable opportunity to do so 6⇓
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    Long LiveThePolish Dog ⚫ 2d I would be angry too - so next time don't fold. I've learned the hard way, those who beg to get their shifts covered RARELY return the favor. Never sacrifice a special event with your family for work. ... 2 2 4 3 ад

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