Parents give their 18-year-old son their property then try to convince the disinherited older sister to do all the paperwork for him: ‘He’s not doing anything'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Nov 5, 2024 6:00 AM EST

Part of being an older sibling is watching out for the youngest, and sometimes that means covering for them, helping them with homework, and maybe even doing a little grunt work to make the whole family's life easier. However, this woman had had enough of doing her teenage brother's dirty work–especially after their parents disinherited her from the family property. 

After their son turned 18 years old, these well-intentioned parents decided they wanted to leave a little piece of their legacy to him to help his future financially. Conveniently, their oldest child, a 30-something woman with her life put together, a family at home, and a dazzling career, was already on the title for the house, so they decided to dump the responsibility on her to handle all of the paperwork. Except they didn't do her the courtesy of warning her of the disinheritance and then expected her to handle all of the nitty-gritty details in the property owner transfer, rendering her teenage brother effectively useless. 

Keep scrolling to read how she gracefully handled this mildly infuriating family affair in order to teach her lil bro a less in managing your own responsibilities. 

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    AITA for telling my mom to ask my brother to help writing the paper to transfer the inheritance from me to my brother?
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    My parents give me a piece of property and then decided to give to my brother instead. I tell her I have no problem with it.
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    Due of the property law in my country, this is going to be tedious and while I don't mind my brother having the property, I want him to handle the inheritance transfer. My reason is that :
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    1. I work full time and have kids to take care of so my day is full already. 2. He's the beneficiary of this transfer and should have a bigger responsibility
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    What make me feel bad for not following my parents and help with the paper work is that My brother is only 18. He's probably too young to handle this. But I
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    do want him to at least research on it or draft something and I don't want the responsibility to fall on me alone. Also, he's literally just finish all his entrance exam and it's at
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    least another 2 months till he start college so he's not doing anything right now. Please let me know if I'm crazy to reject to help my parents.
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    WhereWeretheAdults NTA. Is the property in your name? If it is, why are you so willing to give it up? If it hasn't been transferred to you yet, then it's not your problem. Especially since you have no benefit in the action. They want to transfer it? Let them do it.
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    ahaeood OP There are 2 level of titles in my country. The soft title is already in my name. In the process of making hard titles, my parents decided to give to my brother instead and that means changing the soft title from my name to my brother
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    name first before starting the process of hard title in my brother name. I have no issue signing any legal document to make sure the property is passed to my brother as my parents wish but I don't want any extra responsibility. I'm burn out right now. I have full time job, 1 child (2 years old) and 2 nieces (5 years old and 7 years old) that I'm raising.
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    littlebitfunny21 In that case I definitely think the parents should be taking the lead. They're the ones who changed their mind for whatever reason. Why are they making it your problem?
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    ahaeood OP Normally I do all the taxes, utility payment and admin work for my family since I was really young so I supposed they expect me to keep doing it.
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    Ok Sprinkles 9729 Why can your parents NOT do their own taxes, pay utilities and administrative paperwork?
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    ahaeood OP It's just unspoken rule? Both my parents work very hard so growing up I take up any responsibility I can help and it just stick to me until now. I'm my brother's sister. I'm 30 and he's 18
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    Dixieland Insanity. It's bad enough they're taking back something they said you would receive. You're not their personal secretary. They can handle the paperwork themselves.
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    echo rosie NTA. for wanting your brother to have some accountability in this situation. You have made it clear you have no issue with him having any inheritance regarding the property, but all things
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    considered, he should be involved in its process since he is also benefiting from it. Now, it completely makes sense that you wouldn't want to deal with all the paperwork, as it's a bit too much to handle between a full time job and taking care of the family.
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    reasonable, And this is pretty asking your brother to contribute something, as he has all the time in his hands and is of the age when he must learn to get going through these types of duties.
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    It makes sense that one may feel bad, putting this on your brother after all, he is young. But at the same time, this does seem like a good opportunity for him to learn and grow. You are not dismissing your parents' wishes but setting boundaries
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    to your capacity and encouraging your brother to man up. It's a fairly evened out approach that you are taking into consideration, from your situation to his future responsibilities.
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