Woman Cancels Vacation Prematurely, Husband Gets Involved When She Tries to Rebook Despite Already Wasting Hundreds of Dollars, Causing Marital Strife

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Nov 6, 2024 12:00 PM EST

Welcome back CheezCake folks. Marriage is a constant tugging and thrusting on the tether between you and your husband. This oscillation can be enervating, but those sacred words "I do," don't seem to care about your struggles. "Through thick and thin" and through arguments, disagreements, and exacerbated conversations that seem to go in circles. It's true that it's all part of the marriage agreement, and communication and calmness will come in handy when things get too heated. It's always wise to keep your wits about you. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. It's a story about a married couple who are in a bit of a conundrum. They made plans for a vacation, albeit under the agreement that they would be staying at a certain hotel. As the clock is ticking closer to their vacation date, the hotel still has them waitlisted. They make an agreement, only to be misinterpreted when the hotel reserves them at the last minute. But you'll have to read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    r/AITAH • 15 hr. ago Creepy-Fruit9226 AITAH for refusing to re- book a weekend trip which my wife prematurely canceled before exploring all options?
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    My wife and I booked a weekend trip to one of our favorite cities months ago when there was a flash sale. We were really excited and began planning/booking everything we would do there, and she was excited that we could stay at her favorite hotel. Unfortunately, that hotel was full
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    so we were put on a wait list and booked a different hotel as a backup. As the months passed we began a countdown to the start of the trip and excitedly subtracted a day each morning. But once we got under 30 days, my wife's attitude changed and she became more sullen towards the trip. We still had not heard from the ideal
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    hotel and my wife began to accept that it would not happen. To add to this, the person who was going to check in on our teenagers while we were gone also fell through, so we suddenly had to find a replacement. We talked about it and I said that even though we are not at the ideal hotel, the trip is still about
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    us spending time with each other and it will still be very enjoyable. I also suggested multiple options for people checking in on our teenagers. She listened but it didn't really change her perception of it, and I could tell she was becoming depressed about going on the trip.
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    A few days ago she suggested we cancel the trip and try re-booking again next year on another sale. I said that if that's what she wanted then I agreed to it, but it felt premature because we are still on the wait list for the hotel and we could still find a solution for our teenagers. There was no benefit to cancelling now when there was
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    still a chance it could work out. But she was adamant it was not going to work out and it would be better to save the money for a trip next year. I agreed but said if things change and we did get the hotel we would not be able to re- book our canceled flights and activities as they were much more expensive now. She was okay with
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    this and then canceled everything. The next few days she seemed much happier, like a weight was off her shoulders.
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    Two days ago, the ideal hotel contacted us to say our reservations were accepted. My wife got super excited again and began looking into bookings and trying find someone to check in on our teenagers. Once she found someone she told me about the hotel update and the new solution for the kids and was
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    going to re-book everything. I asked how much that would be and it was hundreds of dollars more than what we originally budgeted. So I reminded her that we discussed this and once she canceled everything we would not be re-booking this trip. She grew angry and pointed out that the trip was about us spending time
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    with each other and I should be more flexible. I mentioned how it hurt me that she was unwilling to find a solutions for the things that weren't working out so that we could spend time together before, but now that her ideal hotel is ready it suddenly was a priority
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    for her and she easily solved the issues that were depressing her before.
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    If the price difference was low | would be open to re-booking everything, but its much more expensive now and, while we can afford it, it would be very tight. She is guilting me that I am not working harder to save this vacation and that it feels like I am refusing to go to prove a point about her canceling early. I think
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    booking again in the future would be better but she is very attached to going on this trip after spending months counting down for it. She feels like she had a moment of weakness and made decisions to improve her mental health and that I shouldn't "punish" her for that. AITAH?
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    Edit: Many people are asking why the hotel is such a big deal. My wife's family would vacation to this city often and would stay in this hotel. She has lots of fantastic memories there and gets very emotional and nostalgic about it, especially since her parents are no longer with us. Admittedly, the hotel is very nice, near many of
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    the tourist activities in the city, and has great restaurants and great views. I've only been once with her many years ago, we made lots of new memories, and my wife has brought up going again multiple times since then. So when the opportunity arose to go again we jumped at it. My wife has a lot of emotional attachment
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    to the hotel and her memories of her parents, so while she wouldn't outright say the hotel extremely important to her, I could tell it played a major part in her excitement when we first booked the trip. So when it seemed likely that we would not be able to book the hotel she became more and more depressed about it
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    (again, without admitting that was the reason). We don't get to go to this city often so I understand that if we do go she wants to do it "right", otherwise it may be years before we choose to go again. Her canceling was a way to relieve the depression and move on. So when it became possible again suddenly she perceived me as
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    blocking her opportunity to relive her memories and making more with me.
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    • Spoopyowo 15h ago • NTA, your wife is being totally unreasonable, she made the decision to cancel the trip, and you both agreed to rebook in the future. She made that decision and now has to accept that she fked up and has to wait.
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    C 15h ago Edited 14h ago C.15h Nta. Your wife picked this. She can deal with it like an adult. She screwed this vacation over and its her • fault. Do not let her twist this around on you. Honestly this is when you say you wanted to cancel. You wanted to do
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    this. Now you want to spend more money on something you screwed up on. No.
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    R 15h ago Edited 13h ago NTA. She was clearly more interested in visiting her ideal hotel than spending quality time with you. Edit: typo
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    yakkerswasnev... • 14h ago The only focus should have been on spending time together on the trip. The fact she thought it was ruined due to her perfect hotel being unavailable should tell you all you need to know about whether she cared
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    about spending time with you at all. Then to manipulate you with mental health? Just a around. move all
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