'She seems to hate her own nephews': Spiteful pregnant woman refuses to acknowledge sister's 2-year-old and 3-year-old, is surprised when she gets the same treatment

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Nov 12, 2024 3:00 PM EST

Sometimes a grudge comes up for seemingly no reason. Someone just starts to treat you differently and you have no idea what happened. You rack your brain for reasons you might have spited them and you come up empty. Did you fail to wave back at them on the street one day? Did you accidentally say something off-color at a party? Did you just happen to look at them the wrong way and now everything is different? You may never know.

It's especially hard when this happens in your own family because family wounds cut deeper. You want to make it right, because the odds are you have to see them once or twice a year. That's what happened in this family when two sisters fell into a beef that one of them was not anticipating. And it came up when they had kids. Read on for the story and see what you think. 

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    AITA for refusing to be excited for my sister (29f) about her pregnancy when she has never met my (26f) children (3M) (2M)?
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    My sister (29F) and I (26F) have always. had a troubled relationship and have never seen eye to eye. However we do love each other and would hang out and get along as best as we could.
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    The problems all started when I got married to my husband (30M) five years ago and had two children shortly after. Throughout my pregnancy my sister didn't bother to check on me and completely took herself out of my life. I just assumed she was jealous or had some type of issue with me being pregnant.
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    I was not prepared for what would happen after my first son (3M) was born. She asked me for a picture of him shortly after he was born when we had not spoken the whole time I had been pregnant. I thought that maybe this was a turning point for us and we could finally get along.
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    I was very wrong. She has never met either of my sons. I have offered to bring them to see her numerous times but there was always an excuse. She never asked me how they were doing or showed any interest in them. My sister has even boasted about other kids that are her friends children but seems to hate her own nephews.
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    I am so confused. The problem has now got even more complicated now that she has announced she is pregnant. I am happy for her but I am still hurt with how she has treated my children and how she treated me during my pregnancy.
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    My mum (65F) says I'm being selfish and to just let it go and be excited for her but I'm finding it difficult. I am super excited for her to be a mum but can't just forget how she treated me. I want to have a relationship with my niece or nephew but I also don't know how possible that would be.
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    Aggressive-Quiet6426 • 1h ago • Have you asked her why she is acting like that towards your children? What does your husband say about it?
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    Alternative-Rest3831 OP • 1h ago • . Yes I have asked her numerous times but she just denies she's doing it. My husband says that I should go low contact with her and treat her how she treated me.
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    Disastrous-Sthe 1h ago. I agree with your husband. Your sis knows and has always known what she's doing. So, return the same energy to her.
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    sleepyslothpajamas • 53m ago My sister did the same thing! We are not in contact now. I had to threaten my mom with NC because she kept pushing me to be in her kids' lives even though she wouldn't meet mine. I never got a reason for her ignoring my children for close to a decade now. NTA at all.
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    Alternative-Rest3831 OP • 52m ago • Omg I literally thought I was going crazy cos my mum keeps pushing me into having contact with my sister.
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    Nikosma • 1h ago. INFO: Do you have family holidays? How has she NEVER seen them? Based on the information above, NTA, but no one else is either. Your mom seems to be making peace (even though you would think she would ask the other daughter why she isn't more involved). Your sister can do whatever she wants but the old rule of FAFO. I don't think she expects consequences.
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    If you want a better relationship, now is the time to take her to task and address the issue. If she pushes she's not doing anything wrong, then take that the lesson of people will show you who they are. Once her child is born, she may not even want you involved with the nibling. This could all be she wants attention. Hard to tell without more information.
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    Alternative-Rest3831 OP • 1h ago • We don't have family holidays and we don't see each other since I've had my children.
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    • rockology_adam · 1h ago · NTA. There's a real difference here in emotion and action. You do not have to be excited about potential nibling here, and certainly not about her or her pregancy.
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    Should you send her a card or something? Basic congratulations gif on Facebook or Messenger or something? Sure. Doing nothing and ignoring her would be A- holery. But not checking in on her, not reaching out... treating her exactly as she has treated you is perfectly fine. Send a card, and forget about her until it's time to meet up at some family gathering. Sometimes cousins don't meet for years at a time, if that's the family dynamics.
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    • Typical-Composer5222 2h ago • NTA. It's good that you are happy for her and I don't think it's wrong to show false excitement when you genuinely aren't. Thr fact that you tried to connect with her to and introduce your kids but she still hasn't met them on her own excuses.
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    bobofiddlesticks 2h ago . • NTA. Why would you be excited? Your sister has shown you that milestones like this in your respective lives are not to be celebrated by the other sibling in any way, shape or form.
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    • Particular-Try5584 1h ago • NTA. Share as much congratulations with her as you would a work colleague... who has never met your kids. Then move onto the next TPS report.
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    LittleKji 1h ago NTA. She only got in contact now because she is pregnant, h I no. Nuh huh. Nope. She made her bed, she can lay in it and you can go and be free from anything having to do with her. S ks but hey, protect yourself and don't let people walk all over your boundaries.
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