Angsty 16-year-old Admits to Mother She Doesn’t Love Her Step-sister, Choosing Her Bio Sister’s Side Instead, Revealing Dark Family Truths When Step-sister Overhears

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Nov 30, 2024 1:00 PM EST

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. It's not easy growing up in a blended household. Step-parents and step-siblings may feel like foreign bodies to a child forced to live under one roof with them, as if they were aliens, or weird roommates just living in your home. Even seeing your parent with another partner besides your bio parent can be damaging, but there's not much one can do in situations like these. Therapy could help, but when you're young it can be worthless, and sometimes children just need to have these periods of angst. 

In this Reddit thread, it centers around a blended family from the eyes of a 16-year-old. She lives with her mother, sister, step-father, and her step-sister. Her step-sister and bio sister get into fights, and of course, she always takes her bio sister's side, but to the mother's disapproval. But you'll have to read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    r/AITAH 19 hr. ago Ecstatic-String2082 AITA for saying I'll always take my sister's side over my stepsister's when mom told me again that I need to pick a side at times?
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    My mom and her husband Johnny have tried to create a blended family but we're not a family and we're not blended in any kind of way. There's me (16) and my sister (13) and my stepsister (13) and then mom and Jonny. 10 years ago we lost our dad and 7 years ago Johnny and his ex got
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    divorced after she left him and my stepsister 9 years ago. My stepsister hasn't seen or heard from her mom since she left. I heard Johnny say before that his ex didn't even show up to most of the divorce hearings.
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    Anyway, my mom and Johnny met through parents conferences at my sister and stepsister's school. The two of them knew each other and avoided each other because they didn't like each other. My mom and Johnny had no idea until they'd been dating for 8 months and introduced us all. My sister and stepsister refused to
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    talk that whole first meeting. That was 5 years ago and each time while my mom and Johnny were dating the same thing happened, but they decided to get married anyway and they brought us to family therapy. The girls said they wouldn't be sisters withe each other and they wouldn't be friends either. We went for over a year
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    with some of it happening over Zoom because of the pandemic. Family therapy stopped for a while and then my mom found another therapist for us. After 5 months of going my stepsister admitted she'd like an older brother and would like for us to be closer but
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    she still wanted nothing to do with my sister and my sister felt the same.
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    My mom encouraged me to spend less time with my sister and focus on my stepsister more. She was always in my ear telling me I could make such a huge difference in her life and how every little girl deserved an older sibling who looked out for them and loved them.
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    Stuff with my sister and stepsister got worse. They had this really big fight the other week and my mom said to me at the time that I need to pick a side in it because doing so will help the other understand how wrong they are. She also said it's about loyalty, etc. I ignored her but she said it twice more after before she brought it up for the
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    last time the other night and I told her I side with my sister. She was like what do you mean and she said that wasn't what I was supposed to say. I told her she told me to pick a side and I will always take my sister's side because I love her. She said it sounds an awful lot like I don't love my stepsister and I said that
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    should come as no surprise. She told me I shouldn't pick my sister just because she's blood related and I told her the loyalty stuff she talked about? None is with my stepsister and all of it is with my sister.
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    Mom told Johnny and the two of them are ped I took this stance. AITA?
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    donname10 • 19h ago Top 1% Commenter Nta but this is stupid. She's willing to break the bond op and sister have for her step daughter? Truly b
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    • Future-Nebula7... 18h ago NTA. Your mother told you to pick a side... And you did pick a side your blood sister....
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    Just because your mother expected you to choose your step sister is not your fault. It is your mother's fault and her husband's fault for putting their wants above the needs of their children
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    Tang_xi 18h ago • NTA but your mother is a huge AH she is willing wrong her real daughter for stepdaughter, stand by sister. She would definitely remember it and talk to her about her feelings and get her side of story every time
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    something happens between her and your stepsister, don't not betray her as it seems like your stepsister got two parents and your sister got none, if you can try to tell this to your mother.
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    Kiirian 19h ago • • NTA. It's like your mom handed you a "Pick A Side" card and you're just playing the game. Loyalty to family is one thing, but trying to force a blended bond when it's just not there? Not your fault. You've got your sister's
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    back, and at the end of the day, that's who you're closest to. Besides, if your mom really wanted harmony, maybe she should have considered that forcing alliances might not magically make a "blended" family. Sounds like she's expecting a little too much from a lot of
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    little too much from a lot of history and a dash of awkwardness.
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    Freeverse 711 • 18h ago • Top 1% Commenter NTA. Your mother and stepfather knew their kids hated each other from the start and that's on them.
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    Far_Scholar 1986 • 18h ago • How much you wanna bet the only reason the stepsister wants a relationship with you is to hurt your sister, I bet that would make her sad if she saw you two get close and the fact that your mom is okay with it truly shows
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    how little she cares for your sister! Watch your sisters back op because it seems your the only one who cares for her. Poor thing I can't Imagine going through losing your father and now your mom has no care about your feelings.
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