Mother Forces Teenage Daughter to Share Bedroom With 4-year-old Step-sister Despite Enough Rooms For Them Both, Causing Tension in the Family

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    r/AITAH 3 hr. ago bedroomthrowaway121 AITA for not wanting to share with my stepsister?
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    My (F15) Mum's fiancé, Dan is moving in with us soon. He has a 4 year old daughter "Lily", her mum isn't around.
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    We live in a three bedroom house, but the third bedroom is pretty small. Before now it was empty other than boxes of old and a fold out sofa we use for guests. I helped Mum finally take the boxes to the charity shop, but she was worried about fitting Lily's furniture and toys in, her room at Dan's is twice the size.
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    Mum's bright idea was to keep that third bedroom as a playroom for us, leave the fold out sofa so it can still be used as a guest room, and we'll share my bedroom. I don't really have many toys other than my playstation, some art stuff, a few board games and some old cuddly toys, I wouldn't spend any
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    time in a playroom, so I thought mum's idea was a bit weird.
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    I suggested that I just move into the smaller room, my current room is big enough for all of Lily's stuff. Mum thinks I'm being selfish and don't want to share. I just want privacy, I thought giving up my room and moving in to a smaller one was a pretty unselfish gesture, but apparently not.
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    What happened next is where I think I crossed the line. Mum was at work on Saturday, so I went ahead and moved my stuff into the other room. I know doing it behind Mum's back was sneaky, but she was dead set on me sharing with Lily. Lily's lovely and I have nothing against her, but she's 4 and I'm 15. I need privacy
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    and I want to be able to spend time in my room in the evenings (she goes to bed hours before I do) and have a lie in on weekends.
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    Mum was furious and called me all sorts of names, selfish, greedy, underhanded, etc. I refused to apologise and I left. I went to my Dad's house and I've been there since then. My dad and stepmum are both on my side, they both think it was ridiculous to expect me to share with a little kid when there were enough rooms available. It's not that I have a
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    problem with sharing, I happily share with my 16 year old stepsister at my Dad's because there really aren't enough rooms for us all to have our own there.
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    I though I was in the right until I was telling my friends about it, and one of them told me I sounded like a spoilt brat. So Reddit, what do you think? AITA?
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    New-Carpet155 • 3h ago NTA. Your mom's being totally unreasonable here. You're 15, not 5 - of course you need your own space! And moving to a smaller room was actually super mature of you. Your mom's the one being difficult, not you.
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    Like, what teenager wants to share with a 4 year old?? Different bedtimes, different stuff, different EVERYTHING. Plus you need privacy - you're gonna be doing homework and stuff while she's playing with toys and watching peppa pig or whatever.
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    Your friend calling you spoiled doesn't get it. This isn't about being spoiled, it's about having basic privacy as a teenager. And it's not like you're refusing to give up anything you literally took the smaller room!
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    Stick to your guns on this one. Your mom will get over it eventually. Maybe show her this thread if she doesn't believe you're in the right here.
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    MentionGood 1... • 3h ago • Set the older girl up for resenting her future stepsister right there. Great job, mom - not! You are NTA.
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    mphflame 3h ago • NTA and your mom wants a built-in babysitter so the 4 yo stays out of her hair.
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    Wetunicornsnee... • 3h ago NTA! I think most parents would have been very happy with your suggestion to take the smaller room to make the transition easier for the new child. I assume that your mom really wants you girls to be close and is trying to force it this way(which
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    never works). Honestly, a 15 year old and a 4 year old together in a room will be very hard, you guys have totally different sleeping times etc. Your friend who called you a spoiled brat needs to work on her own issues.
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    Mariethefairy ⚫ 3h ago • NTA, you sharing your room would lead to you being to the go to person if there is a storm, or a bad dream, so your mom and stepdad don't have to deal with her

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