Woman Asks Fiancé for a ‘Free Sleep Pass’ Before Their Wedding, Claiming It Would Help Their Relationship, Leading Fiancé to Consider Canceling the Wedding

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Dec 6, 2024 10:00 PM EST

When you decide to tie the knot with your loved one, it is natural to feel nervous about the idea of committing to one person for the rest of your life. Ideally, getting married means that you are going to be with this one person and only this one person, and it is okay to be slightly scared by the idea. However, it is one thing to be scared and another to try and convince your partner to change the whole nature of your relationship.

For example, a month before her wedding, the woman in this Reddit story decided to ask her soon-to-be husband for a 'free sleep pass'. Meaning that they each would get to sleep with someone else before their wedding. The fiancé, who never once thought of being with someone else in their 4 year long relationship, was appalled by the suggestion, and he started questioning his entire relationship with the woman he wanted to marry.

Keep scrolling to read the full story. Up next, check out this story of a Thanksgiving family dinner gone wrong.

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    She said it would be healthy for our relationship and our marriage would off to a better start because of it. She also claimed it would help get everything out of our systems. In the 4 years we've been together I've never thought about being with someone else.
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    My (28M) fiancée (29F) wants a pass before our wedding which is just a few weeks away. Relationship over?
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    We've been together for 4 years now, and it seemed like everything was great and mutual. Yesterday at dinner my soon to be wife brought up the idea of both of us having a free sleep
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    with whoever pass before the wedding. This stupid idea of hers completely blindsided me. I could tell that she had been thinking about it for some time, and just waiting for the perfect moment
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    to bring it up. She said it would be healthy for our relationship and our marriage would off to a better start because of it. She also claimed it would help get everything out of our systems. In
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    the 4 years we've been together I've never thought about being with someone else, but it just sks to know she doesn't feel the same way. Once she realized I wasn't as excited about her idea
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    as she was she began to retract her statements. I really didn't talk to her after that, and just went to bed. Since this morning she's been apologizing over texts.
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    I'm not sure what to feel about this whole mess. On one hand I really do love her, but I also feel a sense of betrayal from her. I'm not sure if she has a guy in mind. or just wants a one night stand it.
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    We're getting married in December just a few weeks away. I breakup seems like something that would not be fun to deal with. Outside of the emotional pain we've been living together
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    for 2 years. We have a whole wedding planned with people coming for us. I'd like to try and work this out, and maybe I'm just overreacting. My friends think I need to cut my losses and move
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    on. I'd like the opinions from people outside my circle of friends. If I call it off I have to do it before visiting her family for Thanksgiving. Thanks
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    New Arrival9860 3d ago She already has someone in mind that she wants to sleep with. Your friends are right, cancel the wedding, tell everyone why, cut your losses and move on.
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    Breakups and canceling weddings are not fun to deal with, divorce and sharing child custody is much worse. Relationship over.
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    Madshadow85 • 3d ago Ask her who is it. She already is emotionally cheating most likely.
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    angga7 3d ago • Man.. S ks that you have to even ask strangers for this but: everything is over. She definitely has already had someone in mind, just trying to guilt trip you into allowing her to cheat without guilt or consequences. Cancel everything; cancelling now is much cheaper than divorce.
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    Complete Simple_5194 3d ago • • Omg as a woman I can say she probably has an idea of who she wants to use her hall pass with I'm sorry, she probably isn't fully committed to your relationship...
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    • TraditionalManager82 3d ago • Once I decided to get married I didn't have anything in my system I needed to get out of my system... Especially sleeping with other people. (Plus, there's no way to guarantee that once "out of the
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    system" it would stay that way.) I would not be comfortable marrying somebody who felt they did. So for me it would be relationship over.
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    AnonThrowaway072023 • 3d ago 50% she's already cheated. And knows you will find out very soon. Dudes prob invited to the wedding 50% - hasn't physically cheated yet, but if you had said "yes", a dude was lined up to be bolls deep within an hour
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    CarryOk3080 • 3d ago • Nta. She is no longer just yours. She met someone and wants to see if it is worth losing you over. She is already half in half out in her head DO NOT go through with the wedding. Ask for the ring back and tell her she can have a free pass for life
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    Throw_RA099 • 3d ago • This is a do not pass go, do not collect $200, break up with her and cancel the wedding scenario. This is absolutely asinine.
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    CompetitiveKick9705 • 3d ago Over and done.
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    SeeeVeee 3d ago • She did you a huge favor springing this before marriage. She absolutely has someone in mind, she wouldn't risk this for no reason. It's the reddest of red flags, at this point she should be
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    obsessed with you and on a marriage high. Leave, and don't look back. No contact. You're lucky that you're young.
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