Woman Invites Maintenance Man to Home After Husband Refuses to Install New Fridge, Husband’s Jealousy Sparked When He Finds Out: ‘I don’t want a man in here while I’m not home’

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    A week later, I texted him to see if he could do all the things that my husband refused. He was kind and said "sure". Within 5 minutes of me sending him a message, he came and installed my pole, ballet bar, and mirror in our apartment. I
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    r/AITAH 11 hr. ago ineyks AITAH (26f) for having another man fix the things the things in my house after my husband (28m) refused?
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    So I (26f) am using a throwaway due to my husband (28m) knowing my real reddit account.
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    So my husband and I have been married for about a 4 years. The past YEAR I have been asking him to replace our refrigerator, install a ballet bar, pole, and mirror in our apartment because I do just about everything else in our house. I'm bad with tools and he's good with them. I have literally asked for the past year and every
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    time I ask, my husband has an excuse as to why he can't do it.
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    Today I finally caved in and asked maintenance if they could at least replace our refrigerator. Mind you, maintenance is only here for if something is broken or needs to be fixed. Maintenance doesn't do any type of "remodeling issues". I told the maintenance worker that I was gifted a refrigerator from my sister and wanted it
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    installed instead of the old one. He was kind enough and redid it for me. He also reorganized my fridge for me as well. From there the maintenance man gave me his number and said that I can just text him if I ever need anything else done, instead of submitting a work ticket online.
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    A week later, I texted him to see if he could do all the things that my husband refused. He was kind and said "sure". Within 5 minutes of me sending him a message, he came and installed my pole, ballet bar, and mirror in our apartment. I tried to tip him, but he told me no. I thanked him and he left.
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    My husband came back from work and noticed the changes. I explained to him what maintenance did and needless to say that my husband was LIVID. He accused the maintenance guy of trying to sleep with me and said that he doesn't want any man in the house when I'm not there.
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    He said that it was an a*****e thing to do and that I'm trying to sleep with him and get another man's attention. So AITAH?
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    itsmeagain42664 • 11h ago • NTA. Your husband is a head case!
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    Emotional_Anal... • 11h ago • NTA, if he didn't want maintenance coming in to do the things that he was asked to do he should've done him himself. So he could take his foot out of his ego and get over himself.
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    pixie-ann • 10h ago • NTA and your husband is happily waving several red flags at you with his jealousy and controlling comments. Is this his usual behaviour?
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    • JamesFlaherty20... 9h ago This seems a little • unbelievable. You are describing switching out a refrigerator as if it was as easy as changing a lightbulb. How did the new refrigerator travel to your house? How was the old one taken away?
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    How long was this entire process and where was your husband when it was going on?
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    cassowary32 • 10h ago • NTA. What kind of AH procrastinates on getting a free fridge installed??
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    If you can, try and see if you can organize a Christmas gift for your maintenance guy with your neighbors. It's pretty rare to have one so helpful, I hope you all show. your appreciation.
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    bellus_incendia • 10h ago • NTA. The only tools missing in this scenario are the ones your husband isn't using to fix things around the house! If having a functional refrigerator and being able to pursue your ballet and pole fitness are important to
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    you, and your husband won't help despite his ability, it's perfectly reasonable to find someone who will. Your husband's reaction seems to be more about his insecurities and less about the maintenance tasks themselves. You've asked for help repeatedly, and if the
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    alternative to getting things fixed is to wait indefinitely for your husband to take action, well, you'd be retired by the time the fridge got installed! You needed practical help, not a soap opera plot twist.
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    trainsongslt • 10h ago • If my wife wanted me to install a "pole" I'd have been done in an hour.
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    GlamDelynn 6h ago • NTA, but consider discussing boundaries and trust with your husband for future situations.

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