Woman Ruins Expensive Wedding Dress With Mud Days Before the Wedding, Begs Wealthy Aunt to Fund a New Dress But Aunt Refuses, Tension Arises When Family Accuses Her of Being Stingy

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    r/AITAH • 11 hr. ago Urmom2604 AITA for refusing to pay for my niece's "emergency" wedding dress after she ruined her first one?
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    Edit: A few people have mentioned they think this story is fake and DMing me pictures of myself not being 47 (don't do this it's weird). I posted this for a close family friend (who I call an aunt) to prove to her she shouldn't pay for Tessa's things. In any future updates I will continue telling the story from her perspective. Sorry
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    for not mentioning before <3
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    So, my niece, Tessa (24F), is getting married in two weeks. She's very particular about her wedding, and we've all heard her talk about her "dream dress" for over a year now. It's this big, expensive designer gown that my sister (her mom) took out a small loan to pay for.
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    Last weekend, Tessa threw a bridal brunch with her friends and decided it would be "fun" to wear the dress for a little photo shoot at the park. This was a terrible idea because (1) it had rained the night before, and the ground was still muddy, and (2) they brought champagne to "toast" during the sh_ot.
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    You can guess what happened. Tessa tripped while posing, fell face-first into the mud, and spilled champagne all over herself. To make it worse, her maid of honor accidentally stepped on the train while trying to help her up, ripping part of the skirt.
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    The dress is now completely trashed. My sister sent it to a cleaner, but they said it's beyond repair. Tessa freaked out and started blaming her friends for "not being careful enough" around the dress. Then, she turned to me.
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    Why me? Because I (37F) am the "wealthy aunt." I own a small business, and while I'm doing well, I'm not rolling in money. But Tessa and my sister think I should foot. the bill for a replacement dress since "I can afford it." Their reasoning? It's "an emergency" and "family helps family."
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    I refused. I told them I wouldn't be rewarding Tessa for her poor decision to wear her wedding dress to a park. My sister got angry and said I was "punishing" Tessa for "making a mistake” on what's supposed to be the happiest day of her life. Tessa has been crying to anyone who will
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    listen about how I'm "ruining her wedding."
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    Now my family is split. Some say I should just pay because weddings are stressful, and Tessa is young. Others agree that it's not my responsibility. My husband thinks | should stand my ground, but my mom called me yesterday, begging me to "fix this for the sake of peace."
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    AITA for refusing to pay for the replacement dress? Or should I just it up to keep the family from imploding?
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    TLDR: My niece ruined her expensive wedding dress by wearing it to a muddy park for a photoshoot and now expects me, the "wealthy aunt," to pay for a replacement. I refused, and now my family is divided, with some saying I should help "for the sake of peace" and others agreeing it's not my responsibility. AITA?
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    AlwaysHelpful22 • 11h ago. Top 1% Commenter Why on earth is it your responsibility to buy your niece an expensive wedding dress? This is absurd. How entitled must you be to demand an aunt buy you a wedding dress, and then trash her when she declines.
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    Your family is brimming with AHs. Yikes!
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    atmasabr • 11h ago Top 1% Commenter Why are you even entertaining this conversation a moment longer? You made your decision already. Your personality and ethics are what they are. The matter is closed.
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    NTA. They asked. You said NO.
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    FloMoJoeBl... 11h ago Top 1% Commenter NTA, not your circus, not your monkeys. Everyone who is saying that you need to pay, should be putting their money where their mouth is. Starting with your sister and niece.
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    Human_Style_9... • 11h ago • You're not responsible for her bad decisions. If she thought her "dream dress" was so sacred, she wouldn't have taken it to a muddy park. Let her face the consequences like an adult.
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    elguapo1996 • 11h ago • Your niece isn't responsible enough to wear an expensive dress, let alone be married.
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    Recent_Data_305 • 11h ago Top 1% Commenter How did auntie become wealthy? By not spending frivolously. NTA
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    Agoraphobe961 • 11h ago • Top 1% Commenter NTA. Tell every flying monkey the cost of the dress (plus rush fee and alterations) and ask how much they will be contributing
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    • Angelgirl1517 11h ago. NTA. But the family's logic of your niece being too young and too irresponsible to be expected to properly care for a dress but let's all get on - board with her getting MARRIED... is absolutely wild.
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    S. 11h ago Edited 10h ago Not a chance you are the ah le. You are not responsible for their mistakes OR THEIR WEDDING.
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    Additionally came here to say that taking out a loan to buy a wedding dress seems. like INSANITY. I do not understand young couples obsession with starting their marriage with a massive debt burden. It's insane.

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