Woman Refuses to Let Sister Use Her Vacation Home After She Abandoned Parents During Their Illness, She Retalitates By Calling Her Selfish

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Dec 11, 2024 12:00 PM EST

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. With inheritance, things can become sticky, petty, and trivial. Suddenly everyone's grudges come out, their animosity, and their deep seated unpleasant memories. Money and love should never work against each other, but for some people, money is a way to manipulate your loved ones, to gain power and control. As ugly as this kind of behavior is, it won't be the last time that someone uses inheritance as power. 

Regardless of money, family dynamics are never easy to navigate. From sibling favoritism, to evil step-mothers, it can get hairy when dealing with family. This brings us to the Reddit thread. In this story, the original poster (OP) is a woman whose parents have passed away already, and have left her their vacation cabin in their will. Her sister wasn't there for the parents when they needed her most, and now OP is using it against her. You'll have to read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    I told her that her complete absence during our parents' illness was unforgivable, and using the cabin is not a right she's earned. She claims family should forgive and forget, but I'm not willing to just brush aside how she abandoned our parents when they needed support the most.
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    r/AITAH ⚫ 10 hr. ago softpeachcrush AITA for refusing to let my sister use my vacation home after she abandoned our family when our parents were sick?
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    Background context: My parents got seriously ill a few years ago, and while I stepped up to help care for them, manage their medical needs, and handle most of their financial/legal issues, my sister completely disappeared. She didn't visit, didn't help financially, and basically ghosted the entire family during this difficult time.
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    - Our parents have since passed away, and I inherited our family's vacation cabin a property I've maintained and paid taxes on for years. Recently, my sister reached out wanting to use the cabin for a week-long getaway with her friends. When I said no, she accused me of being petty and holding a grudge.
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    I told her that her complete absence during our parents' illness was unforgivable, and using the cabin is not a right she's earned. She claims family should forgive and forget, but I'm not willing to just brush aside how she abandoned our parents when they needed support the most.
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    AITA for refusing to let her use the vacation home?
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    Hawaiianstylin... • 10h ago "I FORGIVE myself for not letting you use the cabin. FORGET ever getting to use it. " NTA.
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    Perfect_Ring34... • 10h ago • Top 1% Commenter Nta. Do not let her use it. She sounds materialistic and absent until she wants something
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    Cybermagetx • 10h ago • Top 1% Commenter Nta. Its yours. Its not the family home anymore. And make sure she knows she will be charged with trespassing if she shows up.
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    Rowana 133 10h ago Top 1% Commenter NTA. But if you don't have cameras, get some. Just in case. You don't want to accidentally find out she broke in or established squatters rights. Happened to my friend when her cousin broke into their
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    grandparents' house while they were out of the country. Took forever to get him out.
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    • mintychocolat... 10h ago. Family is about showing up when it matters, not just when it's convenient. She made her choice then; you're making yours now. NTA.
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    Simplyyyywasian • 10h ago NTA. Sister does not get to pick and choose when it's convenient to talk to family. At the end of the day it's your property and you have the final say. If she doesn't like it well she can agitate the gravel and go rent a cabin somewhere else for her and her friends.
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    • repthe732 9h ago. NTA Tell her to ask your parents for forgiveness
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    Old-Law-7395 • 10h ago • NTA, do you have cameras up at the vacation house? I'd get them if you don't
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    Majestic_Registe... • 9h ago • "Oh, are you part of my family now? Funny, I don't remember seeing you there when our parents were sick. I thought you had found another family to join. Go and use that family's cabin. This belongs to *my* family." NTA
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    lawrephord121 • 9h ago • NTA. Who does she think she is, a distant relative of Houdini? Now you see her, now you don't except for when a free vacay is on the line? Nah, keeping the cabin gate closed is totally fair. She can't just ghost the fam in hard times and then slide
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    into the vacation DMs like nothing happened. Maybe send her a link to some nice Airbnb spots instead.
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    Noodlefanboi • 9h ago • When I said no, she accused me of being petty and holding a grudge. I guess it's too late now, but the proper response to that would have been to ask her why she thought you would
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    be holding a grudge against her.
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    inkslingerben • 7h ago • Your parents could have left the cabin to her or split ownership between the two of you. Your parents making the cabin only yours was giving a middle finger and a 'Thanks for nothing' to your sister.
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    • N. 10h ago Edited 8h ago • NTA. It's your property and you don't owe she anything. Get cameras set up and update the security because she is the type go use it despite not having permission. Your sister hasn't apologized, hasn't been. accountable, isn't remorseful
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    and has done nothing to make amends. So why would you forgive and forget?
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