Boyfriend of 2 years calls his girlfriend greedy for not sharing her $50K of lottery winnings with him: 'He said things like, “Finally, you can help me pay off some of my credit card debt.”'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Dec 6, 2024 9:00 PM EST

If you get one piece of financial advice, let it be this: never tell anyone if you win the lottery. While your accountant and your wife of 40 years might be exceptions to that rule, it's one that you must apply to every other relationship in your life. It doesn't matter if you win $2000 or $200 million; people change when they find out you have money burning a hole in your pocket. You might trust your friends and loved ones not to be greedy, but it's always best to be safe. Soon enough, you'll get calls rolling in about so and so's credit card debt and someone's son's college fund, and if you give in, you won't have any of your lotto winnings left for your credit card and college debt. The woman in this story learned a lesson about her boyfriend's priorities after she told him she won a $50,000 jackpot.

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    AITAH for refusing to share my lottery winnings with my boyfriend after he joked about how he'd spend it?
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    I (25F) recently won $50,000 from a scratch-off lottery ticket. It's the first time I've ever won anything big, and I was over the moon. My boyfriend (27M) and I have been dating for about two years, and while we don't live together, we've talked about taking the next step soon.
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    When I told him about my win, he was excited at first, but then he started joking about how he'd spend it. At first, it was lighthearted stuff like we'll buy a fancy new gaming setup or finally upgrade my car. But as the night went on, his jokes got a little more serious. He said things like, "I guess I don't have to save for that trip to Europe anymore ―your treat!" and "Finally, you can help me pay off some of my credit card debt."
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    I laughed it off initially, but he kept going and started talking about bigger things, like putting a down payment on a house together, all with my winnings*.* It rubbed me the wrong way, especially since we haven't even had serious conversations about combining finances.
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    When I told him I planned to save most of it for myself—maybe invest or use it to pay off some of my student loans― he got upset and said I was being selfish. He said that couples share everything and that it was our win, not just mine, because he's supported me through a lot.
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    The thing is, I bought the ticket with my own money, scratched it myself, and never promised to share it. He's now calling me greedy and distant, saying this shows I'm not serious about our relationship. AITAH for not wanting to share my lottery winnings with him?
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    Open Equal_1515 • 6h ago • so let me get this straight. you scratched the ticket, won the cash, and suddenly your boyfriend thinks he's jeff bezos with your money? 'our win'? i don't remember him holding the lucky penny while you scratched that ticket. like, sir, you supported her through what exactly? helping her decide which flavor ramen to buy when she was broke? supporting someone emotionally doesn't mean you're entitled to their literal lottery winnings.
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    and let's not overlook the bold financial planning here: 'your treat to europe', 'pay off my credit card debt', and 'buy us a house'. wow, what a philanthropist-spending all your money to make his life better. truly inspiring. honestly, if he's calling you greedy for not funding his eurotrip and bad credit choices, maybe he needs a reality check (or a financial advisor). keep your winnings, invest them, and remember-sharing a netflix password is one thing, but sharing a lottery win with someone
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    I-Fap-For- . 5h ago. The distance he seems to think 50k will stretch is mind boggling. A new car, a house, an international vacation, and still enough money to pay off credit card debt? I'm beginning to see why he has credit card debt. Dude is financially illiterate.
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    Majestic Sand_8776 OP my bf is very bad with his finances... absolutely agree with you
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    Majestic_Sand_8776 OP • 5h ago • i'm actually thinking about breaking up with him. I'm always the one paying and now he's just being greedy in my opinion.
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    Wonderful_Nerve_8308 I'm always the one paying ??? So you always have been the sugar mommy in this relationship?? This freeloader should have been gone a long time before this.
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    Majestic_Sand_8776 OP • 5h ago • the more i think about it, the angrier i get. he's been manipulating me for a long time, but this will stop now!
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    Savings-Towel-5913 Dont say another thing about the money. Invest it somewhere safe and tell him it is off the table. Watch his reaction! He will esxplode! Then dump him.
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    GreyJediBug Yeah, if the roles were reversed, there's no way in h I he would've shared his winnings. He would've burned through that very quickly.
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    torrent_gp_victim 6h ago • • You actually won twice!!! First the $50k, then an even greater value. Insight into who you are dating. Get away from him now.
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    Julia Wrightt His reaction to her first win was already a major red flag, and now it's clear that he's more interested in money more than her. Lol.
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    Constant_Jelly52 NTA you are not married and not living together. None of it is his. Also I'd consider reevaluating the relationship. His actions now are just the tip of the iceberg.
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    day-gardener Yep! He is the one that is "greedy and distant" and "not serious about the relationship". If she pays down her debts and saves the winnings, he would actually benefit when they married. Paying down HIS debts is thievery. She needs to leave him and find someone who knows what a committed relationship looks like.
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    PurplePenguinCat I'm a SAHM, so you'd better believe I'd give my husband half. His paying debt or getting a newer car would benefit both of us. I wouldn't have even thought of sharing it when we were dating beyond treating him to some nice dinners and maybe some wishlist type things. OOP's boyfriend is out of line with his reactions. She needs to get out now.
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    Next_Confidence_3654 This lotto scenario is typical and common. Just like musicians who make it big, everyone wants a piece of someone else's success. Lame.
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