Woman Uninvites Herself From Christmas Dinner With Boyfriend After His Family Sold the Van They Promised Her, She Feels Betrayed and Unwelcome, Despite Him Begging Her to Come

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Dec 13, 2024 1:00 PM EST

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Relationships are never a straight and narrow path to navigate. Things can easily become misunderstandings, miscommunications, and misinterpreted to the point where you don't even know what the other person is saying. Some people attach quickly, while others push away. Some people are anxious, while others are avoidant. Sometimes you both want the same thing, but find it hard to get there together. Heartbreak, breakups, loss, and healing are all part of dating as well, there's no escaping it. 

In this Reddit thread, the original poster (OP) is a woman who was promised a van by her boyfriend's family. For context, she grew up in foster care, and having a car or a family to help her out is a big deal, and not something she takes for granted. She worked hard and saved up to buy a used van from her boyfriend's family, only to find out they sold it. 

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  • 01
    I thought his parents like me, but needless to say, that's not the case. I've been upset since now I don't know what to do. My vehicle won't last another winter. They knew the situation. They didn't care.
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    r/AITAH 16 hr. ago WannaBHitByABus AITA for no longer visiting my boyfriend's family after they sold their car?
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    So I(23f) came from the foster system. When I was out, I had no financial resources and had to buy the only vehicle I could to survive. We live in a region where winter is harsh. My vehicle doesn't do well in this weather, and to make matters worse, the heater and defroster have stopped working.
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    My boyfriend of 4 years lives with his parents, and they were selling their van. I asked if I could purchase it, even threw in a little more above asking price. They said sure. So I've worked hard these past 2 weeks to pay in full, only to arrive the morning we scheduled for the exchange and find they sold it the night before. Pretty much just shrugged off what we discussed.
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    I thought his parents like me, but needless to say, that's not the case. I've been upset since now I don't know what to do. My vehicle won't last another winter. They knew the situation. They didn't care.
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    It's not really selling the car to someone else that s ks, it's the disrespect. Since then I don't go over there. I don't want to. My boyfriend said I'm invited to Xmas but I told him I'd rather celebrate with my cats.
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    He's getting annoyed, I can tell. I don't want this to impact our relationship. I don't want to be petty. I just know through this event I'm not welcome. AITA?
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    VegetableBusi... • 15h ago • Top 1% Commenter Please. Get yourself another bf for Christmas...
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    BeginningParf... • 16h ago • No. Perfectly good reason to be upset. I wouldn't go either.
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    Slopeare1a 16h ago NTA, your bf knew you wanted to get that van yet he let his parents sell it off. that says a lot about him. this is proof they don't value you or take you serious. they didn't even reach out to you before selling it off
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    PleaseCoffeeMe • 15h ago NTA. However buying a car from friends or family members can be its own kind of h I. If anything goes wrong with the car, you would resent them and/or they will resent you.
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    They disrespected you... should have been upfront and told you they didn't want to sell to you. Now they are trying to gloss it over. Reevaluate your relationship with this family. This is an indication of how they will treat you in the future.
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    There is a better car out there waiting for you.
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    Caspian4136 • 15h ago • Top 1% Commenter NTA That's really what they did, as I'm assuming they knew you're in a tough spot with your current vehicle. Then to just shrug it off like it's not a big deal? Did they even give a reason why they
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    even give a reason why they sold it to someone else??
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    prettyymelons • 15h ago • NTA. The way they handled the car sale was disrespectful, especially given your situation. It's okay to distance yourself if you're feeling unwelcome, but try to talk to your boyfriend about how this has affected you to avoid straining your relationship.
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    4201 Miss_Melody_P... • 15h ago • He's getting annoyed at you ed because his parents f you over? Sounds like a great guy.
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    FoxySlyOldSto... 15h ago • Top 1% Commenter The good news: You're NTA. The bad news: This - I don't want this to impact our relationship - won't happen. It's line saying "I hope that my food won't be burnt" after leaving your burger and chips in the oven for eight hours.
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    Your boyfriend knows that his parents screwed you over. And sure, for a while he sympathised. But now he's bored of being sympathetic. It's a huge problem for you but he's boooooored so you should just accept that they don't like you and also slightly despise you.
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  • 20
    Tell him you'll come to Christmas. Then phone up on the morning of the 25th to say your car won't start. Radio silence for a day or so. Then send a text to say that you being left to spend Christmas alone, as a direct result of his parents being selfish arseholes, has thrown your future into sharp focus
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    your future into sharp focus and the relationship is over.
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    BeadBrains • 15h ago • ΝΤΑ Can you trade in a slightly used (and totally spineless) boyfriend for a newer car?
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