Mother Forgets Son's Graduation and Expects Him to Work Instead, He Ignores Her, Sparking Family Tension When She Accuses Him of Being Ungrateful

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    you know I needed you, you're so ungrateful for the opportunities | keep providing you", so I replied with "The ONE TIME I refused to be called into work because of your lack of preparation, which I had warned you many times about, you're gonna get mad at
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    r/AmltheAsshole Complete-Phone-4015 AITA for not picking up my mom's call?
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    I (18F) am a final year highschooler. For context, the summer holidays began in November. For the past 3 weeks, I had been attending a University summer course. The graduation and final day of the course was last Friday, and this was when it happened.
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    I wait tables at a restaurant where my mother is the manager. My mom has a habit where she sometimes chooses not to schedule anyone onto the work roster and call me in once the
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    shifts begins because "there's not enough staff". I gave her a heads up 2 weeks prior to graduation friday, and a reminder when she made the roster (both she agreed) However there were no one scheduled for work on Friday.
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    Thursday comes around, and I reminded her of upcoming graduation. She reassured me that she won't call me into work. On Friday morning, I went into university for graduation, and then for a beach walk with other graduated friends until about 5pm.
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    Almost as soon as the clock striked 5, I was checking my phone for the bus route home when my mom called. I decided to let it ring out since I had already alerted her several times
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    of my unavailability and did not feel like answering her call to pick up a shift that I had specifically told her I will not, and went on my merry way home.
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    Woke up Saturday morning to my mom giving me the silent treatment and side-eye. I looked at her during breakfast (just to gauge her reaction) and she started yelling at me. "I'm so sick
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    of you look at me that way, why did you not answer my call, don't you know I needed you, you're so ungrateful for the opportunities I keep providing you", so I replied with "The ONE TIME I refused to
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    be called into work because of your lack of preparation, which I had warned you many times about, you're gonna get mad at me because I refuse to give up my time to help you out, don't
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    you think that you constantly taking advantage of my time is why I didn't want to answer your call, do you think this is how you make your employees WANT to go to work?" This of course made
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    her get even more mad, and started telling me that "FINE, YOU DON'T WANT TO WORK WELL ME NEITHER. WE WILL JUST BOTH NOT WORK. WE'LL LET YOUR YOUNGER SIBLINGS (12F
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    and 8M) STARVE AT YOUR HANDS" before storming out of the kitchen and locking herself in her room.
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    It's been a few days since the big argument, and she's no longer mad at me however still not talking much, and still feeding my sibs. I know I could've very well answered her call that day and
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    this wouldn't have happened, however I felt that given that I had given her plenty of notices AND she still chose to try and force my hand into answering her work call (my other coworkers
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    were very much available) was unfair on me, just as blaming that my siblings will "starve at my hands". As much as I love my siblings, I think that they come
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    first as my parent's children, before they are my younger siblings and therefore my responsibility. AITA for not picking up my mom's phone call?
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    Riyokosan NTA. I hope that when you cover shifts you are at least properly paid. And your siblings are solely the responsability of your parents, never yours.
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    Petefriend86 NTA. You're not responsible for working to provide for your siblings. I'd recommend finding employment away from your mother.

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