Woman's Sister-in-Law Purposefully Serves Her Dessert with Nuts Despite Allergy, Husband Sides with Sister for 'Embarrassing' Him in Front of Family with Her Outburst at Being Poisoned

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    About 10 minutes later, my stomach started cramping like crazy. It was a familiar feeling, and I knew right away that something was off. I asked her again, "Are you absolutely sure there's no nuts in this?" And she just kind of smirked and said, "Oh, well, it does have a little almond paste, but it's a tiny amouunt. I didn't think it would matter."
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    r/AITAH u/RainbowKiittyy 19h. . AITA for going mad at my SIL after she served me dessert with nuts knowing I'm allergic?
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    So, this happened a few days ago, and honestly, I'm still fuming. I (32F) have a nut allergy. It's not the kind that will send me to the hospital, but it's bad enough severe stomach cramps, nausea, and sometimes even hives. My sister-in-law (Emma) knows this because I've told her multiple times over the years.
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    To be honest, Emma and I don't get along that well. She's always been a bit... difficult. She has this habit of making little digs at me, and I've always felt like she doesn't really like me. But for the sake of keeping the peace, I try to let it go.
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    She invited us all over for dinner at her place me, my other brother, and some other family members. I went because I didn't want to cause drama, and I figured it'd just be a few hours of smiling and nodding. The dinner itself was fine, but then Emma brought out dessert.
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    It was this fancy chocolate tart thing, and everyone was raving about how good it looked. Now, I'm always careful about desserts, so I asked her, "Hey, just checking there's no nuts in this, right?" She looked me straight in the eye, smiled, and said, "No, you're good! No nuts." So I ate it.
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    About 10 minutes later, my stomach started cramping like crazy. It was that familiar feeling, and I knew right away something was off. I asked her again, "Are you absolutely sure there's no nuts in this?" And she just kind of smirked and said, "Oh, well, it does have a little almond paste, but it's such a tiny amount. I didn't think it would matter."
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    I was livid. Almonds are nuts. She knows I'm allergic. And the fact that she said it so casually, like it was no big deal, made it even worse. I had to leave her house early because I felt so awful, and I spent the rest of the night curled up in pain.
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    The next day, I called her to confront her about it. I told her what she did was irresponsible and flat-out dangerous. Her response? She laughed. She actually laughed and said, "You're being so dramatic. It's not like you're dthly allergic. I didn't think it would bother you."
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    At that point, I lost it. I told her that if she couldn't respect my health, then I wouldn't be eating at her house anymore. My brother is now mad at me, saying I embarrassed Emma and made a huge deal out of nothing. He thinks I'm overreacting and that she just made an innocent mistake.
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    But here's the thing I don't think it was a mistake. I feel like she did it on purpose. She's always been passive-aggressive with me, and this just feels like another way to get under my skin. Now my family is divided. Some think I'm completely justified, while others think I should just let it go and move on.
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    So, AITA for losing it at my SIL for serving me a dessert with nuts, knowing I'm allergic? Or am I being too sensitive? 9,185 1,742 D D
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    XtineMC 19h NTA. OP, in some jurisdictions, this is considered intentional poisoning. Might be interesting to look up your local codes and warn brother of just how risky she's being with their future. ← Reply 5.7k
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    Candid Process1831 . 19h NTA at all! Your SIL for sure sounds like the real AH. ... ← Reply 4.7k
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    FishScrumptious • 19h "What you think is irrelevant. Ive told you it would hurt me. I have physically demonstrated it would hurt me. What is wrong with you that you would intentionally do this to someone in your family? It's psychopathic." Reply 382
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    COgrace • 19h Kinda wish I could upvote this 100 times 38
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    stefaniki⚫ 19h Allergies can get worse as you get older and with more exposure like this. She's risking your life. F___ Emma. NTA edit-spelling Reply 374
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    galaxy_girl27. 19h THIS. Just because it isn't life-threatening now, doesn't mean it will continue to be in the future. For all she knows you could have gone into a severe reaction just by this single exposure, despite your past exposures being non-life- threatening. If I were you, any family that isn't siding with you I would tell them that what she did is illegal and you could very well press charges against her if you wanted to. Hopefully that will shut them up. Absolutely NTA 58 ↓
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    Shourring1a 19h NTA. She knew about your allergy and lied about the dessert, which is dangerous. Your reaction is totally justified. ... Reply 404
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    RainbowKiittyy OP. 19h She absolutely made it on purpose she knew about my allergy and I specially asked before getting a piece so she is an AH for this 267
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    Square Owl5883 • 19h NTA I mean if you gave her food poison would that be "no big deal" either? ← Reply 69 ↓
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    Mela777 19h NTA. Emma absolutely did that on purpose. She sounds like one of those people who have to test allergies, or just enjoys inflicting pain. You should, however, call the police and report that you were given food that you are allergic to, that the person lied about the ingredients, and made you ill. Intentionally feeding someone an allergen is, legally, considered assault in most places. Since she lied, it could be considered food tampering and even possibly something more serious Repl
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    Tardisgoesfast • 19h Good tampering is serious. ... 10

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