Mom visits her 15-year-old son instead of attending her other child's wedding day: 'My mom... told me the world doesn't revolve around me'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Dec 17, 2024 11:00 AM EST

This newlywed isn't convinced that their mom actually had a good excuse for missing their wedding. 

Some parents aren't very subtle about the ways they play favorites with their kids. Oftentimes, it's quite obvious: the parent will make one kid's favorite meals, drive them anywhere they want to go, or lavish them with toys and presents. The other kids will be treated okay, but they won't get the same amount of attention. This is an open secret in some families, while others just embrace the dynamic and will openly share that one kid is the favorite. 

This person was agitated when their Mom played favorites on a very important day in their life: their wedding day. Instead of being at the ceremony, she decided to help her 15-year-old son out after he got into an accident. That seems reasonable enough, but the original poster, u/Designer-Anybody8043, writes that the accident happened a few days prior to the wedding ceremony. And their brother was basically fine at that point… but that didn't deter Mom from staying by his side. You can read the full story below and determine to yourself if this person did the right thing in the aftermath of the wedding drama. 

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    AITA for not meeting up with my mom after she missed my wedding? My mom remarried when I was a kid and had another kid, Jack, who is currently 15. I'm 23.
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    Anyways, I got married a month ago and it was nice but my mom's family did not attend. I was devastated but my dad's side and everyone else made up for it.
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    When my mom finally contacted me (the night after) she told me that Jack had gotten into an accident a couple nights before (he was with an older friend of his who crashed the car). He's physically fine but was pretty spooked and refused to get into the car but they couldn't leave him alone because they were worried. Mom said she was going to come by herself or with my step siblings but then there was an issue with the car which was
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    caused by Jack freaking out when they were first getting ready to leave. She then said she was going to call an uber to get to the wedding but Jack had passed out from the stress so she couldn't leave because she was terrified something happened to him.
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    I understand but if I'm being honest, I don't know if I believe my mom 100%. She sounded pretty apologetic but I'm still upset that no one let me know. Apart from my mom, Jack, and my step dad who might've been way too preoccupied, my step siblings are all over 16 years old with phones of their own. Couldn't they have told me?
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    My mom asked me if we could meet but I honestly didn't want to see her in that moment. Though her absence was valid, she's never at any of my big events because of Jack. It might be pure coincidence but I just didn't want to see her. I was and am still upset.
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    My mom was annoyed by this and told me the world doesn't revolve around me and I have no right to be upset over her not being there now that I know why. I told her that I don't care, I don't want to see her. In fact I'm very angry at her. She told me that I'm being selfish and that she won't be contacting me anymore until I apologize because she cannot handle my childish tantrums on top of everything else.
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    Idk. I think I should've just said okay and met up with her but I'm hurt. She still hasn't talked to me though and she usually doesn't go through with her threats. AITA?
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    I could be the a hle because my mom had a valid reason and she was excited for the wedding. The world doesn't revolve around me and I'm not her only child. I guess it is pretty selfish and petty of me for refusing to meet up.
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    Efficient Whe... NTA. From what I can tell, you've got a series of upsets here and most of it stems from the fact that your younger brother got in an accident and nobody told you. They then miss your wedding because your brother has what appears to be PTSD from the accident. In most families, when we have a close family member
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    in the hospital or otherwise in something major like a car accident, folks get told. Someone-your mom, your stepdad, your siblings (step or even Jack)-should have reached out and said that Jack was in an accident and they might not make it to the wedding because of that. Heck, from what you've said, this is the latest in a line of major events that your mom's missed because
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    of Jack. Once or twice, I can understand, but she should have started switching between the two of you long before now.
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    menacingnois... NTA. I think it's reasonable to feel disappointed and angry. If they were going to miss the event, they should have told you so. Also, I find it is very hard to believe a 15 yo would act so childish.
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    Trauma is a thing of course, so them not wanting to travel in a car is fair. But then stopping their family. members from traveling in a car themselves seems hella suspect. Then he passed out from stress? I call bs.
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    mifflewhat You say you understand but I don't. Those sound like lame excuses. If I had a daughter getting married I would not skip it for my other child unless his life was in danger. And your mom was annoyed? I can't even imagine being annoyed at my daughter because she's upset I missed her wedding. That is just like crazyville to me.
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    You're right to be hurt. Your mom isn't behaving the way a mom ought. ETA: Congratulations on your wedding, and I'm glad your dad's side of the family was there for you. NTA.
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