'I have had enough of her entitlement': Woman kicks her mother-in-law out of the house for the holidays after catching her repeatedly rearranging things without permission

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Dec 29, 2024 4:00 PM EST

When family comes over for the holidays, it's to be expected that you make a little room in your household to accommodate them. This mother-in-law was privy to excellent hospitality at her son's house but crossed a line when she started rearranging the house to her liking. 

You take your shoes off at the door and you yield to another person's house rules whenever you're a guest in someone else's home. Those are the basic laws of decency in human society, but some people, especially entitled family members, just don't understand that. Mothers-in-laws are often the bane of their married kids' existence because they don't seem to comprehend healthy boundaries in their kids' homes. 

The woman in this next story reached a boiling point when she generously offered to house her MIL over the holidays only to get her hospitality thrown in her face when dear ol' Mom took liberties to rearrange the kitchen. Keep scrolling for the family drama that put a damper on the Christmas spirit in this house and cost one woman her freebie housing for the holidays.

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    AITA for telling my MIL if she keeps rearranging my Kitchen she can get a hotel room? 1 (29F) am married to a wonderful man (30M) who is
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    also the brother of my best friend, our heights are very different with me being 6'6" and him being 5'7", all of his family are on the short side and it led to some adjustments in our living arrangements at
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    first but we found what worked for us. We realised early on that it was easier for him to use a step stool to reach what he needed in the kitchen than for me to constantly be crouching to get what I need as that gets painful quickly for me.
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    This was fine, until my MIL came to stay with us two weeks ago. Her roof needs repairs, my husband and I have a spare room while my best friend doesn't so it was only logical she come stay with us.
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    She has constantly been moving things about in the kitchen, lowering items as she doesn't want to use the step stool, which isn't anything to do with her age or fearing she'll fall she just doesn't want
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    to. She keeps harping on about how it's ridiculous everything is so high up and it's rude for guests. My husband has repeatedly shut her down stating my comfort matters more than theoretical guests
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    and asked her not to move things. She lets it go for a day then things are moved again. I've expressed frustration to my Husband about this and the final straw came today when I
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    went to make myself a coffee and could not find my coffee mugs anywhere, it took me five minutes to find them in my kitchen and I found them in the lower cabinet that I had to kneel to get them out of. I was
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    angry and snappish at this as my back had hurt from getting my mug, and I told her if she couldn't stop herself from rearranging my kitchen she could get a hotel room as I have had enough of her entitlement.
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    This led to a lot of blustering and some tears that she was just trying to make it make more sense and how this is her sons home and how it's just a little reorganisation and that
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    they shouldn't all suffer just because i'm tall, she then also began to say how i'm heartless to expect her to stay in a hotel over the holidays. My Husband was clearly uncomfortable at this and
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    didn't want his Mother upset but he told her that it wasn't just his home, but mine too and if she wouldn't respect my comfort and happiness then she would have to leave. She
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    has went into the guest room and I can hear her crying still. My Husband is clearly getting anxious and upset over this but he's not backing down and I feel awful that my snapping led to him feeling like this, maybe I
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    should have just put up with it or been more gentle about how I dealt with it? I honestly don't care that she's upset which may make me sound heartless but I hate that my Husband is feeling this way.
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    s_and_cardinals NTA, you stood up for yourself and gave a fair warning. I believe you've been quite patient. I appreciate that your husband is uncomfortable but so be it, sometimes life is
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    uncomfortable. She had plenty of opportunities to stop complaining and to stop moving things around before you drew this line. Express appreciation for your husband and just let her sit with it.
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    Naomeri NTA-the house belongs to you and your husband, so stuff should be arranged however the two of you agree it should be arranged, and MIL needs to be grateful she has family with the capacity to take her in during her roof repairs.
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    Since your main concern is how this is affecting your husband, maybe the two of you should have a date night or something and get away from his mom for a few hours.
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    DgShwgrl Do you know how my Mum survives something very similar when her short a self visits my average height self and tall husband? She checks which mugs and glasses are our favourites.
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    She then chooses her own "favourites" from the leftover options, and each time puts one coffee mug, one water glass and one wine glass in our bowls cupboard. Zero hassle for any of us, and saves her stretching for the drink ware (as it's on the top shelf).
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    NTA and anyone who's still crying over a reasonable reprimand is a drama queen who can be ignored until they calm themselves down.
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