Woman Bites Back When Sister Criticizes Her in Front of the Whole Family for Hiring a Nanny, Sister Kicked Out of the House When She Can’t Handle Taste of Her Own Medicine

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Dec 23, 2024 5:00 PM EST

Welcome, gossiping goddesses! You've probably heard the phrase, "Don't dish it out if you can't take it." It is a wise warning against criticizing others if you cannot take criticism yourself. This phrase is an idiomatic expression, meaning that a direct, word-for-word translation to another language would be meaningless. There are other figurative phrases across the world that hold similar meaning, though. For example, you might hear a Spanish speaker say, "Tiene la lengua afilada y piel muy fina," which translates to, "He has a sharp tongue but delicate skin."

Our story today features a delicate-skinned and sharp-tongued woman who criticized her hard-working sister in front of the whole family for hiring a nanny instead of personally tending to her child. However, when her sister clapped back, she was unable to take the heat and threw a tantrum so unsightly that she was kicked out of her parents' home! Get all the details by scrolling down below. 

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    My sister started making comments that she feels so bad that my husband and son are lacking "the proper care and attention" that a wife and mother should give to her family. She was telling this to my husband in front of me and our parents.
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    r/AITAH u/NoComfort7869.9h AITA for asking my sister why did her husband leave her if she is such a perfect wife and mother?
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    I (30F) had my first baby 8 months ago and am already back to work. I own several beauty salons with my husband and we both agreed that when our child is born, we will rely on the help of a nanny that we have known for years so I can continue working. Our baby boy is very happy, we the parents are also very happy and life is great overall.
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    Last week my sister (35F) came by our house to drop something and she happened to come just when I was returning from work. Nothing out of the ordinary happened and I assumed everything was cool.
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    Yesterday we went to our parents place to have cup of coffee and agree on some things for the Christmas dinner and my sister started making comments that she feels so bad that my husband and son are lacking 'the proper care and attention' a wife and a mother should give to her family. She was telling this to my husband in front of me and our parents. I did not have a chance to say anything
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    because my husband told her he and our son are not lacking anything and asked her where she got that idea from. My sister explained that last week when she came to our house and I was just returning from work, she saw how I looked, that I had make up on, my hair was done, my nails were perfect and it showed that I was very concerned about superficial things instead of being a good
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    mother and wife. Husband said her remarks are just plain stupid since I have always been like this, this is part of my identity and if I look good and am concerned with my looks it does not mean I am not a good wife or mother. My sister continued saying that as parents who have a boy we should be concerned the example we give to him because he has to learn to appreciate women for other qualities other than looks. She even said my husband has no idea what he is talking about because he doesn't kn
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    I was already angry at this point so I asked her if that was the case, why did her husband leave her? She pays no attention to her looks, based on her messed up ideas she has all the qualities of a dedicated wife and mother but still her ex husband left her and willingly wanted to miss out her perfect a. She started crying and shouting and dad kicked her out. Mom was trying to make us both apologise but dad was not having it and asked her to leave.
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    Today my sister sends me a novel explaining all the reasons why I am the AH. She claims it was cruel of me to mention her ex husband leaving her when she was just worried for her brother in law and nephew. She claims I am the AH because dad kicked her out of their house yesterday and is taking my side. I have not responded to her message yet because I am still angry. I admit I may have been cruel to her but she was insulting me ao she had it comming. 6,214 1,367 D
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    lostin RC ⚫8h NTA because she opened the topic for discussion. If we are not all allowed to out our opinions in on other peoples families, then why was she insisting on doing that? It's her standard you were going with when she insisted on it. Reply 2 4.6k
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    Trailsey • 7h "You're a bad wife and mother!" "No, you are." "Omg, that's such a terrible thing to say!" ← 1 2.2k
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    UpUpAnd Away Throw123 6h Not only that, she even told her husband he doesn't understand what his own family needs!! Absolutely why her husband left her. Yikes. ← 782
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    Few-Mission-4283.6h Yes, particularly when OP obviously isn't anything of the sort ← ↑ 47
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    Express_Celery_2419. 4h But she is well put together while the sister isn't. Therefore the sister, to justify her own inadequacy, has to criticize her. Otherwise the sister admits that she doesn't have her life put together. 27
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    NOLACenturion • 7h She opened the door, then propped it open. You just walked through it. Who made her the expert on family integrity when there's no problem needing a resolve? And who made her the relationship guru? You're in the right. Piece of advice I've used over the years and has been very effective. "Write it when you're hot, send it when you're not" You should write your response when you're ped but don't send it. Wait until you calm down, re-read it, and either send it, amend it, or del
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    DazzlingCutieeBaby • 7h Opening the floor for opinions is like opening Pandora's box, you can't just pick and choose which demons come out! NTA for letting your voice be heard in her little family debate club! 152
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    darlingssweet • 5h Honestly, your sister was outta line trying to shame you for how you live your life. She came for you, so you had every right to clap back. Might've been a bit harsh, but she needed to hear it. She should focus on her own stuff instead of judging you. ← Reply ✩ 663 ↓
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    TopAd7154 . 8h NTA. I may be way off the mark here but I get the feeling she was trying to plant a seed in your husband's mind that you aren't committed to your family and he'd be better off with someone else. Like her. Either way... reeks of jealousy and you are 100% NTA. Reply 21.5k
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    Disastrous-Panda5530 ⚫ 7h I came to say the same and looked to see if anyone else thought the same first. And this is right on the mark. This is exactly what I was thinking. She is trying to insert herself into her sister's marriage and take her place. Trying to plant that seed of doubt and offer herself as the perfect wife he needs and deserves. I hope OP keeps an eye on this snake 325
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    Jaded Tourist2057 • 6h 110% this. There are just sooo many things to this...
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    1. She says she is concerned for your husband and son? You're her sister! You should be the one she is concerned about. If she was truly concerned, she would have talked to you in private -AND- brought up her own failed. marriage herself to explain where she thinks things went wrong and wants you to learn from her mistakes and/or watch for warning signs of trouble in the marriage.
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    2. She rudely and aggressively criticized you in front of your whole family. THEN, when your husband tried to shut her BS down, she DOUBLED DOWN.
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    3. I think everyone understands why her husband left her. She is mean, insecure, has terrible logic, and possibly has a personality disorder. Maybe therapy would help? But she also sounds like the type person Mark Twain advises to avoid arguing with. ... 182
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    Jvfiber • 8h Nta and I'm glad dad made her leave and hubby stood up for you. Sounds like she doesn't want you to be happy and must destroy you to make herself feel better. Reply 1529
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    TorrieDenali • 8h There's a big difference between hitting someone and hitting someone BACK. NTA. She hit first. Reply 376
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    Straight_Coconut_317 • 8h NTA. She sounds incredibly jealous and insecure. Reply 126
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    Careless-Ad-6328.8h NTA Some people who are unhappy just want everyone around them to be unhappy too. Her marriage failed, so perhaps she wants yours to fail as well. She likely sees your life and success as a judgement on her own life. ← Reply 115
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    Useful-Commission-76 · 8h • What part of "I own several beauty salons with my husband" does sister not understand? Makeup, hair and nails are part of OP's work with her husband. Sister was criticizing OP's entire life. Reply 232
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