Pregnant wife takes rightful credit for gifts she purchased for family and friends after husband only buys 1 of 20 gifts on their list: ‘He was no help’

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    bought only one. And he told me that he would "take care of it" until the very last minute but eventually forgot, so I had to buy his sister and mother a present less than 24h before Christmas. After that, I 13
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    AITA for not putting my husband's name on gifts I bought on my own?
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    Throwaway account because I don't want him to see this. (27f) have been married to my husband (29m) for 3 years and we've been together since we were 18 and 19.
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    The first 2 years we had been together, when we were still pretty young and our relationship was new, we bought Christmas gifts separately (except in some rare cases). But
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    when we got pretty serious, we started making gifts from the both of us to other people. Since then, he has not once helped me buy the gifts. That includes gifts for my family, our friends, but even gifts for his family.
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    Occasionally, he would give me some ideas as to what the person would want, but that was still pretty rare and the ideas he gave were most of the time very vague. And even when he gave me
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    ideas, I was the one that bought the gifts and went Christmas shopping alone. I was fine with it at the beginning as I really enjoyed gift giving and finding the perfect ideas.
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    for everyone, but it's been 8 years of this and it's getting pretty exhausting. I've also evolved in my career since we got together, and now have way less free time to spend buying gifts.
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    So last year I asked before the holiday season if he could help this year and we'd each buy some of the presents. Out of maybe 20 people we bought gifts for, he bought only one. And he
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    told me that he would "take care of it" until the very last minute but eventually forgot, so I had to buy his sister and mother a present less than 24h before Christmas. After that, I
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    told him that I now expected help because this could not happen again as it was mentally and physically exhausting for me. So this year I bought half of the gifts and he was
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    supposed to buy the other half. He didn't. Yesterday I spent 7 hours at the mall trying to find the rest of the gifts and he was no help. I sometimes called him to ask if the person would
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    like a gift, if they already had it, or what he thought and he mostly said "I don't know", "maybe" and "whatever". I also have to add that I'm 6 months pregnant so this was extremely
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    exhausting. When I got home I was angry and tired and while wrapping the presents I decided that since he didn't help at all I wouldn't put his name on the presents. Usually we write
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    something like "from Mary and John" (not our real names), but I just wrote "from Mary". Today as we were packing all the gifts in the car to go to his parents's house he noticed that his
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    name wasn't on it. I explained it to him and said that he didn't help so he didn't get credit for what I bought. He keeps saying that it's unfair and that I'm gonna make him look bad, and asks that I
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    change it. I don't know if I should. Maybe this is petty but I don't know what else to do. I've asked for help many times and I'm just afraid he's never going to
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    change. Should I put his name? Am I mean for this? How can I make him understand how much I need help?
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    wrathof... 1d ago • • NTA, I just wouldn't buy them. Make sure your family is sorted and let him explain it to his.
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    • MerlinBiggs 1d ago. NTA. OMG! Your 6 months pregnant and he's leaving all the work and stress of buying presents to you! Leave his name off, and if anyone mentions it tell them exactly why. Let's see what his family have to say about leaving all that to the 6 months pregnant mother of his child.
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    Ali--625. 1d ago. NTA. Maybe being embarrassed in front of his family when they question why his name isn't on the gifts (please, if they ask, tell them the truth before he can chip in and make something up that will make him sound like the victim) is just the kick up the backside he needs to stop being lazy and expecting you to run around after him.
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    Arichu6 1d ago • NTA. Next time write "from Mary because John forgot"

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