Woman's ex-boyfriend impersonates her with fake blog 'documenting' her terrible behavior, she must prove she is not the author to stay in medical school

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    My (24F) ex-boyfriend (24M) made a website where he pretends to be me and posts blogs that show a disguting, terrible person. I'm in medical school, and they said I must prove it's him or I can't continue. Advice?

    The semi-realistic website was impersonating me and making me looking a terrible person. Because the website's domain name is "myname".com, it is the first thing that pops up when someone searches me. It is threatening my position in medical school and makes residency almost impossible.
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    My Ex-boyfriend (24M) and I (24F) were together for four years. We broke up the day my brother passed away when he refused to come support me at the hospital. I said I never wanted to talk to him again, and we didn't. It was bizarre and obviously traumatic because I desperately wanted to talk to him but he terrified me that day - it was so out of character.
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    Nine months later I find out that someone bought my name as a domain name and created a website and pretended to be me. The website was covered with black and white photos of me with my eyes blacked out and had 8 blog posts. Each of the posts was disgusting, terrifying, and inappropriate. The worst part is that they are really well written, which
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    makes them seem more real. So basically, the semi- realistic website was impersonating me and making me look like a disgusting sociopath and terrible person. Because the websites domain name is myname.com, it is the first thing that pops up when someone googles me.
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    I am currently in medical school, trying to become a doctor. I found out about this website because one of my mentors found it and sent it to me and the administration. Now it is threatening my position in medical school and makes residency almost impossible. Therefore, they told me I need to prove that it is him and not me. So, now to the computer
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    stuff: is there a way I can trace the IP back to his address or his computer (i have the serial number and stuff) if he is hiding via an amazon VPN sending the IP back to Seattle? I tried to do it through the nslookup via the computer terminal, but the IP numbers they gave both just said Amazon, Seattle....
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    I could also prove its him by showing he purchased myname.com, so I checked to see who purchased the domain on whois. Unfortunantly, he used a proxy company to purchase the domain from goDaddy, domainsbyproxy. I filed a claim with domainsbyproxy but they won't respond.
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    Today I found out that he has been logged into my iCloud on his laptop since the day I broke up with him, so he could see my texts, emails, social media updates, and photos live. I think he saw my texts, got jealous, and just wanted to hurt me.... Obviously, I got scared and removed his device and tried to reach out to him but he won't respond. I filed a
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    police report and went in to try to talk with a detective numerous times, but they won't even assign a detective to work on my case and I can't hire a lawyer because I am barely surviving on my loans as is. I feel stuck and I don't want to be. I just can't let this boy ruin everything I've worked so hard for, so I am trying to take a few steps on my own...
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    Does anyone have any advice? With the computer/ law stuff but also advice on how to move forward with all of these heavy, intense abandonment and trust problems he has given me? I thought I was going to marry him... I still love him... he was my best friend. We spent everyday together. And then he disappeared. I will never understand why he treated me this way.
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    TLDR: My (24F) Ex-boyfrnd (24M) made a website where he pretends to be me and posts blogs that make me look like a disgusting, terrible, sociopathic person. The website's domain name is myname.com, so it is the first thing that comes up on google. Im in medical school, and one of my mentors googled me and found out. The program directors said I have to prove its him or there is no point in continuing because I will never get into residencies. What can I do computer wise? And what can I do emotio
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    Alarmed_Jellyfish555 You need legal representation. This guy clearly isn't an amateur and put serious thought and effort into this whole thing. And we're talking about your career, one you've surely paid a fortune already to get into. Speak to someone at your school. Ask about any legal services, some schools do have them. Go to Reddit legal advice and ask them there. Ask around about legal aid.
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    Police are USELESS when it comes to situations like this. You won't get anywhere with them unless someone forces their hand, like a lawyer. Oh, and sue him for every cent he has or will have. I don't think you realize how serious this is. And a lawyer can hire a forensic accountant to prove he was behind all of this. Not only can a lawyer get this taken down, but you sure as h I would win damages for a stunt like this.
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    AnxietyOctopus Is there anyone at school who is in your corner? | agree with everyone else about getting better legal advice than we can offer, but in the meantime it might be worth trying to see if any of your advisors will go to bat for you (even just to get the school to hold off taking any action while you sort this out).
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    rebelwithmouseyhair Surely it should be up to the school to prove you are guilty not up to you to prove you are innocent? But you do need to have that website taken down.
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    theloric If your school has a technical computer department go walk over there and talk to a teacher or student or two in graduate studies ask them if there's any way they can trace back the IP and prove that it is this person that you will pay them money to do so someone might even offer to help you for free
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    maybe that one of the teachers can make it a project for their students for cybersecurity and the information they find will be used for a case and they would like this Go see and talk to somebody in the computer department at your school talk to a few people do not accept one answer help is out there
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    afirelullaby I am so sorry. Good advice here. Can anyone lend you the money for the cease and desist letter? I am so mad on your behalf. What a horrible person. Please don't let this weak man steal your fire and your light. What about a no win no fee lawyer who wants to take ab ive, crazy men down?
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    Sspmd11 I had this with an ex who created a site using my name. The legal system refused to do anything about it and she denied it. If he is using any photos or other material you own, copyright it. That's what I did. Then I sent the web provider a copyright infringement. That worked. I also sent it to google to pull it off the search engines.
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    Patrat_ko What he's doing is beyond messed up and just plain evil. Not only is he impersonating you and slandering your name, but he's also sabotaging your future in a way that could ruin everything you've worked for. This is straight-up harassment, and it's illegal.
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    You definitely need to get a lawyer, even if it feels impossible with your loans. This is identity theft, cyberstalking, and defamation. There are lawyers who will take cases like this on contingency or offer free consultations - you need to find one.
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    Document everything. Screenshot the website, save all your interactions, and keep the police report as evidence. If the police aren't being helpful, keep pushing. There are cybercrime units and advocacy groups for online harassment victims that can help you escalate things.
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    Emotionally, I know it's hard because he was such a big part of your life, but you need to recognize that this isn't about you. This is all about his inability to let go and his need to destroy you. This is not love.
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    You deserve someone who supports you, not someone who tries to ruin you. Cut him off completely mentally and physically. Block him, block the website, and stop engaging with him in any way.
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    You're strong, and you've come this far. Don't let him take away what you've worked so hard for. You will get through this. It's going to take time, but you've got this.

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