'I. Am. Livid': Woman receives a £20k+ inheritance from her adoptive parents, then her Golden Child biosister attempts to steal the money as comeuppance for ‘ruining their childhood’

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  • "I much preferred things when I could pretend she didn't exist"
  • "My sister seems to think she's entitled to my trust fund and lied to try and get it"

    My (38F) family is a little messed up. I essentially have/had 5 parents, and 3 different groups of siblings... It's a bit much. As a child, I was living in the US with my adoptive parents and a lot of sh went down that wasn't great, so I moved back to the UK when I was 9. I had a LOT of trauma and
  • the beginnings of a rather serious drug problem and so my US dad set up a trust for me before he di d so that anything mental health related was paid for and I didn't have to stress about being able to sort myself out as I got older. It's been rather handy over
  • the last 30 years, paying for a home when I was a teenager, therapy, rehab... Basically anything needed to help me not di. At some point in my teenage years, I made contact with my biological parents and their other kids, and was "welcomed" back
  • into the fold. Some of my full siblings had issues with this, fair enough, it was a big change to everyone's lives. My little sister (now early 30's) apparently found it particularly hard and so we've never got along and have been NC for almost a decade.
  • This has become particularly apparently in recent weeks after she contacted the solicitors who are in control of the trust, pretending to be from a rehab facility in the US. She sent them an "invoice" for a 3 month stay,
  • requesting payment to the bank account of a friend of hers in the US. The first I heard about this was a phone call from said solicitors offering their commiseration that I was due to enter the facility, wishing me luck and double checking the details.
  • I. Am. Livid. This is tens of thousands of pounds that she's tried to steal from me, money that she has absolutely no right to. She never met my adoptive parents, she's not "owed" any money from them, she's lived a perfectly
  • normal life with both of her parents, her other siblings, holidays, uni paid for, no big dramas. And she thinks she can just take from me because she wants to buy a house and thinks I should help her out because I "ruined her childhood". Except she can't even just ask, she has to try and steal it.
  • I have no idea what to do about this, because if I go to the police then it'll create even more drama in the family that I could do without, and I feel like thats exactly what she wants. Our parents will side with her, and she knows it. I don't want to give her
  • the satisfaction but I'm just so Imad that she chose this specific way to try and take what's not hers. It feels like such a low blow. Obviously she's getting sweet FA, but... ?!
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  • Update, I guess?: so this got pretty overwhelming pretty quickly. I'm balancing getting things done and I with not losing my mind which is always fun. Solicitors are reporting everything for me, as they are indeed required to do (turns out I'd misunderstood and
  • thought I had to get involved, but no, it's all on them) and I'm going to just let what happens happens. I'll be setting up a meeting at some point to go through all of the transactions made over the last 20 years or so just to make sure nothing else nefarious has gone on.
  • Triceratopsandfundip You really should go to the police. If she had the audacity to do this, there is no stopping her from escalating even more. If your parents side with her, that
  • is also useful information: you cannot trust them, and should be very careful around them (if not just cut them off). Do not let these people treat you like this. Family or not, you deserve respect.
  • LaLaLaLaLaLaLaLaLa- Wire/bank fraud is a felony. Let your solicitor be the bad guy and go after her. Meanwhile do whatever is necessary to lock down your personal information. Freeze your credit info. Change all of your passwords. Add an extra level of protection to your trust.
  • HistoricalMoment4041 This is her first attempt. Prepare for and expect more.
  • ConversationLoose502 There is nothing to do but to go to the police in this situation; how can you assure she wont try again?
  • Reasonable-Cat5767 This is a good point and one I've definitely been pondering for the last couple of weeks. I do feel like something needs to be done so she's put in her place but I'm wary of rocking the boat. I much preferred things when I could pretend she didn't exist

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