Man brings his 17-year-old daughter on vacation with girlfriend without telling her, she leaves the trip prematurely when he belittles her discomfort, reclaiming her boundaries: “I’m not even going to have a conversation with him”

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    AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend after he wanted to get his daughter to sleep in our bedroom during our road trip and never told me that she was spending the night?

    "He told me I ruined everything so I left"
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    My (F40) boyfriend (F39) and I took a road trip to celebrate my career milestone. I cut it short after 4 days and I'm currently leaning towards ending our relationship.
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    We planned it for 12 weeks. I covered the accommodations and he would cover meals and fuel. We were to leave by 6 am on the first day but he didn't show up until early in the afternoon after constantly telling me that he was already out of his house but then I had to call him because it doesn't take hours to get to my place. First
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    it was his family needing something, then he had to meet with a coworker, etc. By the time he showed up, I was furious and frustrated. We stopped for gas and he went to the public restroom and said to just fill it up ( on my dime) and he would take care of whatever else had to be purchased next time. He only covered one
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    meal that day and complained when I wanted some snacks.
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    On the 3rd day, he wanted to meet with his ex MIL and FIL (out of state) and pick his daughter up( 17F). His daughter lives in our town. I agreed, as we had talked about her spending most of the day with us. I was weirded out that she was carrying a backpack and found out (while driving) that he had invited her to stay with us ( in
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    our bedroom, without even asking me). I tried not to make a scene but I'm sure my face said it all. I told him privately that he needed to pay for a separate room so that she could stay with us. He blew up at me, accused me of being two faced and faking loving his kid.
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    He also accused me of having agreed to let her stay over but that's simply not true. I would have made arrangements for a small suite or connecting rooms or something. Our room had no spare bed, and we had planned on having every night. I would not be comfortable having to squeeze myself in bed with them because
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    he made a unilateral decision and I didn't want her to sleep on the floor both because of privacy and because it felt like a put down and it wasn't her fault. He said that I was creating situations and trying to burn a hole in his pocket, but he rented an extra room. He came back about 30 minutes later to get his toothbrush and some
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    belongings to go spend the night with his kid and slammed the door. I spent a horrible night both hoping that he would come back to work things out and feeling both guilty and very disrespected.
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    Next morning, she was nice as usual but he gave me the silent treatment. I tried to talk to him and he low key barked at me that I ruined everything and that I k lled all his attraction for me.
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    I tried to control myself and avoided crying but whenever I looked at him he looked angry and kind of going on a power trip. I asked if we could talk later and he buried his face into his phone. I drove his daugher back to her grandparents and kept driving back home and when he asked where I was going, I said the road
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    trip was canceled. I left him at his house and drove back to the rest of the trip but didn't enjoy it at all.
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    He called me several times but I didn't answer. I'm not even trying to punish him. I'm not gonna go over a conversation with someone who said he's not attracted to me. I already but all of his stuff in a box so that I can return all of his personal belongings.
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    I'm very confused. We've had arguments lije the next couple, but never like this. I'm rethinking and trying to figure out if not allowing his daughter in our bedroom was an insult or what. He has joint custody, so he sees her all the time. I'm also pred that maybe he wasn't planning on honoring our
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    agreement since I had to push him and remind him to buy our meals and fill.up.the tank. AITA?
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    mmaattxx • 15h ago NTA Your boyfriend's actions show a pattern of disrespect and lack of communication. He made major decisions (like inviting his daughter to stay overnight in your shared bedroom) without consulting you, which is a boundary
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    issue. His reaction anger, silent treatment, and accusing you of being two-faced was unfair and dismissive. Add to that his disregard for financial agreements during the trip and showing up late, and it's understandable why you feel frustrated. You're not obligated to stay in a
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    relationship where you feel disrespected or unimportant. Trust your instincts.
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    • sbg-sbg 14h ago NTA. You don't mention how long you have been with him, but his behavior was really obnoxious. Does he usually behave this way!?
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    Ok-Guarantee-4563 • 15h ago NTA. WHO invites their 17year old daughter to stay the night and doesn't get an extra room? He's tossing red flags at you !
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    twisdava ⚫14h ago NTA. Girl, he turned your career milestone trip into "The Adventures of His Ex-MIL, Daughter, and Budget Gas Fill-ups" without even consulting you. He wanted a slumber party with his daughter in YOUR shared
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    bedroom, and now he's mad that you ruined his power trip? Sounds like he needs a co-pilot for his life's chaos, not a girlfriend.
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    Also, let's not ignore the fact that he contributed less to this trip than the free peanuts at a gas station. You deserve better than this man-child who treats joint custody like an excuse to ambush your plans. Pack his box, return it, and move on with your life.

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