‘She was NOT invited’: Woman demands she attends the 10-person destination wedding of a distant relative, ‘very confrontational’ brother steps in to save the day

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Jan 27, 2025 8:00 PM EST

When planning a wedding, one of the biggest stressors is the guest list. It is not just about inviting everyone you want to be there, but also about making sure you invite the right amount of people within your budget and that the people you love the most are there. That means best friends, close family members, and maybe +1s for them. Distant relatives, friends of friends, and co-workers are most definitely last on the list—and that should be understood. With how expensive weddings are these days, there should be no hard feelings if you weren't invited to your brother's cousin's daughter's wedding. Like… That feels like it should be common knowledge, no?

 

Apparently not, because some relatives get FOMO no matter what—even if they are told, straight to their faces, that they are not wanted at said event. Take, for instance, this distant relative who took the meaning of "annoying" to a new level all because she wanted to attend the wedding of her cousin's daughter. If it was a wedding with no limit to their budget, then sure, why not? But since it was a very small destination wedding with only 10 people on the guest list, she was told over and over again that she was NOT invited. Some how, that did not compute…

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    Don't you worry, though, because with every crazy Karen relative there is a closer relative that will stand up for you. In this case it was the "very confrontational and authoritative" brother. This annoying cousin-once-removed showed up uninvited to every pre-wedding event and disturbed the peace. So, when it came to the night before, when the brother was finally there, he made sure to menacingly get right up in her face and tell her she better not be at the wedding because she was NOT invited… 

  • I had a very small destination wedding about 10 hours from my hometown, but only two hours from a fairly major city, which is where most of the guests flew into. It is also where my dad's cousin and her husband live. This woman is one of the most insufferable, outspoken, overbearing people I've ever met in my life, and I wouldn't have wanted her at my wedding even if it had been a much larger wedding with a much MUCH larger guest list.
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  • She pestered my parents. relentlessly about coming to the wedding, to which to the reply was always "sorry, we are not allowed to have more than x number of people on the property including photographers, caterers, etc. and simply cannot facilitate any further wedding guests." We should have known then how desperate she was to come, but figured it would eventually sink in that she would not be attending no matter how she begged.
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  • Months later, my mom and I drove into the town where the wedding is would be two days prior to begin preparations. As a compromise of sorts, we told this cousin that we would meet her and her husband for dinner and catch up if they wanted to make the drive over the evening we arrived. BIG MISTAKE. They very much did want to drive over and meet us for dinner, so we grabbed a bite with them and tried to part ways....only to be told that they (totally
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  • spontaneously and not at all with an agenda) went ahead and booked a hotel and just decided to make a weekend getaway of it. Dad's cousin once again tried to force her way into getting a wedding invite for herself and her husband, and we reiterated that she could not attend. We prayed ways and I hoped that might be the end of it. If only that had been the case.
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  • The next morning my family and the bridal party started arriving. My mom and I left our hotel to walk around town and then meet up with my brother and his family, who I had not seen in about a year and was beyond excited to reunite with. Moments before their arrival, who comes strolling up? Yep - dad's cousin, who immediately inserted herself into the reunion with my family and interjecting herself SO LOUDLY the entire time. It just absolutely ruined an otherwise sweet and wonderful moment.
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  • We said our goodbyes to her, but instead, she decides to attach herself to us and followed us everywhere the entire rest of the morning and afternoon, forcing herself into every subsequent reunion and festivity.
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  • The worst moment that finally pushed me over the edge came during a late lunch. We'd been walking around all day and I was getting tired and hungry and crabby, so my SIL, bridesmaids and I found an adorable little taco place with a beautiful patio and decided to grab a bite to eat outside. She followed us in and sat right down with us, then proceeded to comment on every single thing I did for the entire meal. The two comments that still
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  • sick out were "you're sure going to be a beautiful lobster with the sunburn you're going to get eating outside like this" as we sat fully shaded under two huge umbrellas, and, after I ordered two street tacos "I guess making sure you fit into your dress never occurred to you if you're going to be eating all of THAT!"
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  • At this point my bld was boiling, and I was genuinely becoming convinced she was showing up at my wedding the next day one way or another no matter what we told her, so I stood up after paying and told her it was going to be bridal party only from that point forward and we booked it out, leaving her behind.
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  • It would be so great if that were the end, but she and her husband genuinely did show up at the venue that evening, gifts in hand, moments before the rehearsal dinner started. They were fully dressed and ready to be a part of the event. She went around to every single person there, telling them about how much it would mean to her to be there at the wedding, and said no less than 10 times, "I promise I don't even have to be in the room. I would be more than happy to stand outside looking in the w
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  • only just watch!" Finally, God bless him, my very confrontational and authoritative brother stepped in and reminded her in no uncertain terms that she was NOT invited and would NOT be showing up. She finally left and thankfully we did not hear from her again that weekend.
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  • She did however show up at my house years later while visiting other family in town because she knew I'd had my son recently and she "just had to meet him". Then the very next day texted us to tell us she tested positive for co id that morning. Have not seen her since, really really don't want to see her again, though she has a knack for popping up no matter how hard you try to avoid her.
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  • melloyelloaj This makes me so angry on your behalf! Hellfire Me OP She is really something special! Last year my dad had a bad accident while on a trip, and she called me and my mom CONSTANTLY trying to get info from us. She tried to disguise it as concern, but we all knew she just gets off on being the first to know all the tea so she can make sure and tell everyone else. There was a lot of call screening going on, let me tell you.
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  • Slipping About There's FOMO and then there's your dad's cousin. Hellfire Me OP Truly next level. BrownSugarBare Entirely VOID of shame, good lord. OP had a lot more patience and grace than most.
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  • ScumBunny Why would she even want to be someplace where she is so obviously disliked? Complete lack of self awareness? Who attaches themself to a bridal party?? She has zero couth. ChoreomaniacCat Offering to peep in the windows all night while everyone else celebrates inside because you aren't invited is next level desperation. Incredibly embarrassing.
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  • RU_screw One of my cousins had a small destination wedding that was just perfect. One of my aunts, not at all related to the cousin that was getting married, decided that she just had to attend. Without talking to the bride or groom, she booked herself tickets and got a hotel in the same spot. She was Pikachu shocked when she was told that she wouldn't be allowed to attend the festivities saying (and I directly quote) "but I came all the way out here for you!" No one asked you to do that lady!
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  • grumpymuppett Two tacos would make you not fit into your dress? gurl how big were those tacos and give me the name of the place so I can get some
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  • Jerseygirl2468 Of all the towns to have your wedding in... "I guess making sure you fit into your dress never occurred to you if you're going to be eating all of THAT!" That's one of those times when you can bust out with fake, over the top crying and make a scene "How could you SAY that to ME!?!?" and everyone should have shamed her.
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  • mjlmf2018 I will never understand why people would want to be at an event they are not invited to or wanted at. Just awkward for everyone and very r de! crimsonbaby_ I mean, it would be so embarrassing for me to be somewhere Im obviously not wanted. Especially if I invited myself! How is she not totally and completely embarrassed? I dont get it!
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