16-year-old yells at her mom for accusing her of being pregnant, mom refuses to take her to the doctor to find out the real reason for her medical issues: 'If you’re not pregnant you should have nothing to worry about'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Jan 27, 2025 6:00 PM EST

It's easy to jump to pregnancy when your teenage daughter says, "I have something to tell you." There is always some possibility of it happening, and as a parent, you have to be prepared to handle it. But just because your teenager is throwing up in the morning, gaining weight, or has missed a couple of periods does not mean that she is pregnant. Those can definitely be signs, but if a teenager is having major health problems and insists that there's no way she could be pregnant, it's best not to ignore those signs of major medical events. 

If you think your teen daughter might be pregnant, it can be a complex subject to broach in a calm and non-confrontational way. It can get especially awkward if the teen is insistent that there's not a chance she could be pregnant. A pushy but responsible mom might make her take a pregnancy test if she's not quite sure she's telling the truth. Better safe than sorry. 

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  • Unfortunately, the mom in this story didn't make a safe move. She instead insisted that her not-pregnant 16-year-old daughter was pregnant but didn't take her to the doctor or ever get her to take an at-home pregnancy test. She listened to her daughter's distressing medical symptoms and did nothing to help her. 

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    AITA for yelling at my mom for insisting I’m pregnant?

    okay so i dont really know where to start, sorry if this is a little brief or TMI lol. i (16 f) am very late on my period, and i believe it is just stress related because i have literally not had any sexual interaction w anybody, all i do is go to my friends (who is also a female) house and work... but
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    once i told my mom my period is late she instantly jumps to the conclusion of me being pregnant, and when i bring up the fact that it is literally impossible, she shrugs it off and still insists im pregnant. and somehow whenever i bring up how and why this is unlikely, she gets more upset. today i was bringing up
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    that i am still late, and she starts yelling at me being "pregnant", so i asked her who she thinks would have possibly gotten me pregnant, since she knows i am single and literally have only female friends, and she just shrugs it off and continues yelling at me, and told me "well if you're
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    not pregnant you should have nothing to worry about if you're not pregnant." As if trying to insist that I wouldn't have to keep defending myself so hard if I wasn't pregnant? For some reason, this caused me to snap
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    because I am tired of being accused of something that literally isn't true and making me feel really about myself. After I told her off, she shoved past me and hasn't spoken to me since. AITA in this situation?
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    tinyahjumma Y'all, let's not berate this young person for talking to her mom about this. It's concerning to miss your period. If it's stress, that's pretty alarming to be so stressed that your hormones go out of whack. Same if it's not enough body fat. And heaven forbid it's something else.
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    OP, NTA, and that's super weird your mom is acting like this. Does she frequently get irrational and yell at you? If there is another adult you can tell, feel free. Planned parenthood can also help. They do women's health, not just reproduction stuff.
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    Cute Tangelo3137 It's not abnormal for a teenager to have a late period. Mine weren't regular until I was around 20. The alarming part is her mother screaming at her that she's pregnant. What a terrible traumatizing way to parent.
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    tinyahjumma Yeah, the mom is awful. But I was seeing comments from people here telling OP to keep it to herself. She's still a child. She deserves someone who will listen to her concerns.
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    Mysterious_Peas You nailed it. She is still a child and her mother's response is honestly bizarre. OP, does your mom want you to be pregnant? I had an acquaintance back in the day who wanted her 15-year-old to get pregnant so she could be
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    a "young grandma." I thought she was mental until I understood her history- she had her daughter at 15, and her mother had her around the same age. It was tres weird but my acquaintance grew up in a space where this was "normal.”
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    Liraeyn Or she want her daughter to screw up (in her eyes) by getting pregnant that young, so she can lord it over her.
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    EffectiveOne236 NTA. And you should see a doctor. Your mom should be more concerned if you're saying you're really late and not pregnant. You could have a hormone issue, cysts, fibroids, any number of issues that should be treated. It's almost like she wants you to be pregnant because she's not even mad that you're pregnant, just instant that you are. Bad parenting right there.
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    Class 3ssAmerican Your mom is being mentally/emotionally ab ive to you. You likely have experienced this for so long it feels normal, but it is NOT normal. You are 16 and your mom is less mature than you it would appear. It is very hard to not have a good support system when you're young. There will come a time that you will have that support and kindness. I'm sorry your mother is not the person you deserve. Just know that most people are trying their best, and hopefully she improves as a person
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    blueavole This is really it. Mom is not a safe person to discuss body/ health issues with. If she really thought OP was pregnant, a home pregnancy test would be a simple check. Then ask if it's happened before. Maybe get some standard things checked like iron levels.
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    Solwyrm When my period stopped at 13, I had a massive tumor on my right ovary. Everyone assumed I was pregnant then, too, but I was a virgin. Make your mom take you to a doctor. Mine didn't believe me until the tumor was so big I looked pregnant and I had to have major abdominal surgery with a huge incision to get it all out. Messed my belly up for years until I got reconstructive surgery on it.
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    LowBalance4404 How late are you? Are we talking it's now day 35 or it's now day 68? I ask because if it's longer than normal late, you can kill two birds with one stone and go to the dr. You can have a pregnancy test so your mother stops with this and you can also get bld work done to make sure you aren't anemic or have a vitamin deficiency And NTA. Your mom is being over the top.
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    basxmenteyes NTA. My period was all wonky when I was that age (I have PCOS and my mom does too so at least she understood and that wasn't a problem) I would probably see if you could prove it to her that you're not pregnant by taking a pregnancy test (although I wouldn't be surprised if she accuses you of faking it so maybe take it in front of her or have a doctor administer the test *if thats something you're comfortable with*), or maybe talk to a trusted adult (dad, guidance counselor, family
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    LegDayLass Maybe you are carrying Jesus 2.0 Oh, and NTA obviously.
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    Apricot Bumblebee This is the real answer. Announce to anyone who will listen you are carrying the next Jesus because you're late and she won't accept anything but pregnancy, so it must be immaculate conception. This is a joke of course. The situation sounds volatile enough without the added sarcasm. But I think I'd be tempted...
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    THE_FIESTY AMBIVERT Had this same thing happened to me when I was 13 years old, and my period was about 3 months late. Everything minus the yelling. I was a kid who was never allowed to go anywhere, much less being allowed to interact with boys. It was school - home, church home, and that was my life throughout my - childhood and teen years.
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    I wasn't even allowed to walk to the shop by myself. Maybe twice in my whole teen years was I allowed to walk to the shop by myself. And to say that that was considered a treat for me is an understatement, but somehow, my mother was convinced I was somehow pregnant. By who? Especially when I was shared shitless of my mother back then, and if I really were to fall pregnant, she would end me. Why would I knowingly put myself in that situation?
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    I didn't really even talk to boys, much less have with anyone. I was so very awkward and such a shy kid and lacked so much self-confidence that it wasn't even funny. Not to mention that I was considered "ugly" by the kids in school because my hair was cut short like a boy and also because of my complexion. Good enough to talk to or be friendly with, but not good enough for boys to be interested in. I would get all giddy by just saying "hi" to a boy. I was that awkward.
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    Anyway, my mother ended up calling my God mother, who is her first cousin, to tell her "the news." And then my God mother, who I call "aunty", comes over and goes on to preach to me about how I was too young to have a baby and that taking care of a child so young would not be easy. She went on to say how her own daughter (her daughter was already an adult by the time she told this story) got pregnant when she was 16, and how hard it was for her back then. I was
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    so upset because no matter how much I tried to explain myself to them both, I could see in their face and behaviour that they didn't believe me. I went through all that just for me to get my period about a week later. Of course, my mother never apologized to me. I am currently in my mid-30s, still childless, and sometimes I remember my mother accusing me of being pregnant at 13. So, I wrote this whole a long comment to say, "I understand you."
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