Woman stops cooking for entitled mother-in-law after she says ‘I guess this is edible’ about her meal, husband takes mother's side: ‘I’ve bitten my tongue for years’

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  • "AITA for Telling My Husband I Won’t Cook for His Mom Anymore?"

    My MIL (64F) has never liked me (30F). She's polite when my husband (35M) is around, but when we're alone, she constantly makes passive aggressive
  • comments. If I wear makeup, I'm "trying too hard" If I don't I "look tired" If I buy something nice for myself I'm "wasting money" But the worst part? She critiques everything I cook.
  • Despite this I've always cooked for her. She lives alone so my husband invites her over three times a week to "make sure she's eating well" I wouldn't mind if she were appreciative, but she never is.
  • No matter what I make, she always finds something wrong. "This soup could use more seasoning" (after I followed her exact recipe lol), "The chicken is a little dry" (when I made her favorite dish), "You put cheese in this? That's not how I'd do it"
  • I've bitten my tongue for years to keep the peace, but last week was the final straw. I spent two hours making homemade lasagna, including fresh pasta and a special sauce. When she took a bite, she sighed and said "I guess this is edible".
  • I put my fork down and said "I'm done. From now on if you don't like my cooking, you can make your own meals".
  • She looked shocked and then burst into tears. She told my husband I had "humiliated her at the dinner table" and that she didn't feel welcome in our home anymore.
  • Instead of defending me, my husband immediately took her side. He said I was overreacting and that "She's just old fashioned, she doesn't mean anything by it" I told him that just because she's older doesn't give her a free pass to insult me every time she eats at our house.
  • Now she refuses to eat at our home unless my husband cooks which he rarely does (lowkey a win). She's also started making passive aggressive remarks about "not wanting to be a burden" and "how sad it is to eat alone in old age"
  • My husband is furious with me for "ruining family dinners" and insists that I should just let it go because "that's just how she is" But I refuse to spend hours cooking for someone who goes out of her way to sh on me. AITAH?
  • PrincessXTenderrr NTA. You've been incredibly patient. Constructive criticism is one thing, but your MIL's comments are consistently mean and designed to make you feel inadequate. It's your home too, and you shouldn't have
  • to endure that kind of treatment. Your husband's refusal to acknowledge his mother's behavior and his expectation that you should just "deal with it" is the bigger problem here. It's perfectly reasonable to set boundaries.
  • helenaflowers NTA, but please realize you have a husband problem much more than you have a MIL problem. Yes, MIL is ride, but your husband is the one not only enabling her behavior to you but angry at you for not enabling her too.
  • I'd bet money that this isn't the only example of your husband coddling his mother at your expense. If your husband doesn't want his mother to eat alone, he can either take on more of the cooking or go run to his mommy's house and eat there. Maybe sometime he'll just decide to stay there, which honestly sounds like a win for you.
  • ArrivalFantastic4... Your MIL took your kindness and effort for granted so now it's perfectly reasonable for your husband to be the one to cook for her. NTA
  • lemonvanilla00 NTA. You didn't ruin family dinners.. your MIL did by turning every meal into a criticism session. You finally set a boundary, and now she's acting like you threw her out onto the streets. And your husband? If he's so worried about her eating, he can pick up a spatula.
  • katiemurp What a lot of horse hockey. I'm older than her and have way better manners. Tell your husband to defend you or never have his mother over for meals again. Di on that hill. There is no excuse to put up with her crop.
  • Bunnawhat13 She has had 64 years to learn manners, if she was old fashion she would have them. She absolutely means something by it and your husband is just as bad and should cook for himself as well. NTA.
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