29-year-old's parents advise him to keep 28-year-old girlfriend's name off the deed of their first house due to her irresponsible spending habits, her parents insist otherwise: "She needs a safety net"

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    Am I the AH for not wanting to put my girlfriend on deed of house I'm purchasing?

    "It's none of her parents' business."
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    I've (29M) started looking at houses to purchase in the past few weeks with the assistance of my parents, who just sold my childhood home and downsized. They will be helping add to down
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    payment with a very generous amount. I currently live with my girlfriend (28F) of 3 1/2 years, have lived together for over 2 years, she will be moving in to the house as well.
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    In my girlfriend's excitement about this she mentioned it to her parents. Her parents have insisted that she should be on the deed of this house. When my girlfriend first brought it up after they spoke she used the phrase "she needs a safety
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    net". This took me back cause it made me feel like it's a plan for a breakup. My dad is not having it at all. He says the money is and advance on my inheritance, and even though he likes her, he doesn't want to split it 50/50 with my GF. He thinks it's none of her parents business and it's only between me, him and, my mom.
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    I do believe I will marry my girlfriend but we've had some persistent issues that I wanna see resolved, or worked on before I take that next step. Most of them are money which is the leading cause of divorce
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    even over infidelity. Things like Amazon spending, being irresponsible with a credit card, and not holding down a job. We've been in this apartment together for 30 months and she has worked for about 8 of those. When she worked she did contribute to bills.
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    This was so exciting when we first started looking and there was never even a question about her ownership of house. In my eyes it was always our house Now I feel so anxious and like I don't want to even move forward with it. AITAH for wanting to keep only my name on the deed of this house?
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    Edit: Thankyou to everyone who responded. I never had a post that blew up on any platform so this was kinda nuts, should have turned my email notifications off earlier.
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    I live in South Carolina for all the people mentioning common law marriages it seems that those ended and the only ones valid are from before 2019. Definitely will still look into speaking to an attorney about what I need to do moving forward to ensure this house stays solely mine.
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    I won't make excuses for my GF cause she could be putting more effort in. She has diabetes, it affects her vision, and has impacted her driving abilities. The 8 months she worked she was doing overnights 8pm-4am cause I was able to drop her off and she
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    took a Lyft or uber home. She has been seeing doctors and trying to get things under control so she can regain that independence of getting around. That will open up a lot more options of job for her that doesn't have to work around my schedule.
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    I knew her parents were overstepping a boundary with this whole thing but after all your responses | know I'm in the right. I will not entertain any conversation of it, and make sure that my GF is standing together with me on that if she wants this relationship to continue.
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    I love my GF, she is my best friend, and we have an amazing relationship. I believe in her to get her sh together and get her spending under control.
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    Far_Information_9613 NTA. There are reasons you aren't married yet. Use some of the money for pre-marital counseling. It's time to resolve this or move on.
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    LOVING-CAT13 And to add to this OP you had better consider a pre and post-nupt if you do eventually marry. I'm a woman and my fiance and I both want this, talk about it openly like adults bc we don't want to be able to screw each other if something goes sideways. Bc we love eachother.
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    Wifeof Wizard Agree to wait on putting her on the deed. You can always add her after y'all get married (if you decide to do that). Regarding a safety net - that's HER responsibility, not yours. If she/her parents
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    are worried about her being left homeless or not having legal recourse via the living arrangement - you can always draft up a formal rental agreement for your girlfriend, so she has the safety of a formal agreement about your living arrangements.
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    antfuzz Please listen to your father.
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    soyeah_87 Nta. Do NOT put her on the deed. Especially as she is financially irresponsible and cant hold down a job. Sounds like her parents want her latched onto to a meal ticket.
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    Chefnick500 Either she contributes and gets a stake in the house or, she doesn't.. No money, no share .. make that very plain.. and it's an equal share or nothing .. protect your investment
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    Rainygleam NTA. Your parents are helping you, the house should be in your name. Her parents can gift her money if they want her to have a stake.
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    evilmrbeaver I would develop a new plan. Have the house in your father's name. That way, if there is any trouble she will not have any claim to the house or it's value or try to claim your relationship as common law.
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    WolfOfKebab I can promise that you will regret it if you do it.
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    Juxaplay I have had more sales blow up at the closing table because an ex wanted more money or just flat out refused to sign to be difficult. Not saying when it is divorce it doesn't happen, but seems like the divorce decree spells it out and is smoother than non married joint owners.
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    ThatWhichLurks782 NTA unless she is contributing a sizeable amount to the down payment and paying monthly with you toward the mortgage. Since she sounds chronically unemployed, it's better not to add her to the deed until after you get married.

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