“You have one week to pay $20,000 or move out”: Mother betrays daughter financially when daughter’s forced out of the home she spent thousands on, she refuses to allow her to see grandchildren in retaliation

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    AITA for refusing to let my kids see my mother after she sold the home I paid for?

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    For nearly nine years, I lived in and paid for a home under the agreement that once it was paid off, my mother would transfer the title to me. The home was in her name, but I covered the mortgage, lot rent, and all expenses. I also put my own money into renovations and repairs like new flooring, light
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    fixtures, refinishing cabinets, replacing appliances, and fixing the oven.
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    My mom originally bought the home in 2015, planning to leave her husband. When she changed her mind about the divorce, she offered it to me, saying it was a great way to "invest my money into something for my future." I agreed and moved in, believing I was working toward ownership.
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    The Roof & Her Changing the Terms In 2022, my roof started leaking. I called my mom for advice, but she didn't know anyone who could do small repairs. My boyfriend at the time (who had roofing experience) helped me fix it, and I paid for all the materials.
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    Later, she insisted on sending out someone she knew to check the roof. Since the home was in her name, I couldn't stop her. She then decided to have the entire roof replaced without my consent. When I asked about the cost, she brushed it off, saying, "Don't worry, God always provides."
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    In early 2023, she suddenly demanded $3,000 for the roof, despite never discussing payment beforehand. I told her this felt unfair, since I never agreed to it. I offered to make monthly payments, but she was furious.
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    Her Final Ultimatum By early 2024, I was less than $3,500 away from fully paying off the home. I was ready to be done with all the drama. But then, in February 2024, my mom raised the roof cost by another $1,500, bringing it to $4,500, and added
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    other random fees, telling me I had one week to pay over $20,000 or move out. I was stunned. I asked why, and all she said was, "The choice is yours to make you just have to decide what path to take." No explanation -just an ultimatum.
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    When I refused, she started making my life h I. In April 2024, she showed up unannounced and refused to leave until the police made her. At that point, I had no choice-l packed up my kids and moved out on May 1st, 2024. Not long after, she sold the home I had spent nearly a decade paying for, keeping all the money for herself.
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    My Family Thinks I Should "Move On" Now, my family says I'm the bad guy for cutting her off and "keeping her grandkids away." But my kids want nothing to do with her-they were old enough to understand what happened and felt just as betrayed as I did.
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    To make things worse, she has been showing up uninvited to my kids' events and causing scenes. I'm now looking into legal options to keep her away, as I don't want her forcing her way back into their lives.
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    My family says I should "just move on" because "it's not worth losing family over." But I can't just forget about all the money I put into that home. It's been almost a year, and I am now seeking legal advice. because I refuse to let her get away with it.
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    I feel like I owe her nothing at this point, but my family keeps guilt- tripping me, saying I'm being too harsh. AITA for refusing to let my kids see my mother and not just "moving on" like my family wants me to?
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    . Srvntgrrl_789 ⚫ 3h ago NTA, and screw what your family says. I saw on another Reddit post that "moving on" and "keeping the peace" translate to "shut up and take the ab e so we can maintain the
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    status quo". Your mother cheated YOU and YOUR CHILDREN out of a home you paid for, and made better. Tell your mom the next time the kids will visit her will be at her funeral.
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    TwilightSprits 3h ago NTA. Your mother financially abused you and betrayed your trust. You're justified in cutting her off and pursuing legal action. Your family is wrong.
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    Valu... 3h ago • Edited 3h ago Send her a cease and desist letter telling her to leave you and your kids alone if she doesn't then got to the police and file charges for harassment. Also talk to your kids schools inform them that she is not allowed near your
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    kids. And as for your family ask them what they would do if they had a deal with someone and that person. kept changing the terms to the point where you had to walk away. See what they say
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    MBiddy828 ⚫3h ago If the amount of money you invested in the house is so insignificant to the rest of your family they can reimburse you. It would help you get over it. You are NTA
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    Ok_Chance 1036 • 3h ago For starters if you have proof that the property was going to be yours and proof of payments then you can take her to court. If she makes out that wasn't the agreement, it was just a 'rental' you can take her to court because raising
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    rent by 200% is illegal! Ask your family members if they are willing to give you the money that you put into a house, so you can have the permanent home you were paying for and expecting for you and your children, if not then they can tell their story walking. Just let them know
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    that you don't associate with liars and thieves or the people who brush off or enable that behaviour, and then block and ignore them all, they are not family, they are criminals and criminal enablers and if they were so concerned about family, why aren't they showing any concern for you
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    or your CHILDREN. It's a cruel heartless despicable person who knowingly steals from or screws over kids, so no your Mum doesn't deserve to have contact with your kids as she has already shown she doesn't care for them. Get all the your ducks in a row, get a lawyer and get back what is rightfully yours.

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