Mother-in-law calls her son 73 times during his wife's C-section because she wanted him to leave the hospital and go to her because she's sick: 'I told her it's not my fault she married and had kids with a deadbeat and to leave us alone'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Feb 22, 2025 4:00 PM EST

I hate it when people don't take care of themselves when they fully could if they wanted to. If you're an adult and you get mildly sick, you can figure out how to get to the doctor and take care of your needs without someone tending to you at all times.  There are some exceptions when you are having a medical emergency and need the help of others, but 98% of the time, you should be able to take care of yourself. 

It's incredibly frustrating when someone treats a situation like an emergency, even when it's clearly not, and gets agitated when others don't do the same. I can't stop anyone from getting too angry when they get the wrong topping on their pizza delivery, but they can't make me act like it's the end of the world. Delusional people are always trying to convince others that their worldview is 

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  • The grandma in this story is one of those people. She decided that the day her daughter-in-law was having a C-section was the perfect day to call her son over 70 times, asking him to come over and take care of her minor illness. This continued until her daughter-in-law finally put her in her place. 

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    AITA for telling my MIL it's not my fault she married a deadbeat and to figure it out?

    So I'm 25 and my husband is 28. We just had our first baby 4 days ago. I've just been released from the hospital yesterday.
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    My MIL is bombarding my husband with calls because she's old and sick and wants him to take care of her. My husband took 2 weeks off work to stay home with me and the baby to care for me after the C-section and bond with our daughter. MIL took that as him being free and available and refuses to acknowledge that he's not on vacation.
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    It hasn't been easy. There were complications and I lost a lot of bl_d. I'm in a lot of pain to the point where I can't even stand up on my own. Our baby is very fussy and crying a lot. We're not really sleeping because she literally cries every hour.
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    The first time MIL called was literally 3 minutes after I gave birth and wanted him to go to her because she wasn't feeling well. She kept calling every hour when I was still in the hospital. My husband stayed with me the entire time because like I said I lost a lot of bl_d and wasn't feeling well. He put his phone on
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    DND and didn't turn it on until i was discharged. We were still in the hospital parking lot when she called, he answered and when he explained the situation she lost her absolute mind and he ended the call. She hasn't stopped calling him and he blocked her number last night at 4am after 73 calls from her.
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    She started calling me this morning and I tried to be polite but after 15 calls between 7am and 3pm where she called me names, yelled at me and insulted me I snapped and told her to leave us alone because we have a newborn at home. She said she doesn't understand why he can't go to her because her husband
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    never took care of her after she gave birth and wasn't really involved with the kids until they were 3-4 years old and i told her it's not my fault she married and had kids with a deadbeat and to leave us alone and figure her own sh out like an adult.
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    My husband is on my side but we're obviously biased considering the amount of stress we're under at the moment so I'm asking because I don't know if it's just the stress and the hormones and we're actually the problem or she is out of her mind to expect my husband to leave me alone at home in this condition.
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    I'm posting here because I need unbiased opinions, i feel like an a for what i said and even if it's deserved i shouldn't have worded my frustrations better.
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    lapsteelguitar JFC. Your MIL has issues, and it's not on you & your hubby to solve them. Don't answer when she calls. Cut off the conversation when she starts her sh, if/when you talk to her. ΝΤΑ
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    pourthebubbly Right? She clearly had enough energy to call 6000 times a day, so she can't feel that bad. I suspect she's not really sick and just wants the attention from OP's husband. It's pretty convenient that she "got sick" on the day of OP's c-section (which tend to be scheduled in advance). She just wants him to choose her over OP and their child.
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    Nosey Neighbor1113 Thisssss. She's having a narcissist tantrum from not being chosen over his wife and baby.
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    Difficult-Signal4867 NTA, your mil is behaving entitled and congratulations on the baby.
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    Goblinking79 Entitled and insane. Block her. Don't unblock until you can walk. If she still acts like a crazy person, block her again. Rinse and repeat until she learns to not act insane.
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    Many_Monk708 | agree with the insane part too. She's just losing her mind! And kudos to DH for standing up to her and protecting you. She will and up completely alone if she keeps this up, with no relationship with her grand baby. FAFO
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    Apart_Foundation1702 Right! If she's so sick she should call a doctor or get home help or move into an nursing home. A new parent is not home help they are a living zombie trying to survive day by day, with the huge adjustment and no sleep (trust me, I've been there). This lady is ride, entitled and quite possibly narcissistic. NTA
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    Frequent Couple5498 Also she said kids - my husband never helped me with kids - plural. So where are her other kids, OP's husband's siblings for her to call and harass? Why the one who just had a baby?
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    Lazy-Instruction-600 And notice that, nowhere in there, did she inquire about OP or the baby! Most grandparents are being pushy to see the newborn and would risk baby's life with a cold just to put sloppy kisses all over them! I don't know which is worse now.
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    OogiTheLastAirBison MIL cuts OP and her husband off Uno reverse card!!
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    FOxxfyre I wonder if this might be the first grandchild... I had someone in my life who was a narcissist and their issues often and took attention and emotional energy away from others.
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    Arietis24 I think your husband needs to tell her, very firmly, that he's going no contact for a while. If she starts back at it, in a few weeks, go no contact again, for longer this time. You both need to focus on your health and your baby. NTA, of course.
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    Soggy_Sun 7646 Your mother in law has some serious mental health issues. She needs to learn that she is not the center of the universe. Most parents would appreciate that you are in a difficult situation and try to help you... not the other way around. Good on you for setting her straight. I would set limits with her and go low contact until she can begin to act like an adult! NTAH
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